How should I go about handeling this..

Well I am 17 years old and I haven't seen my dad since I was 7 and I haven't spoken to him since I was about 12 . He stoped calling me because he had a girl friend who didn't belive I was his daughter any ways a few days ago I get a phone call and it was him he asked me if we could "hang out" and I'm torn because a part of me wants to know my dad and I want him to be a part of my life again but a part of me also just wants him to leave me alone alredy if he already picked another woman over me who's to say he won't do it again, did I fail to mention he's still with tha brod. ..I just want to know if you were in my plcae what whould you do ? How whoud you handel this situation? ...advice please !

update.
i have only recived one phone call since the first and it was last night and i even asked him "why is this the first time your calling me since the last"all he had to say is because its weird and i told him maybe he should try and fix it and he said hed plan too. i also told him if he planed to be n my life then be here if not then dont call me any more and he had nuthin to say. where does that leave me ? idk i feel like i did what i had to do and i layed all my cards on the tabel its his turn to step up right ?!?
itts just all so frusterating . i dont really no either one 0of my parents ive live most my life wid ma aunt n uncle n b4 them my grandma i dont know how to trust any more and some times im not even sure if i know how to love.

Hmm. You went this long in life not "knowing" him, but you do know him Hunn, he picked a GIRLFRIEND over his DAUGHTER! That's the thing here, he should always choose family first, no matter what. And if he is still with her, you are right...who's to say he won't do it again? It's painful not knowing a Father or losing a Father, but is it worth all the pain to get to know him and than have him leave again?

Hi
to be honest the only person who can answer this is you.... like someone already said get in touch but keep your distance until he proves that you can trust him, on the other hand you could go about your life and keep your distance and you could be missing out on a really good relationship with your dad, see what he has to say it wont hurt just to hear him out and then make your decision.
good luck hun

I'm going through the same thing.
But, I had my dad for 15 years. :|
And, he left when him and mom got a divorce, two years ago...He's back now..

Hun, people make mistakes.
I understand he's your father, and he chose someone over you. But, he's back.. Don't go through the pain you have the rest of your life. Just go 'hang out' once or twice. And then decide what you want..
I doubt he'll hurt you again. I mean.. he had the guts to come back to you, I doubt he'll have the guts to do it again. :|

Thank you everyone all your advice is helpful

I have been through this same situation...jus tnot as bad. but only u can decide if u wanna go see him. i may not get to see my dad that often but i still love him with all my heart. if u ever wanna talk just send me a privae message.

Hmm tough. I hadn't seen or spoken to my Dad for 6 years when he left us for another woman. My brother kept in contact with him and spent weekends and all that with him then Dad got married (he left that woman now and now has another one) without telling any of us. We only found out when we saw the ring on the woman's hand. Anyway my brother now lives with him and I have only just started talking to him. I don't trust him and I never will and I don't want to hang out with him. My advice is do what you are comfortable with. If you only want to talk to him on the phone then keep it at that. It's up to you.

You only have one mom and dad in a life time. Give him a chance, maybe he's changed, who knows, if you dont then you're going to keep asking yourself a bunch of questions.

Its a really difficult one especially not knowing you or your dad or your background. It basically comes back to what you want and what your ready for.
Perhaps you need to set soem very clear guidelines and boundaries for yourself first and then if you want with your father too.
We only have one mum and dad and life is a very precious gift...