How do I let go?

Here's the story...I've known this guy for a long time now..weve been off and on for years now but never really official..he's dissapointed me many times..but I think over the years I've grown to love him...I mean I dont want to but I think about him all the time..and I've realized that he's the one I want to be with...How do I push him away when he always comes back to me knowing I want to be with him?

i know that feeling of not wanting to but thinking of the person all the time...
by what uve said it seems like he doesnt respect u the way u should be respected...over the last one week iv realised that if i deserve someone who loves me like i do, respects me like i should be, wants to be with me, gives me an important place in his life like i would give him an important place in my life...its not fair to be in a relationship where u give more then u get...
u deserve someone like that too...think of that, think that that someone who u deserve is out there, and ur going to be happy with him someday..and let go...

don't worry..i'm sure god has his own reason for this one!!--lolx...but it happens..i'v also fallen wid a guy...even wen i no he don't..and he always used to come to me..noing i luv him..but now guess wat?..i'm over him!!..

i'v found myself a guy.who loves me..even tho he's a shy guy..lol...

Love always has a reason when love chooses a partner for you..

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i'm sory if u can't help falling inluv with him..but u can continue ur love..but jsut don't say yes to him wen he "codes" u again..jsut treet him as a fren..even tho inside u can't help but ache for him...if u do wat i say
u'r feelign for him will slow down..
co'z dat's wat i did..

thats very good advice...im doing the same thing too...trying to relate to him with no strings attached...and i can feel my feelings slowing down...

Start to ignore his calls. Tell him youll call him back, but then dont. Wait a few moments before answering ims. Hell catch on, and it wont hurt him.

[Pygmypuff]

thanks for the advice....Its just hard....Ive tried to avoid him but apart of me believes what he tells me that he cares about me...I know im just defending him but its hard when he's all I want...:(

thats a eazy one to answer but very hard to do ive been in the same situation and all it took for me was finding someone that proved they wanted to be with me. And now we are engaged and well on our way to being as happy as ever. Believe me its not eazy but you just have to say no and leave it at that it will hurt you but if you want to let go then just do it k hope that helps.

krysten

I have watched my friend do the exact same thing as you. She continues to go back to this guy,but they never become an official couple.

To be honest, I hate to see her do it, because each time she lets him in again, she ends up hurt more. And so does he.

As hard as it is, let go. You're protecting yourself. Don't take his calls, tell him you don't want to talk anymore, whatever it takes. You can avoid him, and I would suggest it.