R.I.P Emma lynn McCwen

Emma was my sister's baby. she was still born may 25 of last year. so may 26 is coming up again and i dont kno how to tell my sister that i cant visit her grave. i am just not stronger enough. i am still depressed. ii have been on depression pills since it has happen. i dont kno what to do . it wasnt fair that she died. that is every christmas, easter mothers day fathers day and etc. we wont get to spend with her . if you can help me please do .

It's sweet that you cared about her so much, but you might feel more relieved BY visiting her grave.
Or you could go alone at one point, and say all the things you'd have liked to say to her.
Sometime or another you'll need to grow acceptance, and being scared you aren't strong enough won't make it any easier.
Surely your sister will understand if you get emotional, I mean, she was the mother who lost the child. In a way it might comfort her to have somebody by her side who feels the same way she does.
I suggest you talk to your sister about it, so you can both know you're grieving together and you're not alone.
Most deaths aren't fair, but life comes with death and no matter what you'll find it, just know that all Emma had to do was skip the crap parts of life and get free access into Heaven straight away.
x

I think i will try to talk to her. we both have been emtional about it though. i am taking baby steps of getting over it. i finally looked at her pics when she was dead. it was disturbing but i had to do it to get over it. i think i will try to visit the grave for my sister, thnx for your help.
XBrokenHeartedFoolX

Realize that if it affected YOU that way, how did it affect your sister? Wouldn't it mean the world to her that you gathered your courage and visited?

xTheEcstasyOfSuicidex

I almost know what your going through my niece was still born in january of last year, and i really does take time to move on from something like that, you never get over it you just put it in your past, i am truely sorry to hear about the loss of a baby, it took me 6 monthes to look at pictures and i still only go to the grave site by my self once every three or four months. it is hard although your pains are different, i understant the jist of them, i am always here to listen, just send me a pm if you want to talk,
nessa

M, sister also had to go on deppersion pills. she never wanted to talk about babies. finally now she will look at other people's kids. My sister hasnt been the same since it has happened. she had it when she was 17. her bf didnt take it as hard well he did but didnt show it. And my sister and i are going to the grave in a couple of months and putting an angel on the grave.

I will probaly never ever put it in the past. becasue, emma ment the world to everyone. no one thinks that you could feel so much pain for a baby that never lived but you never really understands unless it happens to you. and i am sorry for your niece. emma was also my niece i was looking so forward to being an aunt. until what happend. thnx, if i need you i will always write. thnx, for being a shoulder i can cry on.
-Brittany Ann