When is it okay to cry?

A classmate of mine died...and it doesn't feel right to cry because as wasnt as close to him as most. i didn't feel okay to be sad because i don't know his middle name or his birthday or where he was born. all i know is he was always on my mind, he was always there to think about...alive. now...he's not. and everyone is sad and no one is trying to care about me. no one is there to rub my back when i cry. i am left to cry alone. i feel like i shouldn't care. but my friend is dead. my friend is dead. he's dead. and i just don't understand how the hell this happened

no one has the right to tell you when you should or shouldn't cry. if you feel like crying, then cry, it can be very theraputic. when i was 13 a girl in my class had her twin brother die. Even though i didn't know her that much it still effected me. i felt saddend at the situation. so yeh i cried. i felt much better afterwards and i'm sure you will too. if you feel like you need someone to cry with and pat your back. talk to a close friend about it. maybe no one is there patting your back because they don't know that it has effected you this much. if you cry they may realise and come over and comfort you. best wishes

anytime. you cry when you need and for as long as you want. it releases endorphins!

You can cry whenever you feel like it or need to. No one can tell you it's not okay to cry. We've had a few suicides in this area very recently, one guy who had been very close to some friends of mine. It really gave me a jerk and I cried even though I only spoke to him a few times. So yeah... it's always ok to cry.

You need to cry it is part of the grieving process. And i have lost friends 7 in two years and i have lost classmates 2 last year. It helps to cry and if you need someone to talk to while you cry send me a private message. I cant sub your back but i can try and comfort you to the best of my ability. Nessa

There is nothing wrong with crying. You are obviously sad, so you should cry. Let the tears flow.

I am truly sorry for your loss, please feel better.

i'm sorry that your friend died, but dont worry about what others think about you wanting to cry. its ur life and you should be able to release your feelings when and wherever you want to. hope that you...well, cope.

Thanks for your help it makes me feel a lot better knowing that is okay even if i didn't know him as well as i'd like. thanks soo much

Yeah, there are times when you don't know if you should cry or not...really, you just feel numb, and almost disbelieving...trust me, its okay to cry. no one ever said that life was easy, and if you lose someone, whether u 2 were close or not, its alright to let the emotions go...sometimes, it's hard to keep it in.

I think it's always ok to cry. Even if you didn't know someone so well, the loss of a human life is always sad and if anyone dares to say you can't cry coz u didn't kno them well enough then they're insensitive and probably have no emotional range whatsoever. Crying is a way of making yourself feel better. My only advice is to find a friend to cry with you coz that you can comfort each other as well.
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Always.

Anytime you need to. don't let any1 tell u otherwise.

When you need to cry, just cry. It is the body's way of trying to heal itself.

Cry out loud!!!!!! sometimes it makes u feel better if u cry all ur tears and all the pain inside ur heart and all ur heart aches heal... and it can help... to let u know i loss my brother last july 2006 and that was very difficult for me and almost 6 months before i accept everything happens to him... its so hurt but i have to accept... acceptance only the best way to move on... and just think of it that god must have a good plans to ur clasmates so theres a reason why this things happens...its ok thats life u must be face the truth and continue living.....

I would say that it's ok to cry whenever you need to (but you prolly shouldn't listen to me because I don't cry). It's supposed to be good for you (some friends told me that). Im sorry to hear about your friend's death....it's terrible.

It's good to cry once in a while.

Anytime...it's pretty much better than keeping all pain inside...

If you feel like crying, no matter what anyone says, if someone or even your mind tell you not to cry, its generally a good idea to ignore them and just CRY. Your body knows better about these things than the rules of society or strength. You instinctively know how to keep yourself from letting those emotions bog you down. "So sing it loud and sing it proud and cry for all to see."

You wanna cry, you cry . No one can tell you when to cry . Crying is the way you let out all you`r grief, wash away the negativity in you . When someone dies, and you wanna cry -- Then do so . It doesn`t matter if you were their best friend, or whatever . You knew them, you care, and you feel knowing they passed on . Just let your`self cry .
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When ever n where every you plz!

If you feel like crying- cry.
Better out than in

If you want to cry just cry. i learned over the yaers that crying makes everything better. You don't want to keep things bottled up.

If you want to cry then just cry. I know what you are goin through I lost a classmate to suicide about 2 months ago now. When I had heard that he died I ws heart broken. But like you I didn't think I should be. I didn't know anything about this kid except for the fact that he was funny and a really good friend. Many pepole were affected by his death and so was I even though I wasn't sure I was allowed to be. SO the truth is if you want to cry about it go for it and tell your friends how you feel they'll understand.

I know how you feel... if you need to cry though, then please do for your own sake. Don't be someone like me that bottles up all their emotions until they finally explode one day. Trust me, the pain hits you a lot harder when you don't cry and don't open up about it. It's really good that you put up this post, it'll help you get things out. It doesn't matter if you weren't that close to the guy, you're still hurt by his death and I'm sure he would like knowing that you're thinking about him. If you need somebody to talk to, a shoulder to cry on, I'm here for you =)

~Loveless Nights~

If you feel like crying, cry.
it's not a crime. if it matters to you that this guy is gone, then thats all that matters. you dont have to know his birthday or nothing. and its okay to cry

Yeah, you cry when you need to,
don't if you dont

It is always okay to cry, no m,atter how you think the thing is, or how much you think you don't have the right to. you do, vrying always helps. And some people think it is weak to cry, but i dissagree, it takes a strong perosn to except that something is wrong.

best wishes.

x

To me in guy's it is a sign of weakness. I know other guys feel this way.

What do you do when you want to cry and you can't, because I was taught with pain not to. And now it really get to me.