ok i need some help here(ok alot of help)

my boyfriend (soldier vs. self) is going a way to war this summer as is his job duty, and i am scared to death and already worried about him, and that bothers him because he hates to hear me cry and every time the subject is brought up i do, how do i get past the fact that he is leaving and he might never come home ( although he promised me he would).how do i make today and all the days befor he leaves the best they can be since we cannot be together in the flesh? any advice or support is great,
love you all a ton,but not as much as i love him,
nessa

Dont leave his side....

thats not always possible you know, i love him alot and i just dont want ot say good bye

I know... but i have never been put in this situation, im only a 14 year old guy...

Im not sure what to do...

thanks for your help, evey little bit helps, thanks again,
nessa

this is a very interesting situation all you can sadly is just hope wish for the best and you know waht encourage him its the best you can do, i know you want to do more but i dont really see anything else just give him your best and let him know matter what you care.

Stick with him.

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Well i can completly understand what you are goin through cuz i am going to the National Guard after high school and my parents are really scared for my saftey but they also know that i am doiing wats best. So just go out and have fun with him so when he calls you when he is away you have liltte inside jokes to talk about and you and just laugh as if he is there even though unfortunilty he isnt....But when he leaves just keep busy...my aunt ( her husband is in the army too) she just works out all the time that he is away cuz she feels like it soaks up all the time so the days without him goes by faster...and now she has the best modeling body in the world...lol so thats just what i think...GOOD LUCK GIRL YOU CAN GET THROUGH THIS!

Your fears for his safety won't keep him alive.

They won't shield him, won't aid him out there. In fact, they might just hinder him, make him worry about you going crazy with worry for him while he's gone.

For him, to make his days with you enjoyable, and his days without, a little less stressfull, you've got to do your part to be strong... for the both of you.

Good luck.

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Thanks guys. It means alot to me. Sorry i have not been here ve respond promt. We talked for the last time for two months last night and it was hard. We cryed alot and i tried to stay strong. We are gettin married when he comes home. So pray for the best. And ya thinks are going ok i kept busy today and start school again tomorrow so i will be busy. Thanks again. Nessa

Be strong, his life will soon be in danger, not yours. You need to be there for him, support his decision, and please...try not to cry over the fact he might die. That's not exactly uplifting. You don't want him going to war, the back of his head filled with the idea of his inevitable death. You'll be fine, and he'll come home to you. Don't fall apart over something that hasn't yet happened.

i think that the best advice that i can give you is LOVE HIM like you have loved no other... if you LOVE HIM the best that you can... the love will never ever ever go away. and as much as you fear that he won't return he loves you and you love him... thats all that counts...

He was in georgia yesterday before his plane left this morning that is why i was on. I could not go with him. I spent all the time i could with him on the phone and i really am trying to be strong for him. I know he can make it home alive. And whatever happens i love him all the same. Thank you guys. Nessa