Falling for jerks

That's my problem. I know they say girls always ignore the nice guys and go after the idiots, but I don't do it on purpose. Bad guys don't hold all that much more excitement for me, infact most of the time they're just plain awful and make my life a mess.
So why the hell is it that every single time I meet someone new, someone I'm happy with and is all nice, attentive, caring and seems to like me, does it turn out that they've screwed over half of my friends already?

So now I've met another one. He's lovely. 2/3 years older than me (I'm 17 nearly 18 hes 20), is American (yeah I know most of you guys on here are, but I'm a British gal) and rather cute.

I start talking to people about him, and they go all weird and say "oh dear..... he's not... " etc etc and tell me how he was messing around with 2 girls at the same time...

And I don't know what to do. Do I meet up with him knowing the idiot he can be? Do I do what I should and just stay well clear even though I really like him? Do I ignore what other people have said and just be cautious? Just wait until he screws me over until I know for certain.

I ask all of this, but I know honestly that a) everyone will tell me to stay well clear, and b) I shall ignore them all and fall for him completely. Stupid isn't it?

^yeah, well at least you know your flaws - more like the primordial flaw of the female race - guys are jerks, and girls fall for them.

Well it's your own damn fault when you get raped. That's all I have to say. You have no integrity. Perfect for guys who want to use you. Oh, and did i mention how credulous you are? But you already know that.

confront him. its the only way youll know the truth

and do you fall into relationships very easily? if you do, try taking it slower and just be friends with the FIRST....youll learn most things about them if you do it that way other than snooping around for info.

and do you fall into relationships very easily? if you do, try taking it slower and just be friends with the FIRST....youll learn most things about them if you do it that way other than snooping around for info.

^that is very very true.... maybe try slowing down

and yes, confront him, tell him how you feel and ask him how he feels and try to see if he is lying or not. And if you like him you should not care what other people think. And most of the time they will forget it and still be your friends...

hey im a british girlie here..
erm my adivece sweet is to speak to him about them two girls etc because it could be jus hear say and gossip!!!
but then again if it is true then personally as ive been there etc stay well clear and forget him because becaue he will only hurt you!!!!!

thing is us girls do go for the bad boys before we get a decent lovely true to you lad!!! and we have to have to have the bad ones first! so that saying is true and its the same for the lads they go for the nasty girls before they get a decent girl..

anyway yeah spk to him about or walk away and forget him and find someone new a decent..

What's this guy's name? He sounds familiar. Do you know the girls? You might want to talk to them. If he lives in America, how would you go about meeting him? That's risking a lot for a potential asswipe.

Nuovo: Well it's your own damn fault when you get raped.

^You digust me. You should be shot in the back of the head for that statement.

^ there is no use arguing..he's just full of it. Better to just ignore. Use your energy, passion, and emotion for other things like us getting to know each other physically =P wow..I sound like a jerk haha

well slow down and look at every decision in your life, try stayin away from guys 4 a while and then come back and c if u have a diff. opinion about different guys u like and try datin different guys u wouldn't expect to like

Thanks for all the advice, it turns out what my friend heard was rather exagerated, although he did do a few stupid things... but then who doesn't?

I'm not saying that I'm going into a relationship all naieve and gullible, I am cautious although I have to admit sometimes my common sense goes out the window.

We're taking it slow, and I'm getting to know him which is a change...

But then again he finally asked me out last night and hasn't talked/texted me since, not that I'm overly worried, it's just a slight nagging thing at the back of my mind.

And yes he is American, but his mom married a british guy 3 years ago so now lives in England...

I say ignore what your friends say, why not do what you want to do. You have the risk of getting hurt but then in the end you can only blame yourself and you still have friends. You have a life now, if you really want to enjoy it you will. If you want to wreck it you will. Its call choices and adulthood. Its your call.

I fall for jerks=//

ACTUALLY IM NOT THE ONE TO ADVISE YOU ON WHAT TO DO CUZ IV BEEN FALLING FOR JERKS ALL THE TIME. BUT ID SAY TO FORGET HIM. EVEN IF U DO CONFRONT HIM, HE'LL TOTALLY DENY IT OR MAKE UP SOME LAME EXCUSES. I THINK YOUR BETTER OFF WITHOUT HIM. EVEN IF U DO LIKE HIM, ITS NOT THE END OF THE WORLD. ALSO LISTEN TO YOUR HEART, NOT TO WHAT EVERYONE ELSE TELLS U. GOOD LUCK!!