Father

I don't know what to do! My parents are recently devoriced and my dad is threatening to kill himself and now. I mean he did it when my mom told him she wanted out but then she was afraid he would do it. I just don't know what to do im only 16 and i shouldn't have to hear that my dad is going to hurt himself.

What should I do you guys?

Try to talk to your dad...tell him that the way he is acting is hurting you really bad!

Yeah...i agree with Britt!

Really one more dad that is so freaky childish
Uhh...my dad is one of these too
He didn't kill himself and didn't tell me that he will
But my dad cheated on my mom again and again
And he is a damn liar
They're divorced too
And they used and use me when they want to fight
So nevermind really
You will be just worrying yourself

I'm maybe too tough but i let them use me about their thing
And i was like going nuts

So tell him that it's not a good way and he is an adult not that one of that kinda rebel teens

And maybe he needs some love...spend days with him..blah blah
Maybe he gives up...

I don't get along with my father for this exact reason. + more.

Well, it's taken my father two years to BEGIN to move on. I didn't see him for a year and half, and I did not speak to him for months at a time. It's easier than what you think. Especially when he's does the things he does, and says the things he says. Your father, I hope is a stronger man than my father and it won't take as long for him to move on in his life, and learn to love people more than he loves himself. But, it's a process, it doesn't change overnight. There's things you can do to help, and I'm sure since you're 16.. It sounds pretty stupid, or it might not.. But, a family counselor. Beginning with your family; excluding your father. As your father passes his first step towards his.. happiness, I guess you could call it.. Which is to stop talking about it in front of you, and relatives. That's when you want to MENTION family counseling to your father. Don't try to force it or anything, because I doubt he will be ready for it, but it will give him time to think about it. And, sooner or later things will come together and slowly, but surely get better..

I know as a 16 year old you probably aren't about sh aring your feelings with a stranger, or even these kind of feelings with your family..
But, I'm like 100% sure that it will help you and your family to cope with things.

I hope this helps.
And, I wish you the best of luck.
If you need anyone to talk to, let me know..
I'm here. I've been through it, blahblahblah.

Good luck, hun. :)

-Teria.

I went through a similar experiance last summer. My parents were on and off fighting since I was about 10. My mother was just as childish as my father, always threatening to leave to get her way in things. My father would go on a rampage through the house breaking things (including half our good china and crystal), screaming aweful things that he planned on doing to himself, everything like that. Then last summer things looked like they were calming down, but I didn't want them to get worse, so I brought up the idea of family counseling. My mother shot down the idea insisting that she wasn't going to pay to air out our flaws for the world to see. I ended up getting some money together (I had a job) and told my family that I was paying for the counceling, and that it was really important to me that they'd all be there..... I got there after paying the counselor in advance...and only my little brother showed up because I drove him there with me... (I ended up getting my money back, the lady felt bad for me I guess.) I can't really give you that much of advice, it's a hard thing to go through. Somtimes it's fixable and simtimes it isn't. Try family counseling, try telling them what you feel, but if those things don't work, just know that one day you'll be out on your own away from eveyone else, and you can start a family of your own, and run it with much more knowledge and grace than what you're going through.

I don't really like talking to my mom about these things and stuff, we don't get along alot. And my dad didn't tell me that he was going to my mom told me. He always calls her and tells her about it and stuff. And before they split when he was kicked out he would call me and brother and sister and ask for his help to get her back.

He would call my brother crying and my brother had no clue what to do about it, he is already depressed as it is, this isn't helping it much to be put in the middle.

My mom would always go out to the club with some of her friends who are really younger then she is and then my dad would keep calling me and asking where she was untill i finally snapped and told them i shouldn't have to deal with this stuff im bot my mothers babysitter and i shouldn't have to lie to my father and cover up for my mom because im sick of all the fighting.

Truth be told im afraid to talk to my father about anything. He is a very scary guy and he doesn't know that i know about him hurting himself and stuff. And as the calling thing i do talk to him and i stay at his house and stuff but he needs to make the effort to want to see me to you.....right? But when ever we do talk it is "whats you mom doing and what has she been doing has she been hanging out with any guys." Im jsut tired of dealing with it all the time and hearing them fighting.....

I would tell him that he still has a daughter to live for and explain to him how much he means to you.

I talked to my father yesterday. And, I remembered this post for some reason.. So, I asked him what you should do. :|
He says that when a man is seperated from their family, they literally get lost. They dont' realize what they're doing, or who they're hurting. They dont' mean to do the things they do, but they just can't seem to control themselves. He said that most men don't even realize they can't control themselves. He said, that men who act like this before the break up [like he did] are usually so insecure with themselves they feel the need to make others insecure.
^ That's why your father does it. I'm like 90% sure.

How to solve it before it becomes something unbearable..
Well, you know when you realize that fears mean nothing to you, and have no power over you.. You need to realize that with your father. Don't let being 'scared' of him get in the way of your relationship, because eventually you will lose him.. com pletely. And, no matter how much you want or don't want it to happen, it will. And, your life will only get worse from there. Because, after that your trust issues become more than you can handle. Your depression increases, along with believing you can only fail. No good outcome can come from you not talking to your father.
So, face your fears.. Talk to him, get it over with.
Tell him EXACTLY how you feel. Don't leave ONE thing out, mka.

:|
If you can't do it, then I'm sure there's not much you can do..

'I would tell him that he still has a daughter to live for and explain to him how much he means to you.'

totally agree... that is the best reply i've seen.

Thanks you guys for giving me some advice and some things to think on. I do hope things will get better between my family but we will have to wait and see..

My boyfriend always threatens to hurt himself when i wanna leave him. but I think he's just saying it to keep me. but I do feel for you cuz my mom left my dad just last year and i constantly worried about him thinking he was gonna hurt himself. but its been a year now and he's gotten over it and its all cool. but you should try talking to your dad