bring u closer or push u away?

Ok, first of all, I don't think you should be jumping to the conclusions of being 'best friends'. Because, what are best friends anyways? Why do we have to label our friends and pick the best one, why can't they all be equal? Secondly, there is always room to be friends with someone. I have awkward moments with some very close friends of mine. You are her friend, you've both gone through something together, don't single her out as a best friend.

Well I am okay with the term "best friend" I think there are different levels of friendship, but that aside. The 2 of you shared a humiliating, painful time. It is something that is never easy to face, talk about or remember. While it would seem logical that the 2 of you would lean on one another, it is also plausible that you would serve as a reminder to one another. Just give it time and patience.

^^ agreed, there are different levels of friendship, but you don't need to label it. You can know it yourself, and claim it to be that, but labelling it best friend is just too futile.

hehe I have to disagree Darien, as much as it pains me. If I can know it and claim it, would that not be the same as labelling it?

No, because you don't have to call them your best friend.. I never really use that term. But I know who would be if I had to choose

Well I dont go around saying "hey guys! This is my best friend Sammy." But if I am asked, I will tell. It is not meant to be insulting to any other friend or demean their standing in my life. It just happens that sometimes we are lucky enough to find someone special, who we have no quams about sharing our whole life with, on a friendship level. My best friend is everything but a lover (sexually) to me. I feel blessed to have been given someone so meaningful, so to announce that I have a best friend and to give that title to someone, actually means something to me, though I do get your side of the debate.

Hmm, well the thing is, it's because I have so many close friends that they can all equally be a best friend. Also, another thing is, as we're getting older, we really don't care I guess. I mean, I had best friends when I was younger, but sometimes it wasn't the best thing to rely on one person, especially because all the people I 'considered' best friends, I don't even talk to them anymore. So it was best I just made close friends. I can rely on all of them equally, but there is a connection between one of them, where they are so close, they are actually more like family than a best friend.

I guess I was on the opposite end of the spectrum, I did not have best friends when I was younger, I had friends but it was not until I was older and learned to appreciate what a friendship was and could be. I realized there was one person in my life who had stood with me through everything and accepted all of my faults and fulfilled me on a much deeper level. Twenty years later and I think she deserves that place in my life.

Hmm, I see. I sort of understand that. I guess there never really is a right answer in anything huh?.. lol