CHILD ABUSE AND THE SIGNS

Do you think you can spot a child that is being abused and do you know what to look for. The signs that a child gives out ,the way they dress, stay to their selfs, loners
they need someone to talk to but are scared ,so what do you do to help?

No it isn't but a lot of them are being abused and won't say anything because they are scared that someone will get back to the parents and cause more abuse

Yes very good book by david pelzer

Yes bob , i was in a foster home and I was being abused ,that was where most of my abuse came from

I can remember being chained to a tree so they would know where I was at all times ,so they didn't have to get up and look for me. especially when they started drinking.

Well to be honest about it ,it wasn't a foster home. M y mom just gave me up to these people and had no idea what was in store for me .

Omg thats horrible.

Yeah I've heard of this as well and I think I know of some people.

You are and don't worry about anything
but I want people to know what happen to me ,because its something that no one needs to go through. And if I had my way I would go back and beat them and do the things to them that they did to me.

-Sigh-
A close friend of mine was sexually abused by her teacher...
Her behaiviour changed... her school sent her to their concillar andt hen to a psychyatrist.
To this day, me and only 2 other people know what happened.
I wish people were more aware of this problem... i wish people would of recognised her signs. Now its too late isnt it? :(
No one deserves to go through the pain i know she's been through and still is going through.

Right now the best thing you can give her is support

I try to. I really try to. Ive searched for infomation on it. I know some of the stuff shes experiancing as a result of it as i have expreriancedthem myself (like self harm and eating disorders). I let her know that im hear for her and stuff... But shes the type of person that doesnt want people helping her. She wants to do it all on her own..
But still i an trying to be supportive and stuff... It just hurts tosee her in so much pain. I really hate that guy...

I know how she feels, I wanted someone to help me but no one would ,so I had to make it on my own ,but it made me stronger.

Hmm... Im just worried about her.

Just be there for her ,because she will need you ,trust me , I know 16 years of abuse ,I needed someone.

I couldn't agree with you more Bob. But there are so many kids out there that do need someone to step in and take actions because they really do need help. And the system isn't going to do anything about it until it's to late then what ,another one bites the dust,sad but so true,like i said there are only 36 states that have child abuse laws to protect kids,that sucks.

Well actually I am very introverted, avoid conversation, am a very big loner, and I am not abused in any way at all, my parents would never do that. But my teacher has gotten woried because of a poem I wrote and when you wrongly believe something is wrong it just gets the child pissed off at you

True have you talked to someone about that .

About what? About getting pissed at my teacher?
Only to my sister, I just dont get how the poem led her to believe I was sad/depressed/needed help.

I wished that I had someone that was concerned about me when I was growing up. Every time I told someone that something was wrong, I always got the same line, get over it ,be glad you got a roof over your head and stop whining. So maybe like Bob said you should be glad someone cares enough to ask you whats wrong.

1. My teacher is not a professional in child abuse
2.look up the word whining, I simply stated that it bothered my and I got angered when she assumed that because I like to be alone that something was wrong. Last time I checked whining didnt mean stating that it angered you when people assumed wrongly.And if I wanted to whine, then I could have started a whole emo topic about it, did I? Hmm, I think not.

Some people don't reach out though. SOme people do nothing and believe their parents are right and in their mind know everythings ok.. sAnd I think that's more prominante then those kids who sit alone

Every time I told someone that something was wrong, I always got the same line, get over it ,be glad you got a roof over your head and stop whining

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# 1. If you go back and read it stated and I quote (they told me to stop whining at least I had a roof over my head) need to learn to read before you assume anything
no one said you were whining, I simply said be glad you had someone that cared enough to want to know what was wrong with you.Thats the problem today people don't take time to read what they see .

It happens to a child every 10 minutes in the U S everyday,sexually,mentally,or physical abuse of some kind, very sad but so true.

My thearpist told me that about 3 in 30 people in my school would have experienced abuse. it's a scary thought to think that peers of mine would have gone or going through the same thing and that i could help them if i knew for sure. i have learnt to be aware of signs from people but often it takes a while to be sure the signs there displaying are real and related and also it takes a while to see all the signs. it took people 10years for me, and let me tell you i displayed plenty of signs. the thing that bob said about how someone always knows there just ignore it or don't do anything about it, really hit me because it is so true. maybe i should perfer dogs...if only they could talk back...not that that's always a bad thing

Your all right about the signs, i still act that exact way today even 9 years after it stopped.

We all do in a way, but some of us still fight to make a difference, I myself know I can't win this battle but I won't go down without a fight ,if I can help one person which I have ,then I feel that my life is a lot better. My biggest problem is being in a place like Wal-mart and seeing some parent get mad at a kid and slap it up side the head. Which I have been to jail a few times for beating there azz , but the judge usually drops the case so I don't worry about it to much. But I refuse to turn my head and pretend I didn't see it, because that makes me feel just as bad as if I did myself,I may be wrong for doing it. But child has a butt to pop and there heads. And any parent that hits a kid in the head in my book is stupid, and don't care who it makes mad because I said it.

True...but that doesnt mean tht its rite. They shouldnt do tht. I dont see how that shows that you love someone. Hurting them.

Very true, they have no right to abuse there kids because of what they went through, I had 3 girls and 2 boys,and if someone ever put there hands on either one of them , I would have killed them myself. There is no excuse for there behavior and no reason to make excuses for them, what they need is to be tied to a tree and beat with a bull whip. My way of thinking, and it's true such have to be put through the same treatment I have no pity on abusers. Had my way we would go back to hanging them in the trees to make a point.

A sad case of a 3 year old just ran over by a car,mother did not have her in a car seat, child locks on doors were not engaged she open the door and fell on to the road and another car ran over her and killed her, now the mom is being charged for the death neglect, this just happened about 30 minutes ago. Very sad just picked the kids up from day care and didn't take time to buckle them in the seats. this happened in S.C, Anderson county, just thought you would like to know.Not always abuse that get you. Neglect will too.

I dont believe every child gives out the signs as i never let on to anyone and to this day not many people know. sometimes if you really are scared of people finding out the truth kids will go out their way to make it seem ok xx

Im shy nd im a loner but i yea i tnk wat u said is true .. i agree.. i myself had been a victim of child abuse nd my bestfrendz too.. thats what we ol hav in common.. but up 2 thiz days nobody knows except 4 us.. cuz i guess sumtyms we jus feel so ashamed nd scared nd uhm we feel like uhmm no one cares anyway....

My best friend is getting abuse and she is not a loner and she has lots of friends and all that and she doesn't kepep to herself. so therefore, it can be the person you least expect it to happen to and thank God that DSS is going to do something about it