Why Can't She Go Away!?

Ok, so my friend knew this guy at the begining of the school year. He was dating some girl at the time. Well, during the end of March, he started talking to her more(he was still dating this girl). She started to like him, and he started to like her. So behind his girlfriends back he went to her house, and hung out.
*Ok story why he didn't care. She was horrible to him. (The guys girlfriend). He has to have 3 jobs becuase his mom doesn't do CRAP he barely has enough money to support himself. He can't buy a little thing. But she's always like buy me this buy me that. She was very aggresive to him. She bossed him around. He was scared to elave her becuase of what she would do.*
Anyways, he finally broke up with her because she was getting to much power over him. He wanted to date my friend. Well lets just say they are head over heels for each other. So just yesterday, the guys ex got on his myspace SOMEHOW and read a messege that said "I tighten the loose ends with her, and I can go out with you". (He sent that to my friend). She got pissed. Since she's a sinor she left school after 4th hour before or after lunch. So when normal school got out, my friend and her new boyfriend(that same guy) were walking to his car and his ex was parked right by him. She gets out the car and slapps him so hard that he had a red hand on his face and it was turning blue(litterally). My best friend was crying so hard she couldn't speak because she had to see that. His ex was cussing and yelling at him. After that Bre, my friend, was about to get into the car when she turned to her and said, " You don't know what love is, you probably can't even spell it." While Bre was just seeing her boyfriend, after he broke up with his ex, she STALKED him and my friend at the mall. HOW RETARTED! I'm very scared for my friend. She is a small person, 4'9. This girl is bigger than me. She does look like someone who you cna't mess with. She's an aggresiv person and doesn't care at all. Don't you think that if she TRULY loves her ex, she would want whats happy for him, and not try and make his life a living hell? Why won't she just leave them alone!?

No doubt she truly loved him. She struck him cause she was hurt and she wanted him to feel that hurt. She has a problem letting go.

Ooh she has a bit of a problem... she's possessive maybe..=/ and slapping a guy and stalking him is a problem with letting go or maybe she's crazy who knows? if it gets violent tell someone.

Since she is the ex possessive makes sense. Maybe in her eyes somebody took what was hers.

But during their relationship she treated him like crap. She MADE him buy her stuff. His mom doesn't do anything he LITTERALLY has to pays house bills, car notes, EVERYTHING with 3 jobs! He's 17! But she still demanded gifts. Not only that just always hit him, she was abusive and aggresive to him.

I would have to agree with Marsha, then. She reminds me of the woman in the movie, "Play Misty For Me." I thought Clint Eastwood did a good job in the movie.

Clint Eastwood plays Dave Garver, a radio DJ in southern California. One night, a woman calls requesting that he "Play Misty for me." Later, he meets the woman at a bar he goes to often, and they go back to her house together and make love. The next morning, he leaves, figuring it was just a one-night stand, but when he gets home, the woman, Evelyn Draper (Jessica Walter) shows up with groceries and starts to make herself at home. Dave decides to go with it, and later sees that his old girlfriend, Tobie Williams (Donna Mills), is back in town, and the two become close again. But Evelyn won't go away, and continues to follow Dave everywhere, and starts to get viciously jealous of Tobie. And as Dave and Tobie's relationship forms, Evelyn becomes angry and violent, and eventually, murderous, and Dave must find some way to stop her before she ruins his life, and potentially, kills him.

A very creepy movie. Jessica Walter is beyond convincing as the jealous psycho lover, and Clint Eastwood proves that he doesn't just do Dirty Harry movies. Donna Mills is also quite good as the innocent girlfriend. The movie implies and foreshadows a lot, making everything even scarier. But the best scene in the whole movie is the knife attack on the maid, Birdie. That scene competes with the shower scene in "Psycho" as one of the most shocking in film history. The way the camera darts and swings around, and Birdie's screams as she struggles and fights to get away, all add up to one of the scariest scenes I've every seen. The climax is quite good, if not executed a little too quickly, but what led to it was shocking enough to overshadow it.

It was made in 1971 but watch it.

Yeah, it makes me sad. My friend and her boyfriend are so hapy to gether. But how can someone so heartless try and take that away. I've never seen my friend so happy before. And I'm scared this crazy person is going to do something to her.

Oh god . Those situations . Those girls irritate the crap out of me . I kicked a few of them . She`s possesive, like that chick said . She probably feels hurt that she got replaced (therefore, leading to the slap), but I partly think she was just using the guy . Cuhs` that`s hecka screwd up to make the guy buy stuff for her even when he`s going through that . She probably comes off insane because she`s doing that, but she just has trouble letting go . She just takes getting dumped to a higher level with the stalking . But unless she lays a finger on you`r friend, or makes any threats, step back and just watch you`r friends back . Normally it would be girl vs. girl, but if she slapped the guy then she`s pissed with him . I doubt she`ll do anything to you`r friend, but seeing you`r boyfriend get hit hurts . So if she doesn`t lay off any time soon, don`t front . Just go up & give her a piece of you`r mind . If I were in you`r position, despite the fact that she`s bigger than you, I still would`ve pounded her butt . But I`m just violent .
Good luck `tho . I hope the situation gets better for you`r friend & her guy .
..__MiNDYY

Oh I totes feel sry for ur bff and her bf. his ex needs to get a life but you know, I might come off as a little too mean, but uhh...has the guy tried to like...do something about being pushed around by her? Talk to her parents? or other trusted adults? maybe she's mental, I've heard of those ppl getting all crazy over a guy. but that was in a movie...hehehe

No he was scared of what she could do to him. She's very ignorant for a sinor in highschool AND she has anger problems and has a problem with everything not going her way.

So she IS mental and bratty....And her parents aren't doing anything about it? Don't they know that their lil girl is out stalking ppl? that's like sad....

Take notes of when you guys notice her near you's like the time, the date, where u r and that sort of stuf, if it happens heaps in a short period of time you can charge her for stalking or you can get a restraining order on her, that way if she is around you, just call the cops, if she gets caught 3 times she goes to court for it.... i feel sorry for your friend and her bf, that would really suck, but at least he's not with that psycho retard anymore lol

There are (at least) two sides to every story. Prejudgment is ridiculous...do you even KNOW this girl other than through your boyfriend? Even still, she has a reason for what she does, justified or no. Your words: GET OVER IT.

Sorry, I didn't take the time to read the entire post, I hope my response is related.

If this carries on, call the police. It's really not worth the hours of worry and torment.
When Marcus broke up with his ex, i started to get phone calls at two in the morning and they were following us around and all sorts.
In the end, i flipped and called the police.
I still get an odd phone call but nothing to the extent of before. And this is years later.
And she was exactly like the girl you are describing, she used to beat up Marcus and her brother hit him over the head with a hammer at one point.
It's not worth waiting to see what's going to do. Get a restraining order put on her.
Good luck
*Gem*

Okay, Daenerys Stormborn, you weren't close. Sorry, it's not my boyfriend it's my friends. She has no reason to abuse him. Take time to read it, and then post your opinon, don't say something you're not sure about. You have it ALL wrong. My boyfriend is NO WHERE in this conflict.

Ok fine, I will read it now...Give me a minute.

Ah, sounds like this guy completely destroyed any pride his ex had. He started seeing someone else while with her, then dumped her out of nowhere and pops up with a new girlfriend. That must hurt A LOT. No, that isn't an excuse for her to stalk your friend and this guy, but still...I understand completely where the ex is coming from. This guy should have dumped her a long time ago, he had to find a replacement to protect him from the wrath of a break up? I don't agree with that. If he didn't care for her, he should have ended it. Period. Not starting something else up while already in a relationship--that is brutal. I almost feel bad for the ex. No, she should not have been taking advantage of him, but he let her do so. We are human beings. Most of us take advantage when we can, not because we should, but it is in our nature to be power hungry. I'm not excusing her behavior, but I think it makes sense. Anyway, about your friend. If I were you, I would encourage her to back out of the picture. At least until this guy sorts things out with his ex. He just left her hanging, how can she get over him without ANY closure and seeing him immediately with someone else? Ouch, that stings. We are all bad people sometimes, something pushed her to behave the way she behaves. Why did this guy date her in the first place? And why did he buy her things if he didn't want to? He didn't have to do anything he didn't want to do, end of story. I hate people who allow themselves to be manipulated. Blah, to sum things up: Tell your friend to tell her new boyfriend that he needs to work his junk out before they can continue their relationship.

Starting a new relationship with extra baggage is never healthy...or safe.

Oh wow...maybe she is right but I'm still not feeling sry for his ex...she sounds mean and unbearably cruel.

I don't care what you say what ever your name is(not the one directly above me). But he was SCARED to let her go because of what she might do to him. She deserves every bit of crap. She doesn't deserve him. She slaps him in the face, treats him like crap, MAKES him buy her stuff, and expects him to completly stop his life for her. My friends boyfriend, he LIKED her a lot. Because my friend treated him better than this little brat did. You're the ONLY one who feels sorry for the ex. NO BODY feels sory for her just because of how she treated this really nice guy. It kills me to know he was practically held against his own will. He is head over heels for my friend and she is for him too. They derserve to be together. And he can't sort out the problem if his ex just wants them to break up so she can try to get back with what she's not getting back. If she wanted him, she woul dhave never treated him like that. If she loves him, she'd want whats best for him? Am I right?

Yes, of course she would want what's best for him. I never said otherwise. However, whatever her feelings may be, he stabbed her in the back..justified or no. I would have slapped him as well. You don't like my advice, don't take it. Enough said. Don't ask for advice and freak out when someone says something you don't like. If you're just looking for people to support your claim, and not question your ideas, you should say so. I, however, think for myself, and question everything. I don't eat just anything I'm fed, I have to investigate first.

My name is Jane. That should be easier to type out.

Well, you don't understand the situation. She had no right to hit him. No matter what the circumstances are. If you knew what was going on or was in the situation with the three of us, then you'd understand. But I don't intend for you to understand, or anyone. But she needs to leave them alone. Get over the fact that he doesn't want her anymore. And tha the likes my friend.

Yes, she does need to get over him and move on. There is nothing left to do, but everything takes time. Everyone needs to get over what's going on, process reality and continue life from there. I stick to my thoughts as to the boyfriend talking to his ex, trying to clear some things up. Explain to HER that she treated him badly, he's sorry for not being the better person and ending things correctly, but it's over (for good).