Smile Now & Cry Later.. HELP!!

  • Kara !
    19 years ago

    Time. All you need is time. This is what my doctor told me when my world fell apart... and believe it or not, it worked. I stayed away at home for a month. I saw my friends maybe once a week, and I rarely went out. My computer was my only company - but it made me feel so much better.

    Give yourself time to get over it. Of course it's going to hurt, but there is little you can do to stop that.

  • Hope
    19 years ago

    Hello Baby face. I am actually experiencing what your feeling right now and i know its hard to continue living without the person you love who gives ur life so much meaning and a reason to live. For me, it has been 9 months since my love, well, the girl i like has left me. But, I'm still here and getting through each day. Everyone has dark times in their life and you have to realise that your life will not always be gloomy. There is no point dwelling on the past, it will only make you feel worse. All you can do is look to the future and find another piece of happiness in your life. Time will help you get over him, even though sometimes it seems like ur getting worse, but trust me, it helps more than you think. Moreover, avoiding contact with him or holding onto anything that reminds you of him will help you let go. You can keep 1 or 2 precious objects, which remind you of certain blissful moments with him. In fact, it should show you that there is hope of being happy once again.
    Don't say he is your, 'one and only true love,' because you are still young and you don't know for sure that there is no one down the track. Keep your head up and try to be optimistic. My high school teacher once said that, "Things can only get better." Before, i didn't believe it, but now I do. Good luck and take care!!! :)

  • Kara !
    19 years ago

    Ok, then along with time, you need to relate your problems to someone. Although friends can be great, I'd suggest talking to a perfessional, maybe a school nurse, or guidance teacher or something. They'll have an outside view, and be able to help you in ways others can't.
    Can you remember all the happy memories you've had with friends. Things that happened before this guy entered your life. Maybe if you can concentrate on all those other moments that have made you happy that didn't involve him, you'll remember that life was still alright before him.

    Also, remind yourself constantly that this guy broke your heart. He's not worth any of your tears if he's capable of this.