The Lie, my Parents, and Me. {help, please}

Okay. Usually, I'm pretty good at giving advice. But I just don't know what to do anymore with my family.
Here's the story. I told my parents that I was going to a friend's (Rayna) house with my best friend (April) and her sister (Em). Well. April and Em told their parents that they were going to another one of our friend's (Cassie). We're pretty smart (even if we do live in hick town), so we parked the jeep at Cassie's house, to make it look like we were there. Then we had April's boyfriend (Billy) come pick us up, beings he was the one throwing the party.
The next day I was supposed to be at my grandparents house at noon for a family gathering. It just so happens that Billy lives int he same little town as my gparents. The only problem is that my cell phone doesn't get service worth a crap in Oakville (the little town). So when my mom got my answering machine, she called Rayna's house. And when she found out I wasn't there, she called April's mom. April's mom told her that we were all at Cassie's. So to cover up my lie, I had to lie again. And to cover my best friend, I lied as well. So everything worked out okay ... right? WRONG. My mother told me she was going to call Cassie's mom and make sure that I was there.. well, if she did that, we'd ALL be in trouble. So I told the truth. I told them everything, about the lying, and whatever. I told them. And I made them promise that they wouldn't call April's parents and tell them ... because if they did, my bi-polar best friend would never ever forgive me.
I love April with all my heart and soul. She's the greatest friend a person could have... she UNDERSTANDS me. But she wouldn't understand MY parents telling HER parents. It would ruin her life .. and mine as well. So now I have to do whatever my parents tell me or else they threaten me with "Anita, you do this or I'll make a call..." It hurts so bad. I learned my lesson. I truely did. But do they have to blackmail me? Is this right? I'm so confused. I hate crying. It gives me a headache, and lately, I've been crying so much, I get migrains. And the nurse at school asks why.. I can't tell her. I just say,"Maybe I need to get new perscription on my glasses..." I need advice. What should I do? What do I do to make this all just go away?

- Anita </3

Well. That's what parents do. That's what mainly all people do. You tell them something that you did wrong, and they use it against you any chance they get. Your parents may be using it against you to make you learn, or they may not be. But, when it comes down to it all...if they call her parents, she will still stick with you and be your friend...and if she doesn't...than she's not a true friend sorry to say...but true friends don't do that, and it was partially her fault for going as well. Any one of you guys could have stood up and said "No, I can't do this, I can't lie to my parents...it's wrong." But you didn't, so you have to suffer the consequences, together.

Best wishes. =)

Well until it dies down, this might go on for a month or so but I guarantee you it won't last longer than that. Besides, everyone gets in trouble. Can't even count the times within the last two years where I've gotten in MAJOR trouble...but I'm just a problem child (although I'm 18 now and out of the house a lot of time so things are better)...and it sucks, but your parents love you or else they wouldn't get mad at you, they just wouldn't care. So just stick with it!

"To make it all go away
u can kill ur self but that will just make things worse"

what the actual hell?
stop advising people to KILL THEMSELVES.
okay firstly, don't kill yourself.
either talk to them, tell them how think they're being unfair, or put up with it and protect your friends feelings.
but she's going to get hurt later on in life, whether she's bi-polar or not, and if she can't deal with this, she won't be able to deal with anything.
so it really all depends on what you want to do.
x

Wow I'll just leave this to everyone else.

I think they were just really starting to get scared about you when you weren't at your friends house like you said you were going to be.

"Anita, you do this or I'll make a call..." -

It might seem threatening but they're trying to keep you out of trouble and to not lie again. All parents get scared when they can't find their kid at where they are suppose to be. I always tell my grandma that I'm going somewhere and that I might go to this persons house and that persons house, possible houses that I might go to and who I'm going with and who lives at that house, so she don't get scared and she knows where I am at.

It's better to tell the truth then lie about something. Trust me, I've learned my lessons!

Well.. I'm not saying it's right but it is your parents decision. After all, you were the one that lied and got caught doing so.. they have every right to punish you but it's actually pretty nice that they're only threatening you with one thing. The good thing is though that you did tell her the truth, they should cut you some slack for that and you do seem like a very faithful friend =) But remember, next time you should either not lie or try harder at not getting caught. Good luck!

~Loveless Nights~

Hun....you are 15!! This was a pretty silly thing to do...For instance..what if some guy had jumped in the car with you girls..held you at gun point and then raped and killed you....How long do you think it would've taken for your parents to figure all this out??? I mean..with age comes maturity and more rational thinking..you know?? You shouldn't lie to your parents..and you shouldn't disobey them.. They know what is best for you..Imagine how betrayed your mom feels..

First of all : thank you all for your advice.
Second of all : I don't think that since I posted this in the "Sadness & Depression" forum, you should advise me to kill myself ... whoever said that.

Okay. I know that I lied, and when I did, I knew that if I got caught there would be consequences. And I'm dealing with them. I just thought,"Hey. I've done it a dozen times before, it won't be any different." But I DID get caught. And I'm truely sorry, because it's killing me inside that I lied to my parents. This happened like 3 weeks ago now... we bearly speak anymore. They're parents that would tell you that they love you every night before you go to bed ... they haven't said the word "love" to me ever since this happened. It hurts. And they KEEP blackmailing me. I swear to God our house has never been this clean...

As for my best friend. I know she loves me... but she wouldn't understand. She has major problems. But HER mom won't listen to her when she says that she needs help. I convinced my parents to not tell April's parents ...

And the what-ifs. Yes, I'm 15, and yes, I've done this same thing before, time and time again. Go ahead, call me immature, call me stupid. I know. I'm all of those things. But I DIDN'T get raped, and I DIDN'T get killed. And there is no possible way that there would be a guy who jumped in the same car as us when the only stops we made is when we dropped the jeep off at April's, then IMMEDIATELY got in the car with Bill... beings he was following us.
Then... when we got to the party house, we went inside.

I hate myself for making my parents feel the way they do. Like I said ... it's seriously killing me inside. And I'm going insane. It's like I'm on house arrest. Except for school --- I can't see my friends. I can't see my boyfriend. The only way I'm going to see my boyfriend is this weekend at prom. And I'm lucky to even go... if it weren't for the threehundred dress -- I wouldn't be going. It kills me and I've tried to talk to them, but they just say something that makes me start crying. Usually, when I cry, it means that I'm sorry. And all I do anymore is cry.
Whatever, call me a crybaby. I don't care. It hurts & I still don't know what to do.