Best Friend With Same Crush

Ok... I really like this guy, and I THINK he might like me back, but I was going to ask him out (I've never had a boyfriend before) but, one of my best friends likes him too, and I know, best friends before guys, I'd ask her if she'd care if I tries, but I've been in her postition, and I said I was ok with it even though it hurt a little, I'm fine with it now, though. Anyway I don't know what to do, I don't want to hurt her, but I really like this guy... and I'd talk to her about it, but I think she'd just say it was fine even if it wasn't.....I don't really know what to do.. I love my bff but I really like him.....And advice?

Simple... talk to her first... if you and her are really best friends you guys can work it out... i almost lost my best friend cuz of a guy so from experience i say you two really need to talk it out first...

Confront her. The last thing you want to do is go behind her back and do it because it will look like a deliberate attack on her. If you care about your friendship with her, you'll talk to her. If she's a true friend, she'll respect you for talking to her and wish you the best of luck with the boy. If it doesn't work out for you and him, maybe she stands a chance ... and if he wants to be with you, then she's not making a fool out of herself anymore. Trust me, just talk to her. It will save a lot of agony.

^ wow.... lol
Well I love her, and I don't want to hurt her, I've been in the same exact situation, and I wasn't really ok with it, but I did get over it, and that was with my other best friend... I just am I dunno....afraid? to talk to her, because I don't want to hurt her but idk.... and I know this guy has hurt her in the past, he went out with her for a bet, but we both like him, and I just feel guilty for liking him when he did that to her....

Huh, i dont really know what to say, what a sticky situation, personally its when you dont want to hurt friends is when you hurt them the most. But anyhow if I were you, Id talk it out with her and tell her plz lets not let this get in between us, let her know that you trully care. Your proving it right now.
Personally i dont know where to go from there but you should at least have your friendship secured, shell understand.

Lol this is a bit of an issue I had. I remember asking a girl out that my friend was interested in asking out. He had told me in advanced and I had went about it anyways regardless. He felt as though I back stabbed him which I believe was true. I was young at the time and don't even consider it a relationship, but still... Me and my buddy are still friends though and the girl has been forgotten. Nowadays if I show interest in a girl he does I simply find a new girl that intrests me because it's really better then fighting over a girl when there is plenty more out there.

Too lazy to read what other people wrote, so if this is a repeat, I`m sorry for wasting you`r time .
But jeez, why does this situation always seem to be turning up ? First things first, talk to her . If you don`t talk to her first, she`ll get the impression that you were backstabbing her -- trust me, it`s how 99.9999% of the girls I`ve met interpret it . It`s why I`m not friends with girls now (besides a few) . If she says it`s fine, and you know she`s not fine with it, confront her about it . Friendship always goes before guys, but as you`r best friend, she has to respect how you feel like how you`r respecting how she feels by talking to her about it .
..__MiNDYY

Friends before boys. Always.

There will be hundreds of other guys that come along your way. You have YEARS to find someone. So let this one go. If it bothers you, talk to your friend, and both of you can leave him alone. You don't need some boy ruining your friendship.

You should talk to your friend about this first, it's that simple. Friends should always come before boys, no matter how much you like this guy, they won't be worth the lost of a good friend. Friends will always be there for you, but in most cases.. your guy won't. So, talk to her about it first. If she doesn't want you to go for him, then don't. But if you can't than she shouldn't be able to either. You two just ignore this guy, agree that he shouldn't come between you two and you should both find a new crush.

Good luck!!!

~Loveless Nights~

Just take i one day at a time and just see what happens but make sure that you tell her that you like him too, so it isnt a surprise when she does find out.

I did talk to her, she said it was fine, but now my other friend says she was lying, and I know friends before guys.... but I'm not sure if she would even ask me if I was ok with it if she wanted to ask him out, and idk... she lied to me which hurts.....idk

Well if you talked to her and she said it was fine but it really wasnt then forget about the guy. there are more out there u kno? and i know you dont want to hurt your bestfriend and possiblity lose a bestfriend over a guy. and she might have lied to you bcuz she knows you like this guy and she doesnt want you to be hurt or mad if she went after this guy. Me and my bestfriend was in this same situation and we didt want to loose each other over a guy so we said "screw him. theres more out ther that will like us and we dont need him." u can try it...if u want...it helps

Lol, yea, thanks you guys...I'm just not going to, besties before guys, I don't want to hurt her...