It is never too late to say goodbye...

So one of my best mates died a year back on June 14th 2006 and till this day I have not gone to her grave to mourn for her because I find that I just cannot do it. I feel that I have let her down because we promised eachother that if anything happened to on eof us then we would always be there and go to visit the other. But I have not yet found the confidence toxx

Any loss is difficult, especially someone who is close to you! its never too late! it took me 4 years to properly say bye to someone close to me! take your time and just go see her, sit with her and talk with her...its not as bad as you think but it can be kinda upsetting...go when you are ready!

Emma
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I know how you feel.. My grandmother died back in April of 2006. We were pretty close, too. I was out of town on business and couldn't attend the funeral. I haven't been able to bring myself to visit her grave because a part of me shuns myself and worries if she's angry with me for not being there. I sometimes wonder if my family looks down on me for it. But things like this take time.

When you feel you can - emotionally, mentally, physically and otherwise - go to your friend's grave and leave flowers, meditate or pray... pay your respects to your friend. Like my grandmother, I'm sure your friend forgives you and understands.

I can relate alot to your problem, My friend died in a car accident and I didn't visit her grave for a long time. It's hard you just don't know what to say when you get there, how to handle it, how to feel, I was scared of excepting the fact she was gone. But After awhile I learned to deal with it. I learned that she wasn't going to hate me for it, and that Taking my time helped. It's never to late to say goodbye, But if you wait to long you may not get the chance.

My nan died four months ago and has yet to have her ashes buried so i have no place to let it all out.. do yourself a favour and go see her.. you'll feel so much better.
Good luck
*Gem*

Late is better than not doing anything at all...

remember school..

Its never to late to say goodbye but you dont neccesarly have to go to her grave to do that.. and you know it takes a while for some ppl to go to their lost one's grave but one day when your ready you'll go

Liz

Thats ok do not feel bad, i have lost any people and for many reasons i cant visit them. i didnt even go to the funerals. trust me your friend will understand and know that you will visit her when you are ready. this sounds silly but why not go with something either liek a teddy? or afave thing to hold or something you both liked or had? might help you feel more confident in seeing her xxx