Does one ever truly get over their first LOVE?

I said LOVE. So keep that in mind when answering- ust is easy to come by, and easier to forget. But what about first love?

I'm scared. I loved her. It's over now, and I don't know what to do. Meaning has been drained out from my life.

Anyway, discuss.

The sad thing about love is that it hurts...And love basically is putting your faith, trust and awe in that particular person. If one of them dies, so does the relationship.

But the thing is, you should not always dwell in darkness, and just know there are those that have the same pain too. But the good news is, it will heal, and you will find someone new.

Don't bring yourself down, and make others (and you know who it is) who love you worry about you.

Be strong mate...

*sigh* I'm afraid that, with me at least, I've never forgotten my first love or really gotten over him even though I know that he was bad for me and my boyfriend now is the best thing that could ever have happened to me =P All you can do is try to move on, not forget her because that will never happen, but put her in a place in your heart and try to go on ^.^
I think once you give someone your heart they keep a part of it forever no matter what happens between you two =P I'm sorry because i know that this doesn't help but it's what I've found out =P
Hope your ok though and that you make it though moving on, it's not an easy thing to do believe me =P
Rhea

You'll never forget your first love. But you will move on and it will get a lot easier. Time is the best healer.

I can't get over my 1st love :(

I dont think you ever forget your first love, jsut becuase it was your first. But you do move on, and find some one else. (for me atleast) it still hurts to know what we had, and that we dont have it any more, but its better to just leave it behind and find some one else.
Bianca~

No, I dont think you can get over your first love. You can learn to accept it but you're never going to forget. I dont know if you would consider that a good or bad thing. I myself, learned to accept it but we still talk and we still both know. We feel the same way but we dont talk about it. I dont want to get into detail about it, but things arnt as bad as they seem.

First TRUE love can't get it out nope. i'm still deeply in love with her.
I think about every night.

Yeah its true you dont reaaly truly get over first love.

Nope i dont think you do get over your true love.... cause i havent and never will. i love her to death... and the sad thing is is that im 14.... .. and so isnt she, we love each other very much.. and the best thing is, we are as happy as we can be....

Don't know. I thought I was in 'love'...there isn't anything to get over, I suppose.

I always think about my 1st love everytime :(

Ok, I'm wrong.

I actually really do miss him. The fact that I was able to talk and laugh with him like i've never done before with anyone else is something i'm having grave difficulty in forgetting.

And those eyes. I don't think i've ever seen anyone more beautiful than him... :) *sigh*.

I don't agree with many people on here who are hung up over people...

As i've said in a thread of this exact same questions.
Ten years down the line when you're married, with three kids, a dog and a budgie, are you really gonna think of the spotty teenager you loved in college/high school

No.
It took me six months to get over my first love and i'm now enaged to my TRUE love, there is a big difference.

My dad got divorced from my mom after 14 years together. It took him two years to get over her yet he's happily with my step mom now. OMG, he got over her! And that was a 14 year relationship!

People need to realise that while it hurts at first losing someone, it's part of life. You can't be serious that in forty odd years you'r gonna still be pining over someone from school cos thats just wrong and when you need help (not in a mean way)
Life goes on. So does love. It's hard but so's life.

*Gem*

Its hard for me. I still think about her. :(.
But thats life.

Omg.. I dont think it's possible, its sooo hard! me and my first love broke up about a month or teo ago and every since then my life hasnt been the same.. Im starting to get over him only because I havent seen him or talked to him except for once and when I saw him I was with my friend jesie and we went to where he was staying, and he wasnt there he was at kroger and so we went there and we saw him and his friend jon and I cried when I saw him I literally thought I was gonna faint, I was all shaky and I felt really weird, but then its like he hugged me and it all went away! but im starting to get over him and not seeing him is really helping. but I will admit I do miss him so the answer is no

I still am trying to get over mine, and i dont think it works. I really dont think you can get over your first love :(

Yeah i don't think you get over your first love either...well you move on..but you never forget about that person..i think there's always a piece of your heart that belongs to them...

Well if you are super sure you wont find anyone better than most likely you wont forget that person but you got to think about it this way at a point in time you think that you are in love and the next thing you know is that you fallin more in love with the next thing your first love will alway be your last because with them you will spend your life with but DONT GIVE UP IF YOU R TRUELY IN LOVE
question why did you guys break up?

OYU NEVER FORGET OR COMPLETELY GET OVER YOUR FIRST LOVE!!!!! END OF STORY I DONT WANT TO HEAR ANYMORE ABOUT IT IT IS THE TRUTH I KNOW FROM EXPERIENCE.....

No u do not ever forget ur first love... i will never forget mine... but it will get easier to move on... i am sooooo stubborn that i didnt want to listen to what other people were saying... anyone who has loved and had their heart broken has probly heard at least once that u need to just move on... i kept sayin you dont know my pain but one day it just clicked... i never told any one because this but me and my first love were engaged... we kept it secret cuz we knew that if our parents found out they would flip... since his mom and dad are the really really high class rich people and even though his dad didnt have a problem with me his mom did... so when people told me they had been in my situation i just always said you havent and u dont know my pain... nothing good ever comes from dwelling on the pain of heartbreak... ive been through all kinds of pain, suffering, heartbreak, and on and on... in fact if anyone at my school ever needed help, they would come to me... so if y'all need any help btw... u can come to me... just cuz im 14 doesnt mean that i cant be mature and wise... trust me... ive learned the hard way how to not really forget but move on... the past is the past, its unchangeable, yet unforgetable...

I dont think you will ever forget your first love. i kno ill never forget mine...im over him but when i see him, all the things we had and shared comes back to be and then i start thinking about him and i cry bcuz he said he loved me and he would never hurt me.....but he broke my heart

^ if he wouldnt hurt u he wouldnt have broken your heart... guys (no offence to any of yall) are complete @sses! they just dont think... ever... and if they do think about what they say it ends up comin to us in a different way then they intended... because guys and girls think in different ways... the only way i understand what guys say is because i had to "be a guy" for a while before... to stop something from happenin... i had to get in a club/gang/group thing that was only for guys so i had to learn to be a dude and think how they think... another reason why people come to me for advice...

A week ago..me and my boyfriend broke up. We dated 1 year and 2 months. He is my first love. I asked my mom(who is my best friend) She said NO you NEVER get over your first love..I really..really..really..wish that I can get him back. I'm scared it's for good..I really love him...

Im in love with my first love right now and weve had our ups and downs and i just cry! i love him so much and i dont ever want to lose him hes amazing we was bestmates for over a year before we got together but both loved eachother b4 we got together now its perfect but we had argument ,,,what couple dont? :) i know id never completely move on from him ...ever

It's amazing how all the people saying "Oh i'll never get over my first love" are all in their teens!

Stop being so melodramatic!
I was once like you and thought like that but got gods sake, look at the bigger picture!
Twenty odd years from now you'll be married with kids and a budgie! You won't be thinking about the spotty guy you crushed on in school!
Do you think your parents think about it when thier happily married? Your grandparents never had a broken heart?

Yes, you're hurting now and thinking of them but FFS, you're young! It's not the end of the world

*Rant over*

Hmm... here's what I think hun.

When you love someone, you never truely stop, no matter how much you want to or how long it's been since you were really in love with them. When you love somebody, you'll always have some feelings for them deep down in your heart. May not be LOVE, but you'll still have some of those same feelings for them, even if you hate them and don't want to.

"It's amazing how all the people saying "Oh i'll never get over my first love" are all in their teens!"

It's ironic you should say that, Gem. Haha.

If you completely get over somebody you "loved" at all it wasn't love in the first place.

Over time you do. It's been about 2 years since I broke up with the guy I was with for almost 4 years.. he was my first love. But things didnt work out and eventually I did get over him. But it doesn't happen overnight. I mean I do still think about him, but the feelings aren't the same. As you grow up, you change and you no longer want the same things you wanted when you were 15. I know everyone says it but its true. Time heals everything. I know because I experienced it first hand. Just be strong =]

And you can't say that if you get over them then it wasn't love in the first place because that is completely UNTRUE. You can fall in love with someone and you can fall out of love with someone. Things change. People change. But the love was real. Things just happened and feelings changed. There's nothing you can do about it.

I agree with *Gem up there

^^ Wow, people who have some sense =)

Love is love. Your first love will always be there with you. No matter how much you try and push it away.
Just go out and have fun. Try and find someone new, and don't dwell on your old girl.

Well i got over my 1st love preatty quick, and now my BFF is goin out w/ him... lol my 2nd one is real hard cuz i still like him lol good luck!

I personally don't know if it is possible. I am not over mine yet. I dated this one guy for about 4 months and honestly i know that doesn't seem like a long time but it was one of those perfect fit kind of things. He was my best friend. He still is. I constantly think about him and wonder what he is doing! I don't know if you can get over your first love. I know i never will. I am honestly really hurt by what went down between us. See he is going to college and so we decided it would hurt less if when he went away we were just friends. but i know that i still love him.

Its not easy but i guess u could even tho ive never really got over my first REAL love

You NEVER forget ur first love, and I don't think I'll ever be able to not have any feelings for him, but you move on, time passes and it becomes more and more faint

*sigh, honestly you dont. You spend so much time trying to find other people just to try and erase there memory and fill the empty space they left you with. Yet never will it happen, and chances are when you do find someone who can, then thats the one who is your true first love. Sometimes it kills me now to think that I will never be able to forget who I am in love with now, no matter how hard I try. BY the way it's so hard to love someone whos already been in love. :'(

Lady Lou, read my above posts

Your 16!!! In fifty years, i can gurantee you won't remember his name!!!

*scream*

I still love my first love..ill always be there for him...so thats my view..i doubt that ill ever forget him