why do people cut????

I just woundering y people cut themselves. I was doing a paper on it and got a lot of help offers from here. (thanks guys i'll email u soon) ne wa, yesterday i thought i saw fresh cuts on my friends arm after she promised to stop, i am not sure what to do because if i go to the consuler then i will lose her as a friend, and i don't want that, i just want her to be safe.and i have tried to talk to her but she3 wont open up she just tells me and all of our other friends that she dose it to ease stress,but what strees? The thing is from the outside looking in she has a really good life. she's pretty , popular and her parents let her do what ever. Shes always been a great friend. I am trying to understand what she is going through but i have never cut so i don't know.but latly what worries me most is that shes started hurting heself in other ways like punching lockers in school and once she punched a sign and she hit it so hard the sign now leans over and there is a mark where she hit it(she almost broke her hand punching this sign). she once told me that she hated it when people judged her but i don't think i do, Do i? R ne of u guys like this? or have a friend like this? if u r(or do) then PLEASE respond. i am at a lost here.
love always
PK~confused

why do u think that she wont talk to me. we're like sisters, we've known eachother sience we were 2 and now she dosen't talk to me. I am soo worried about her. but thanks for telling y u do it. It helps me a little
love always
PK

Hey PK, u said ur friend has a perfect life looking from the outside, but that doesnt mean she doesnt feel pain. The most seemingly perfect ppl can be depressed. I really hate it when my friends say to me, oh but u've got no reason to be depressed or cutting yourself, because it makes me feel guilty and want to do it even more.
I dont know why she wont talk to you, probably because she realises when she hurts herself, shes hurting you, so she sees it better to not talk about it at all, that way shes not causing you any pain.
Just let her know you're always there for her when she feels she wants to talk about it, and that you love her and truly care.. Thats the only advice i can offer, hope ive helped somewhat.
good luck, tanya :D

some people cut because they ant to relive stress or anger. i used to cut but i dnt feel the need to no more.

well im a cutter... not happy about it, but i can say that sometimes it helps me get out of all these pain i have inside... sometimes perfect lookin people are the one who have so much pain in their hearts, that's how life is... looks can be decieving, but eyes is not... some smiles but eyes still frownin inside... try to talk to ur friend, comfort her, make her know that she not alone... i lost a friend for not doin that... he died last nov11, and it really broke my heart, coz i was there and i couldnt do anything to save him... i dint ask him what's up with his life that time, maybe if i did prolly he still alive here with me... but oh well, smile =) coz everything will turn out right =) as much as possible dont give her the chance to be alone, coz sometimes silence kills the sanity... much love... letishia

PK-
Maybe you should just give her some space. I think she'll open up to you eventually, but I am like that and I took awhile to open up to my friend who's like my sister. Just tell her you're worried and that she can trust you and you want to help her. Hope eveything works out!
-Hamster

Sometimes the hardest people to confide in are your close friends.

There are many reasons why people cut, but I won't type up every one of them. I know I cut a couple times~ to feel alive, because I be feeling hollow and inside I feel like I'm dying, sometimes I think I'm not even alive inside, I tune out. I don't know how to explain that. But basically the feeling of no one understanding you or appreciating you, or being there for you etc. It also could be insecurity....

We'll I disagree with those people that said, that its mostly the people who are pretty and popular and have a good life.. thats not true ... that could be like 10% true. But not really.

just because you tell someone about it doesn't mean that she'll hate you forever.. my firend told someone and i still love her like i always have. sure, i was mad at first but i got over it. but she doesn't know that i still do it sometimes. and just because your friend is popular and she can do whatever she wants and has the "perfect" life doesn't mean she doesn't have reasons to be sad... you dont know how she feels when she's home alone with a blade in her hand.