He's moving!?do I go-do I stay??very sad-please somebody help me

My boyfriend and i love eachother very very much. i finally have found someone who accepts me and appreciates me the way I am.i love him so much. he told me that his family is planning to move soon. not sure exactly when, but that it is going to happen eventually. Now, we are both juniors in high school and i'm still not even 18 years old. He asked me to come with him- either i go or its over. my heart cannot take this. i want to go because i love him but i want to stay because of my family. i love my dad so much and he's given his whole life to raising me and my brother all alone. i dont know what to do because im stuck in the middle.he asked me today if i would go with him or not when the moment comes-and i said i dont know-we were about to break up because he doesnt want it to hurt more if i decide not to go in the end. does anyone have any advice on what i should do or what should be done??? please help me.i dont want to lose someone that truly cares for me. please tell me anything to help me make some decisions..

Do you want to spend the rest of your life with him? If so, yes. At one point you're going to have to learn to move away from your family, yes you can visit, and you'll never fully part away from them; but I say yes, if you trust that you two will be together for a long time.
If it's a new relationship, and you don't know what you want to do, then no. You might make a huge mistake, but it's up to you and how you feel.
x

Well its a tough situation and you dont even know if they are moving away far?? if they then you two and travel to each other... thing is your so young still and if you think your always be together then you have to seriously think about this and speak to your dad!!!!!

my ex bf took a new job and tht was y we split up and he asked me to move away and i turned away and no im not leaving my family and friends!!!

and yeah after nursing my heart better over 5/6 months ive got new bf who loves more than i can tell you and loves me more than my ex ever did!!!!
and im pleased i never left with him because i woodnt have what i have now... guess im trying to say is when one door shuts another opens!! and you never know who or what is around the corner and your still young and you got so much more to see and expierence...

its been 10 months now since split with ex and ive with my bf 3/4 months and im now just about ok to spk to my ex on msn yeah sure i still get little nervous feeling because at end of day i loved him but you know you have so much in the future you dont know about yet...

its a nasty situation to be in and really you i personally dont think you should go because it more than likely wont wk.. but im jus pointing out the worse there hun!! why not tak to your dad???

you have to listen to tht voice in your head and heart because they tell the truth... it will hurt like hell for while but youll get through it if you didnt go..

talk to your dad

If you feel he is the 'one' for you then go. Your family will always be there for you and you will never have truly left them. Good luck and I hope all goes well.

Ok. I don't know everything about the situation, but my insticnt would be to stay with your family. If your boy is your one true love, then I don't see why a year or two away would need to make much of a difference. It seems, from your description, that he's forcing you to make an unfair choice. Who tells a 17 year old to decide, in a moment, the rest of their life? You shouldn't have to "prove your love" by giving up your life, I don't think. Anyways, it doesn't seem like he's proving it if he's essentially saying "it wouldn't be worth loving you if we're kind of far away for a while." Long-distance relationships can work, if you are both committed and good at communicating. This is a really hard situation, and I'm sorry you've been put with it.

Oh my god we have the same situation...sorta. i'm 16 and me and my boyfriend are juniors....we've been together for 13 months and i love him to death. problem though....he's going to PA for college and i'm staying here. i know the first reaction is to go with them rite? but me him have talked it over and our futures are the most important things. i could never ask him to stay behind and give it up for me and visa versa and your boyfriend shouldn't either. if you love each other as muxh as you say you do, which sounds alot like me and my boyfriend, then you have to let him go. i know it makes oyu sad, but talk all the time....visit from time to time, if he loves than he'll be there in a few years.

Thank you guys soo much! you are all wonderful and it has put some thoughts into my head. one thing i didnt think about though: if he really does love me then he would want me to be happy and wouldnt make me have to choose. but i know he loves me and i love him too. and yeah wow our situation is very much alike. isnt it tough??Thank you all for your advice i really appreciate it! love you all take care.

~Marilyn.

Britt, I'm offended : ) I may be nuts, but I did agree with you. Or... you agreed with me. Or, more likely, you didn't read what I wrote because you were spitting mad from the above posts. aaaaaaaeieie

Anyway, to the poster again - you've talked to your fellow about this, right? Does he realize what he's asking of you, and everything?

"YOU FREAKING PEOPLE ARE ALL NUTS.

You are still a child. You're not even graduated, nor are you 18 years old yet. I don't care if you love this boy...If HE loved YOU, then he wouldn't say "Come with me or it's over". There are NO ultimatums in LOVE. Jesus crimeny.

Stay with your family...The ones who love you unconditionally and would continue to love and be there with and for you even if THEY moved.

GAH."

Britt, you are amazing, and sooo right. I honestly couldn't have put it any better even though this is exactly how I feel about the issue.

Ur guy's moving?..easy !

u also move!!..if you can't co'z u still hav feelings for him..than wait a lil while..

wo says u hav to move as fast as a monkey?/

Hah, I didn't even read the original post and the first thing that stood out from every other reply was Britto's statement:

"YOU FREAKING PEOPLE ARE ALL NUTS."

For which reason I shall part myself from this talk and let her take care of this one on her own ;).

"GAH." - Indeed! :).

All depends what is in your heart, do what you think is best for you.

I agree wit Italia1921!

I think that you should follow your heart. If you truely love this guy then you should go with him. But then again deoending on where he is moving I don't see why you guys can't work it out. Just follow your heart and you'll come upon the answer.