Am i mad or what?

hey wlel seems liek uve both thought alot bout urfuture. butthere r lots of thinsg u need to consider. i was 20 my hus 17 when we got pregnant and that was soemthing we both decide don after dating 3-4 mths so sometimes its just the right thing to do. I will tell u it is a lot alot of werk. If u qnd ur bf are gonna get a place of ur own ud oth have to have jobs cause bils are expenisve and when ur pregnant at soem point u have to stop werkign which menas no money will come in. babies r expenisve and very ver y time consuming so ur bf woudl have to have a goo dpaying job to supprt all u and a baby cause its atelats a mth or 2 b4 u can go back to werk if ur werkign and then u have to make sure u have somone who can watch the bbay maybe ur lucky eough to have family

now if ur in school still then id imagine ud still b living at home and ur have to b rpered 4 what otehr ppl who may not understand have to say which can b stressful if ppl r asses but u can ignore that and of course then decide whos gonna wtach ur baby aftrewards hopefully liek i said b4 u have family at home who would b willing to watch the bbay while ur still attending school ..

also when ur pregnant ur perosnality changes u go thru soo many changes ur mad ur sad up upset ur crying ur lik ea emotional roller coaster and u will take it out on ur bf its only natatral thisis soemthing he wil have to understand tahts . having a child eitehr breaks u or makes u stronger. tahst anotehr thing u ned to think of.

so if u feel u can handle evyrhting the responisblity the life altering change and teh fact that now ur bbay is ur one top proority above all else then go 4 it.

but really make sure u r rdy finacialyy mentally and emotionaly caus ei will tell u it is not easy it vry tiirng and can b very aggrivating but its a beautiufl gift if ur rdy to acept it.

ur 16 i htink u should atyelast wait ill u ou t of school cause itd b very hard to juggle both. maybe when u guys get a place of ur own and are more finacilay settled u should talk mor eof it. now if u feel u can do all u need to do then i iwsh u and ur bf the best of luck, oo is ur bf aslo 16 btw?

If the welfare of your child was your primary consideration, as it should be, you would be waiting until you two are self-supporting, living on your own, and in a position to properly care for and support the child you bring into this world. Just imagine yourself in the position of the child as it is growing up and ask yourself which situation you would prefer your parents to be in when they had you.

You say you know life is hard but why make it even more so. The consequences of having a child at this young age are also likely to have a negative impact on your relationship. There are reasons why statistics on relationship survival for couples who became parents at your age are so dismal. Having a baby is like being grounded for 10 years or more. Combine that with job and the financial and other pressures you will face. The charm quickly erodes under that kind of stress. At 16, you are at an age when you really should be thinking about a lot of other things besides jumping into the pressures of parenthood.

ya its totally not about ur age i was 20 my hus 17 wher we decided on our son. its jsut a matter of unmderstand and being prepared 4 the soemtimes not so easy road that comes along with pregnancy and children. im still with my hus its been 3 yrs now and our son is 2 and 4 mths =) and couldnt b happier. so ope u and ur bf make the bets choice 4 the current situtaiona and i wsh u nothing but th best of luck.

If you are ready to take on that responsibily and have the emotional and financial backing that you need, and you really love each other, go for it.