Can you help me(girls please)

If you love a guy alot. He respects you and all how do you know if you are ready to have sex with him. I trustly trsuely love him and he said he won't do anything untill i am ready but i don't know what to do how do you truely know if you want have sex with him. Could you tell me, or atleast tell me how you know if he is really to have sex with you thanks all.

My answer:

NOT UNTIL YOUR MARRIED

But I won't shove my views down your throat. Like ^ said, if you have to ask, you aren't

.:Danielle:.

"trustly trsuely".

^When your literary skills are so poor, how can you be ready for anything?

You are so luck to have someone who is willing to wait for u. If he truely meant what he said you shouldn't worry. when your ready you'll know.

Ok 2 the lady who was talkin about grammar and evrything, wtf? the girl's only wantin 2 know sumthing and if u have a problem with grammar or w/e then GET OVER IT!! n e ways, either the guy loves u and he'll wait, or u can say tht u're not ready and if he dumps u then u'll know tht he wasn't the 1.

I am 17.

I agree all the way with Poetess on this one.

Don't have sex until you KNOW you are ready. There will be no questions, no threads on a poetry website asking for advice, no insecurities, or uncertainties. If you don't know you are ready, and you have sex anyway, you will regret it. You're talking to someone who knows and has regretted it horribly for the past 4 years. Don't make my mistake.

In my opinion, sixteen is too young, some people can handle the repsonsibilty at that age, others can't.
If you have to ask people for advice, i'd say your not ready. But why so worried.
He said he'll wait.
Thats gotta mean something right?
So just enjoy being with him at the moment, you don't need sex to have a relationship.
i can't stress that enough.
*Gem*

Wow. I don't think your ready, I can tell from what you wrote. If he's willing to wait thats great. And what Gem said is very true. Listen to that.

If he respects you he will will wait and if you truely love him then wait till the time is right. only you know when your ready for something like that. just follow your heart<33

Im sorry hunny but your not ready and if he says that he will wait that could just be sweet talk...he could just want to get in your pants even more! Just see how long he waits, because thats what you have to do because if you dont you will regret your first time and you dont want that! how long have you been going ouy with this guy? You need to ask yourself that! You need to think about your relationship with him and if it will mess up your relationship before it benefits it! Think about the outcomes that may come of this you cant just be thinking about if your ready for sex you need to think about if your ready to risk having a child or a disease! I know it doesnt happen to all of us and i can just be blowing out of proportion or i could be helping you..take it how you want.

If he says he'll wait till your ready that could just be him trying to convince you that you guys should have sex. I'm sorry to say it but a lot of guys are like that. I would justwait and see how long he waits. If he waits and doesn't try to sweet talk to you into it. Then he is being serious. But there are also some things that you need to think about. Like how long you guys have been going out. So you just need to stop and think about all the componnets and then you'll have your answer.

In my veiw, you will know when your ready. i never got that option. girl... sex is not important, it can just royally mess up relationships. give it time. you will know when you are ready.

If you have one doubt in your mind,
you AREN'T ready.
even if it is the SMALLEST doubt,
you arent ready.

I agree with ^

and if you have to ask.. i dont think your ready.. besides whats the rush.. he said he would wait..

My opioinon is i dont think you need anyone to answer that question but the pair of ya! the fact that you have asked shows your unsure so wait it wont hurt either of you will it?
thats just my opion mel

My answer:

.:Danielle:. said most of it I strongly agree with her.

ABSTINENCE IS THE WAY!!!!!!!!!!!!

When you stop wondering if it's right, then it's right. It's not something you should have to think about. Its just one of those things -- when you know, you know.

I also agree with Poetess.

But seriously think about it. Condoms are all that effective. What if you do end up pregnant and what if he leaves you for someone else?

My best answer is I'd wait til I'm married because you know the husband isn't going to leave because if you're both married then it shows you that he cares and not going to leave.

^ ditto.

A quiet mind is all you need...

You have to think to yourself:
Why am I doing this?
Is it because I LOVE him or because I want to PLEASE him?
Do whatever you feel you should, just guard your heart.

Thanks everyone i know i do want to wait untill i get married but sometimes it seems like it isn't going to last that long. I do truely truely love him but for me i am probably just going to wait untill my wedding night hehehehe. Thanks everyone

Just follow your gut. but dont be so quick to make a decsion, think it over

I agree with Danielle. I gave my promise to God that I would wait for marriage. But what you believe may be different from me.

TRUE LOVE WAITS!!

~*GeN*~

We have been going out for over 3 months now, but the thing is he is such a nice guy and i feel really confortable around him and all. He has had sex before and i am just worried about what would happen, and another thing he was with a girl that was pregant but he dind't know the only girl he had sex with. but anyway. thanks all i think this is really helping me to get over it. Most of the time i know i can wait untill my wedding day but sometimes it just feels like i can't control myself and that i want him. It is just sooooo weird right now.

Don't rush yourself. You could end up very unhappy and in a heck of a mess. I agree with Batman. You should know completely with your whole heart and soul. Believe me, I made that mistake. It's not pretty. I don't have AIDS or and STD, but I have a hole in my soul I can't fill. BE CAREFUL!