Questions about boyfriends (for girls only please)

Has or have your boyfriend ever did something towards you or just something else that bothered you and you now think differently of him for it?

It's kinda been buggin me a little bit though,

Because Tyler did something and I just don't feel like I like him in the way I used to.

Just wondering if this happened to any of you girls.

My boyfriend does a lot of things that REALLY bother me, but they're just small things that I know he doesn't mean any real harm by...but I still love him the same.

I remember back in school I was dating this guy and we used to have so much fun. He was funny, creative, smart and I thought I was pretty lucky. Then one day my friend and I decide to swing by his house and pick him up to go to lunch with us and as we were walking up to the door we could hear him in the house yelling and screaming at his mother, calling her derogatory names, it was disgusting and surprising. We left and I called him that night to tell him we had been there and what we heard and he didn't get why I wanted to break it off with him after he explained. He said he was just mad and tired of his mom prying in his life. His definition of prying, was his mom discovering he had been stealing from her. There was this whole other side to him I just never saw. I said I could never date anyone who treated their mom that way and telling me you were stealing from her just makes it 10 times worse.

My bf once basically choose drugs over me. so we had a lot of problems for a while. and i felt like i fell out of love with him. but he realized what he did was wrong apologized and things have gotten soo much better. now i feel like i love him even more. going through that made us closer i think. and yes he still has some flaws. but i love him for everything he is.

To the poster:

It's fine if your boyfriend has quirks - little things that he does that may bother you, like throwing his dirty socks on the floor or chewing gum loudly. If, however, he has in any way made you feel unimportant, dejected, or worthless, then that is something significant. I'm not sure what sort of thing you mean, but... disrespectful falls across the line of the appropriate.

My boyfriend took a knife to school so i just said yea later! and i hate him soo much cause he scared me and i didnt know what todo

Yeah..

Boyfriends say things all of the time that'll bother you but they probably don't mean it. Guys just don't get things like girls do, you know? You should talk to him about what he said that bothered you so much.

~Loveless Nights~

When me and david argue, i find that telling him to put himself into my shoes and htink about if i hurt him like that what would he do. I show him i still love him but trust is going to be have to built up again.

xxx alex xxx

Well, my boyfriend, like to talk a lot of mess around all his friends, and he acts like he doesn't love me. He just be fronting though. But the thing i hate the most is when he threatens me. I know he loves me, but i don't know how much more i can take.

When I was recovering from my eating disorder my boyfriend who is now my ex. Said bluntly that I needed to go on a diet because I was getting fat!
This was a clear attack to my self esteem that was still recovering- and he ended up throwing me back into my bad eating habbits.
But before I crawled into a corner and cried- I knocked him out and the next day said it was over. The break up got around making me feel even worse...thinking they where gonna start calling me fat aswell but instead they made fun of him for being knocked out by a girl.
I stopped the rumor's saying it wasn't nice- and still to this day I don't know why I did.

I broke up with Tyler a few days ago. I couldn't handle him badmouthing my family and my friends.

Yeah Kelly.

Ive been down that road a few times.. They all have a way of making you think they're different and they're really not.

I think I understand.. correct me if im wrong.. but it seems like discovering the downfalls of people, not just the annoying quirks, makes you feel less.. less of whatever you felt for that person before. Its like finding out that they're ACTUALLY HUMAN and not perfect like you want them to be.

Its sad, really. That happened to me once.

I was in a very serious relationship with this boy jefff head over heals in love one day i found out him and my (x)bestfriend had been seeing each other behind my back it was like he cheated on me after that the love just started to die untill it was all gone.Good Luck with your problem

That happens to me a lot my boy well hell act really imature at times and it just bugs me but you have to think no ones perfect and i still love him

That happens to me a lot my boy well hell act really imature at times and it just bugs me but you have to think no ones perfect and i still love him

Hey yeah my bf says stuff sometimes an i find it annoying.. and somethings he does im like ok waht the hell were that about but.... it deoends what your bloke said to you to feel like that?!!!!

I broke up with my bf.

Well the reason I ask is because he'd tell me that my grandma is a "bit_h" and told me that I didn't have good friends or always asked me why I decided to meet ppl at like McDonald's or something that I've never met but lives really close to my town like 5 minutes away. Always discriminated me bout something or blamed me for not helping him with his problems. Only if he really understood that he has felonies and all that and I don't want to get 'close close' with someone like that. I found all this out later after we started going out and it TOTALLY changed my perspective towards him. Now he's been sending me rude email and telling me why I haven't found a bf yet while he has like 5 gfs already, he's a player. I've tried to tell him I ain't gonna get myself in that situation before and to get to know someone ALOT better before just jumping in a relationship without knowin the person like I did with him.

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I think you did the right thing, chica. In addition to all those you listed... I think you can tell a lot about how a guy will treat you by looking at the way he treats the older women in his life... his mother, your mother, your grandma. Even if he didn't like her, he could have kept it more gracefully to himself, instead of name-calling like an immature jerk. Which he probably is.

Omg my boyfriend tyler (lol) told like all his friends that i gave him a blowjob and i totally didnt btu idk it pissed me off and ever since then i cant seem to feel the same way as i did befor we just stared to go out about like a month ago and in the begining i told him i dint want to have any of those "things" in our relationship i told im maby later but now wasw not a good time his last girlfriend (my best friend) there whole relationship was about the physical part they did a whole bunch of things but its still wierd going out with him and just holding his hand becouse i know all the things he did with my best friend but i dont know i just thought i spill my gut to you lol
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I know what you mean.
My boyfriend is a virgin, but he's been telling all of his friends that he's not ... to look cooler. And when I confront him about it, he lies about it. Guys lie about those types of things, and us, as girls, either just need to learn to accept it, or toss them aside.
Of course it bothers us, it should ... But it's part of who they are. It Is What It Is.

Wow what an explanation lol cool so true never thoguht of it like that before.....

xxx alex xxx

Yea my boyfriend started to do weird things and i started not liking him and now we are broken up

Yeahh my boyfriend started getting really conceded right around the time we got into middle school because all these girls started liking him. it seemed like he cared about the other girls more than me so i dumped him. he had changed so much and i just couldnt take it anymore. so i know how all you guys feel. in a way. (:

Yea it has happend to me. my ex did drugs and went "riding on people" which is bacisly shooting at other people and taking them "out" and i didnt like it. i still love him and everything but i felt uncomfortable around him. the we broke up

Well we as girls need to remember that guys act different and feel things different then we do and thats part of why we love them =) My boyfriend does crazy things and we're dealing with a lot of stuff right now that could really screw things up depending on how they go but I still love him and I find that the more stuff I have to go through for him and the more pain and tears I shed because of him, the more I love him ^.^ I'm not perfect, very far from it, but he loves me with those little quirks not despite them and I try to do the same =) I always try to think about, Ok, if I was in his shoes what would I want him to do?
*sigh* My ex's name was Tyler also and *sigh* I'm planning on staying away from any guy named Tyler from now on =P I thought that he was a great guy and all that but he turned out to be a HUGE jerk =P
Rhea

No not really

Its about not settling...... im tired of seeing girls settle .. he seems perfect but then he does somethign and you like DANNNNGGGG... and when your together and hes trying to kiss you or hug you your thinking uh uh.. id dont feel the same but you dont want to give him up for whatever reason so you stick with him all the while feeling like your making a big mistake. DONT DO IT.... YOUR SETTELING... do what you feel in your heart.

its you life girl.... dont settlefor some dude that your not even feeling.