Falling too quickly

  • Flying Phoenix
    17 years ago

    Is this a problem?
    I have a new boyfriend of about two weeks now, and my friends are worried I'm falling for him too quickly.

    The thing is, I know I am. It's what I do. I'm an extremist, and if I like someone I REALLY like someone. But I've never felt like this with a boyfriend before. Normally I worry, and get confused and mess myself up all the time over guys. But I'm not. And that's what makes me feel its different. I feel I could love this guy.

    But part of me doesn't want to let myself. Because if I do, there's no going back. And I may get hurt.

    So I'm all for going slowly right? But whats going slowly? Am I not supposed to constantly talk / think about him like I do? And how do I stop doing that? I mean I know going slowly in the physical sense, and I am really trying with that... But I miss him when I don't see him.

    Is this all too fast? And if it is, how do I slow down?

  • DarkenedBeauty
    17 years ago

    Talk to him. tell him ur worries. im in a similar situation at the moment and iv found thats the best way.

  • Anne Garcia
    17 years ago

    No that's not going too fast... going too fast is already doing things a little too extreme. kissing and all. but talking a lot? that's good cuz you're getting to know him. ABout your extremist thing... hmm... then maybe it is different.

  • Beauty In The Breaking
    17 years ago

    Ok, well I went through this exact same thing with my boyfriend of 2 weeks *and am still going through it* but I think that the difference is that him and I talked about it and he knows a lot of my past stuff with guys =P so he understands =)
    We started dating after knowing each other for 2 weeks, found out that we had fallen for each other after 1 week of dating and we still seem to be doing so fantastic that it scares me sometimes lol =D The only thing you can do is sit him down and talk about it *after all, if a couple can't talk about whats going on in the relationship then it's not going to work* and don't listen to your friends on this, listen to what your heart is telling you ^.^ Just don't let yourself be pushed father then you're comfortable with or do anything that you might regret down the road K?

  • BrokenREALiTy
    17 years ago

    It isn`t too fast . Seriously, if you meet the right guy, wouldn`t you fall faster, or a lot deeper easier ? I fell for my best friend a lot , so much that I thought it was almost love . We only went out for a little over two weeks . It`s a good thing . You always have to go through pain before you go through love . But you can`t stop your`self . You`r feelings are something that you can`t control . So don`t stress & overthink ... it usually ends up screwing the whole thing up .
    If it feels right . Leave it . If it feels right being with him . Just let it go .