What Should I Tell Him?

Me and my ex went out for over two years. It was all wonderful and then -really fast- things just sort of ended. We got in a big arguement and bam, singleness. I was really really really upset. But I had people telling me it was time for a change and trying to keep my spirits up, so after a few weeks I had started feeling okay a lot of the time. I still missed him, and I didn't talk to him. I was mad. I'm still mad. I'm even more mad, actually, because 18 days after we break up he's all apoligizing. He asked me out again. I don't know what to say. I know his life is a bit confusing right now, his parents just got divorced. He took that hard, and that's what he blamed the whole thing on. But when we broke up he listed every little detail about me that he doesn't like, and if all those things bug him so much now, won't they still bug him next week? Next month? All the time? What should I tell him?

he was probably angry, venting, and although pointed them out, probably didn't mean it in a mean way. but it's up to you, you shouldn't ask us because we aren't going to dictate your life, do it or don't, but don't take him doing that as criticism, he was probably in a bad mood/zone and took it out on you. if you want to, take him back, and don't really expect anything great [as you said, his life is confusing right now] but you could give it a shot. it all depends whether you want to, are ready to and are prepared to.
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Thanks. I want to give him another chance becaue we've been such good friends, I just don't want to get shot down again. I like to hear a lot of people's opinions and build off different things. I just keep hoping that whatever I do I make the best choice.

you might get hurt, but it's better to try than not try. & if you've been good friends in the meantime, that's a better sign.
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Yeah, we've been friends for around 4 years. Thigns are super awekward around us right now and I just want them not to be. But I don't know if that means we should go out again or try a bunch harder to be friends =/

do what feels right..? :|

I don't wanna tell you what to do with your life. Only you know if you want to take him back. All those things he said about you were just out of anger probably, he probably didn't mean one word of it. Those things probably do not bother him at all and he was just re-directing his anger at the closest person at the time. One question you could ask yourself is:

If you don't give him another try, are you going to regret it in the future?

It's always better to try and it not work then not try at all.

Better yet....

I say dont do it... if he really likes you as much as he says or acts... and you dont say anything. He will stay liking you.

If you say "well not right now maybe in a lil bit" and then 1-2 weeks later he is going out with some other girl or he likes someone else... you saved yourself the pain. But when you dont say anything and those weeks go by and he still likes you

Bingo... go for him and you will be together... and you know he likes you and what he said was just out of anger not to hurt you.

I think I'm gonna say no to him. I'm not entirely sure its the right choice, but it's what I think I need to do right now. I'm probably going to try what Colby suggested and see how the next few weeks go.

Now all I have to go is work up the courage to tell him =/

Glad i could help you...

but... with the courage thing, again if he likes you.. he will understand and make it easy on you

Whenever me and Marcus argue, we always always always say hurtful things neither of us mean.
But we know the other doesn't mean it. It's anger speaking.
I think you need a long talk with him so he knows how much he hurt you and how it's easy to forgive but not to forget.
*Gem*