How do I make her understand?

Okay. I have a really good friend who is like a sister to me. (Assuming I have none.) But anyways she's months younger then me but she is 14 years old just like me.

She tells me everything about her life, feelings and what she plans on doing and everything because she trusts me because I NEVER tell anyone, not even my own other best friends.

Okay, her name is Brandy and she's been talking to me about how shes "ready", (if you catch my drift, something that you can never get back.)

She says she knows the concequences of what will happen afterwards like pregnancy & everything else.

I don't know what to tell her actually. That's the reason I'm here. I know I promised her not to say anything but I know you guys don't know her OR even seen her, and you guys know exactly what I've been through too. So I trust you guys.

But anyways, back to the subject, she says that she's "ready" and she knows the conquences of what will happen, she still has her virginity and everything. I can't tell her that she can't do it because I can't control her. I just don't knwo what to say to make her change her mind.

Help me!

Why must you change her mind? She does feel that she's ready. Unless you know for sure the situation's gonna get out of hand...or maybe the guy she's ready with wouldn't be good to her...or maybe she's gonna regret it. Don't project too much of your own views and value on a matter so personal. All you can really do, as a friend, is to talk to her to make sure she's really ready. If it's what she wants...then hope for the best. I generally don't encourage young people to have sex...but if they're really ready and it's safe...go for it...it can be so beautiful haha.

The first thing is that she doesn't know if the guy will use protection or not.

Then someone get some!? Any of them can go and buy it. Make sure she makes sure

If shes 14 than sorry i say no.. shes to young

i agree fully she is to young...

^^ Cough Cough*

Though yes...protection...no matter how fun bare-back is haha...

Don't try and change her mind, please.
I beg of you, let her experiece sex, have seven babies before she's 19, let her live in a B&B for the rest of her days because you can't 'control' her. It's the ultimate lesson for your friend, dear.

I agree....

Colby, you previously agreed to how she shouldn't have sex. Now you're agreeing with me?

Colby's just lost and confused a lot =P or maybe easily influenced....OR MAYBE your charm is just too much to resist

Lol sorry im watching TV...

Hahahahahahahahahahaha.

yes so there for i was not paying attention lol

Okay.

I talked to her for a little bit today. I asked her if she was being pressured and everything like that, she says no. She just feels 'ready'. But then she says that yet she wants to save it til marriage, and doesnt want to become pregnant but she feels like she's ready to have it at the age she's at.

Did you tell her most teenage women who have sex end up regretting it. And with or without protection she can still get pregnant... if she plans on doing this i would try to stop her... but.. like everyone else has said its truthfully her choice. Its not hurting you any... so I say do the best you can to do what is right

^^ i agree.

No matter what there is a HUGE possibility she could end up pregnant. I think she is too young, but if she was REALLY honestly ready for it she should talk to her parents. ^-^ That is the best thing for her to do because if her parents are okay with it and know what shes doing they can get her birth control, and if she gets pregnant they will most likely already have a plan in mind for a situation like that (GOD FORBID abortion!!!!!)

Allanah

She says that she can't tell her mom because then her mom would lose all trust for her that she's already gotten. She says that she doesn't want to lose her moms trust and doesn't want to be discriminated against for wanting to have sex.

Then all together she deff. shouldnt have it. The best thing to know is for her parents to know... that way if something does happen.. they can all be ready for it... but if they dont know and wont know, and then she ends up pregnant... she could end up being abaonded, or made fun of.. etc etc.

wow.
she's a youngin' to be 'ready'

but, hey.
it's part of society.
you know..
the whole.. 'i've had sex thing'
even when they haven't.
but you need to know, she's her own person.
well.. you know that . baha.
but, she can make her own desicions.
you can't change her mind.
but, you can take her with you..
MAKE SURE she buys condoms.
ask her to keep them on her at all times.
and, let her know the consequences,
even if she knows.
tell her again.
having kids that young, is scary.
the more you hear it ..
well, the scarier it gets.
& let her know that she's her own person.
she makes her own decisions, & you'll be there.
also, that she shouldn't let people pressure her.
she says that she doesn't, but IT'S SOCIETY.
everyone says that.
but somewhere deep down, they're being pressured
all she had to do was hear a friend talk about how amazing it was..
& then.. ppooff. she wasn't pressured, but it lit the firecracker..

so yeah.
just.
let her do her own thing.
& be there no matter what.
she'll learn from mistakes, if she makes them.
& she'll move on.

I told her that she can do it if she wants and that. But I can't help her every 5 minutes if she has a problem if she does get pregnant. (I'm a babysitter, taking a break for a little bit, but she things i'm such an amazing babysitter that shes gonna come runing to me whenever she wants to make out with her bf.)

Sandy,

I'm a girl. I'm like her sister.

Her mom can't trust her anyways for all those Mexican guys she hangs out with and smokes with them.

Well then i say tbfh ( to bad for her ). If she lost her moms trust then its her fault... no one elses but her. Dont help her let her find out herself.

I've grown apart from her since her sister came home and told a bunch of lies that her mother never even believed. (I'm talkin bout Brandy's sister Betty.)

But yeah. I guess the only way she can get out of the bad crowd is for her to find her own way back to the interstate (the right road) in her life and get as far away as possible.

Ok...putting aside the risk of pregnancy ..
have any of you thought about std's?
Most kids that have them don't know they do
She should think about that