Age gap...help

This is my first post on the discussion board. and it would really help if anyone has bene in this situation..

i am 18, and i have fallen for this guy whose 30 (12 years difference), we both love eachother to pieces,a nd been friends for years, hes bene there fthrough alot with me.
now we wanna try, and i'm terrified of what my parents will say, cuz if they say no, thats it. any ideas how i can tell them.

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You are 18; you have the right. But do you both want the same things? Children, marriage, et cetera? Alot of people in the 30's range want that sort of thing whereas those who are 18...do not. I don't know. Good luck with it though. ;-)

Your 18... your legally by yourself... an adult. Your parents cant tell you what to do... or how to do it... You should care what your parents think, your parents should care what you think.

You're an adult, your parents shouldn't be able to control you anymore. They will have their opinions but it is up to you ultimately what to do. Now, for the age gap thing... I know a guy who is dating a girl 19 years younger than him, and they are happy together and have been since they met.

Age doesn't define love. It is whether both of you want the same thing ENOUGH, to make it happen.

Best wishes. =)

Yeah your an adult but at end of day your parents will always tell you what they think etc because they can aas they love you and they only wnat the best for you..
my friend is 20 and dating a 40yr old and he has 2 kids from his previous marriage..

and she kept her realtionship from her paretns for ages and wood tell her mum and dad that she was going over a friends... when really she was with him... erm... but she was scared like you are now but she spoke to him an they do want same thigns and you know what ive never seen her so happy before., at first i turned my nose up at her in away because i thought that he was too old but then saw how happy they were and i dunno it changed my way of thinking....

she plucked up her courage and told her parents and they told her they werent too happy bout it et c and had loads of arguements over it but they have growen to deal with the fact that there 20yr old daughter is with a 40yr old man with two kids already..

and thing is you dont know how your parents will react.... but if your really serious and really really deep down want to be with him then you should speak to them bout it.. maybe go to the one who you are closer to speak bout it then approch the other one...

i dunno good luck

I agree, you're 18.. at the end of the day, you are an adult and should be concidered one to your parents. You are now the age to go out on your own, you don't have to stay with them if they refuse to let you see this 30 year old. Even though they may not turn out being happy with this though, you have to tell them about it eventually.. don't try to hide it like other people would. Besides, if you two are happy together.. then what's the problem? That's what I think at least, happiness comes before all things.

Good luck! I hope you make the right choice.

~Loveless Nights~

Yeah that's not as bad as an age difference as I would have thought. If you were any younger than 18, I would be like...thats pretty sketchy...but whatever you do with this person now is legal. You're just going to have to realize that your parents are concerned for you and won't understand how you feel, but if you really like this person, it can work and you can work at it. Good luck!

You can tell your parents by just telling them what you think about him and no matter what they think your a big adult now and your life is what you make it. So after you talk to them you should let them think about it and leave them alone until they call you. If they don't call you they are probably now concerned.Hope this helps because all the other comments are about other things besides how you can tell them.

Sincerely,
Bridgett

You can do whatever you fancy. You're 18. Live your life the way you want, not your parents. I mean, that is a big difference. If it were me, I'd be terrified and avoid going out the in the first place. But that's just me. I'm still 15 and young. I have a lot to experiance. But still, it's your world, your life, not your parents. But don't forget, they are the reason you are here right now.

Is he anything to your parents, like a family friend or something?

Im 15 and my boyfriend is 18....not much of a big gap tho lol, but we try to make it work

Haha well guess wut this is even worse im 13 turning 14 and ive started to like this guy thats 18 we havent done anything yet n im not planning on loosing me V card to him ... anyways go for him like everyone is saying our an adult n can make ur own choices ... un like me on the other hand hahah if he loves you n u love him ( to peices) then what are u waiting forr?

Most people are saying that since you are an adult (18) you should be able to make your own decisons...but what if you were 17? Then people would be saying how wrong it is. People mature at different ages. I believe it depends on your maturity level, not your age.

Age is just a number ,if you love someone then age should not come into it ,likewise when you love someone the colour of their skin ,or even how big or small they are should not make the slightest difference ,for if that love is true it can work.Personally though I have been with my partner 12 years and he is 17 years older ,alot of the time I feel trapped and suffercated as he is jealous of any friendships I have with people my own age ,and there are times he talks down at me like I am a child.As for your parents ,they only want what is best for you.

SOMEONE UP THERE IS BAD AT MATHS they said when he is 60 shell be 42 she will actually be 48 who cares love is the most importnt thing maidison

Urm... excuse me your 18 hun you know what you wat(even thoguh your parents wont see it this way) youll be their baby, they will get used to it you cant help who you fall for ... xxx alex xxx

As long as you are in love that's all that matters. if your parnets love you then they will try to accept him bcause that don't want to lose you