Confused!! helpppp

Ok well i guess i should start out i have a boyfriend... but im really confused about my sexuality. im attracted to girls but it goes against my families morals... they are totally against being gay. it rly sucks bc my boyfriend and i have been dating about a year and he wants me to lose 'it' to him but im not sexually attracted to him. i love my family and i dont want to upset them or my boyfriend so i rly rly dont know what to do... i talked to a counselor and she says it could be that i trust girls more bc i was raped a couple yrs ago by two men i didnt know. but idk i need advice
please help me!!

To start off, this is a decision you have to make yourself. I know your parents are "anti-homo", but alot of the parents of homosexual's are. Personally, I don't agree with the whole homosexual thing, but in the end it's no one's choice but the person experiencing it. As for your boyfriend, he shouldn't be pressuring you into having sex with him. (I also don't agree with sex before marriage...but that's just me).
You have to be openly honest about this to those you love. Holding it inside you and trying to keep it a secret will only kill you from within. I know telling your parents may be hard, and you DON'T have to rush right into that. I think you should start by telling your boyfriend what's going on in your mind, and getting his opinion. (Beware, some males thinks that lesbian girlfriends are a huge turn-on, and he may try to use that for his pleasure as well as yours)
I agree with your counselor when he/she said that this feling may have something to do with you being raped a few years ago. When an occurence like that happens in someone's life, they do tend to relate pain, anguish, and separatism to the people/places/things that were associated with that.
HOWEVER, do not let what happened in the past dictate your future. If YOU, don't like the thought of you being attracted to girls, don't hide behind the thought of you being raped, and using that as a justification for how you feel. Look at yourself in the mirror, dead in the eye and ask yourself "Is this who I really want to be?" and truly, honestly answer yourself without hesitation. You can't lie to yourself, and you know that.

I hope I was able to help you out, if only a little, with your problem. If you want to talk some more, I'm here. My e-mail address is:
jumpn4jesus7@yahoo.com

I'll be praying for you,
Frank

Hun, being gay goes against most family morals. I know you are confused and all but what do you feel most about? You aren't sexually attracted to your boyfriend, but whether anyone likes it or not if you are gay it's still going to be you. You will still be the same person, your parents may not like the fact, and you don't have to run right to them A.S.A.P and tell them anything or what not. It'll take time, just try to find yourself and make sure that you aren't confused. I wish you the best.

I personaly don't agree with the whole "bisexual" thing. If you liek girls..your gay...same with guys..if you like guys..your gay..you can't be in the middle. You could be attracted to both sexes, but it still makes you gay. You could be dating a guy and a girl. But you're dating someone your same sex doesn't make you inbetween you're gay. No way around it.
I don't agree with homosexuality. God made women for men, men for women. If you're athiest, or against God, whatever. But sorry it's repulsive.
I have nothing against the person who is gay, I'm just against that they are gay. Personality is what I mainly judge, but I don't really like to be around another girl who is attracted to me. It's very uncomfortable. Same for guys. Not trying to offend just state my opinion.

I go to church all the time im a christian and that makes it even harder... but thanks for the help ill def. use it

thanks again!!!

"I don't really like to be around another girl who is attracted to me"

Lmao just because girls are attracted to other girls does not mean she is attracted to you.

To the Op, I get the lack of trust for men if you have been raped. That can be such a hard thing to go through. Getting over it can take so long, if you are lucky enough to be able to do so. If you soul search and discover that you indeed are gay, dont be afraid to be who you are. Anyone who truly loves you and cares about you would never let something as trivial as this come between you. My best friend was homophobic, a learned family trait by the way, but when she found out that I like women, her whole attitude changed and she accepted me because I was still the same person. Only you can decide what is right for you, but dont let someone elses bigotry cause you to pretend to be someone you are not.

Wow...Pieces of My Soul aka Frank I guess is his name.. Put that better than I could.. I thoroughly and 100% agree with the no sex before marriage... And I am not for homosexuals, I do believe that it is wrong. However.. I do think that making your own decision is best. May it be right or wrong. Just know you have to live with it, consequences and all. If I even thought I was a Lesbian and I had a boyfriend.. For his sake I would tell him, and either change that of me, or break up with him, so he didn't have to deal with me. As for parents.. I would only tell them if I were planning on doing that forever.. And if I really didn't care about keeping in contact with them.. lol.. I've joked around with it, with my parents and they've said they would either break contact or tie me to my bed until I came to my senses. lol.. Anyhow.. I do hope you can figure it out.. Make the choice, just remember you have to live with it. As for being raped.. I know all about that.. And I can see how you can use that as an excuse to want to be a lesbian.. To me, it just makes it harder for myself to even hold hands with my boyfriend.. But I am not attracted to other women.. I do hope that things go well for you.. And I will be willing to talk to you if need be.. My email is CrazygirlAlly93@hotmail.com

I am praying for you as well. =)

-Ally

I told my boyfriend and broke up with him but he understands and said if i make up my mind that i am straight he'll still be there. i also told my brother and he flipped out on me and started reading stuff from the bible and telling me i was going to hell. wow real christian like aint it? well hes not talking to me now especially because im doing the day of silence and he thinks im completely wrong and he wont talk to me again until i come to my senses. im def. not telling my parents yet though. i gotta figure out away to tell them so thay dont like have a heart attack or anything. but thanks for all your help!!!

To thine ownself be true.