Do I have the right??

Ok let me see if I can explain this... Yes some of you will think I'm stupid in the first place but hopefully we can get past that. When I met my boyfriend, his ex girlfriend still lived with him. They had been seperated for two months yet she still had nowhere else to go. Ok I put my foor down, in the first week she was out, moved back in with her mom. So they were together for awhile so they have bills together or whatever. Ok I get that. I made him at least stop paying her share of them which he did. The only thing he pays now is a loan they took out together. Of course she still calls him about stupid stuff. Any excuse to call him but itwas mostly about the kitten he got her last mother's day because she knew how attatched he was to that cat. Well last night she calls him and tells him that the cat is sick. (now this is after she's told everyone I'm fat and ugly, tried to run over me in the car, found me on myspace and made an account JUST TO SEND ME A MESSAGE!! so on and so forth) and that she wants him to take them to the animal hospital about an hour or so away at 11 o'clock at night (he was at work). So he calls me to ask me about it and asks me if I would be comfortable going. I said fine but she said hell no. After a back and forth argument her dad finally takes her and by now the cat is dead. So he comes home from work and tells me about it so I try to comfort him. We lay down to go to sleep and she calls at 12:40 at night knowing both of us have to get up at 5am. She's crying or whatever and he's trying to calm her down. For some reason the main thing that sticks out in my mind is when he said "I can't hold you anymore". I don't know why but I've been stuck on that all day. He told her to just calm down and get some sleep. So they fight a few more times and he finally says goodnight. Then maybe 10 mins later she text messages him and says something about 'i'm in a time of need and you're just beeing an asshole' i'm like OMG!!!

Sooooo all that said he's moving in with me next week. Do I have the right to say break it off completly?! I mean I know he's just trying to be nice because he's a nice guy but I don't know how much more I can take. And how do I say it without him getting mad at me???

Wow, wat a problem. First of by the sounds of it he loves you definatly. But im sorry but all boys still have a kind of love for people teyve shared a past with, not a love like you both have now however.This is more like she is family, the way she is behaving however is childish and ridiculus as she knows you are together and happy. I think she is still in love with your bf, but knows she wont get back with him, i think you should tell your boyfriend how you feel but allow them to stay in contact. Its going to make it worse for them both if you interven hun. I think you should let your boyfriend decided what he wants to do. dont worry about it xxx alex xxx

"my grandfather told me once, if you're about to join a pool game and you don't know who the sucker is, it's usually you"

^Yep, that pretty much sums up my answer. Wise Grandfather spreading a wise message.

"and hint, he's not over her, nor is he totally committed to you, if he was he wouldn't answer her calls or her text messages.....open your eyes before it's to late..."

Or maybe he's just a decent fellow who's actually trying to be considerate about someone he used to care about...

I agree with the others - talk to him, ask him to limit his interactions with her, maybe, but don't tell him to completely cut her out unless you have good evidence that he's messing around or something. Basically, don't put yourself in the position where you have to be the overbearing, restrictive partner in the relationship - he may grow to resent you for it.

It sounds like he finds her as pesteringly pathetic as you do, and is just humoring her because he is a nice guy. Talk with him about it, but be understanding and kind. If you both listen to eachother, you might find that he is just as ready to be rid of her as you are, and you might find a way to solve this.

He could be a nice guy, or maybe he just needs to get a backbone and stand up for himself, you and your guys' relationship, and tell her to back off, it's over, move on.

Well he is a really nice guy and he's trying to keep the peace because of the loan crap. I didn't really get a chance to talk to him about it last night but he tells me he loves me all the time and we're talking about starting a family together. He never tries to hide the fact that they are talking. He always tells me when she calls and what she says. He never refuses to answer the phone or talk in front of me. I guess I just need to relax. She didn't call yesterday or anything so maybe she's finally dealing with it on her own.

WOW

If he was really ovr her why was she still living with him? i think that when both of you started dating he was still with her.