He loves me. He's committed to me. He's perfect. So Why do I fee

  • Unseen Exposure
    17 years ago

    The title got cut off; sorry. i didn't realize it was too long haha.
    it was supposed to end with, "So why do I feel like RUNNING?!"

    I've never been so in love before. Perhaps it sounds mushy, perhaps it sounds childish, but however sappy it may sound, it's true. When he's sad, so am I. When his world is crumbling, so is mine. We feel together, as if we are one. It's two beings coming together to form one. There are no secrets. There are no lies.

    For some reason, however, the longer we're together; the more and more scared I get. Granted, my last relationship was less than ideal. There was a huge amount of emotional abuse and psychological damage and I feel like that's affecting my current relationship. I feel like it's preventing me from letting myself go and becoming vulnerable. I feel like I'm unable to take risks that love requires.

    The worst part is, I know my boyfriend can sense my fear. He tries his best to give me what I need, but I don't even know what that is.

    What can I do to make it better? How do I let go, accept the past and move on? How do I let myself really FEEL again?

  • Aken Sol
    17 years ago

    *sigh*
    Well, I'll be a bit serious for once since no one has posted yet.

    Most likely reason: It seems you're not ready for a relationship.

    Theory A: The damage done form the previous relationship might not have been healed yet, and if that's the case, you shouldn't have gotten together with your current boyfriend yet. In this type of situation, it's common to feel trapped and fustrated and it'll only break you down further.

    Theory B says you are likely still too young to get into an intimate relationship like so. The maturity difference is mostl likely a factor if this were the case.

    Solutions: You can 1) take a break from him and continue the relationship once you both feel ready or break up if neccessary. Pursuing a relationship that one or both parties feel uncertain about will only amage the relationship further.
    2) Go through counseling together, though this is not recommended because of your young age.

    Hope this helps,
    Aken Sol

    Message me if you have any further questions.

  • lil angel wings
    17 years ago

    In my opinion, your preparing yourself to get hurt!! i felt the same as soon as i got with Brad. its insecurity. this will past. just give it time. and girl TALK TO HIM!! the same thing everyone has been telling me bout Brads son!! just whatever you do, ignore your head and listen to your heart

  • Tricky Daze
    17 years ago

    Yes..it happened to me too
    It felt like I was drowning even though he was so lovely and kind
    Dear,because you are bored with him
    I broke up with my bf a week ago,and i finally understood the problem
    Still he whines for sure,but being free is way much good really
    I hope it helps for you
    Take care,
    Laura