Have You?

Have you ever done something (not physical) that you know will cause you and someone you love great pain (emotional) in hopes that someday things will be better for everyone?

I have realized that being strong does not mean how many beatings you take or what you can endure without shedding a tear; instead being strong means sacraficing something so dear no matter how much it hurts to make a better life for the one you love.

When you truly love someone then no longer do your feelings matter. Instead your focus is on them and what is in their best interest.

This is true love, and it comes in many forms. For me it has shown itself as the form of a parent and no matter the price or trials that I must endure I will continue through and do what is best for my children.

If you ever question your love for someone then sit back and answer honestly what sacrafices you would make for them. Is the sacrafice a healthy one? Would you honestly give up your happiness and live for months in sadness at a chance for them to become a better person?

From your honest answers you should know if it is true love or not. Please think about this before jumping into a situation that could forever change your life and honestly answer if the price is worth it.

--Sher

Thank you Sher for posting this =) I needed to be reminded of it once again lol I keep forgetting to look at whither it's a healthy sacrafice or whither in the long run it'll cause more harm =(
and yes *sigh* I've done a lot that I know has hurt the people that love me =(
Thank you, Rhea

No problems Rhea, I hope that everything works out for you babe.

Also, the nice thing about someone who truly loves you is that they eventually forgive you; it just takes alot of work to gain their trust once again hun.

--Sher

Yeah, and then there's the love where you know you cant be with them, but it dosen't matter. i can't help loving him.

Yes, babe I truly understand that. At this time my son (Cody) is in the hospital due to his anger problems.

Taking him there and leaving him behind tore me in parts. I know; however, that it is the best thing for him.

Though we cannot be together at this time, I know that it is best for him. The fact that I cannot be with him has created more pain than I have ever felt in my life.

I am willing to endure the heartache without hesiation because I truly believe that he is in need of more than I can offer him.

I love him more than I love myself and to me the only important thing at this moment is him. Some parents think it is wrong to have any child in such a place, some think that the only reason a mother would hospitalize their child in this type of enviroment is because they do not want the responsibility. Neither of these are true in my situation.

Even if you are not able to be with the one you love it does not mean that you have stopped loving them; only that you are not able to show them how much you do love as often as you would like.

Hang in there bae and have faith that it is in his best interest.

--Sher

I'm sorry that your having ot go through that with your son =( I hope everything works out ggo for you soon ^_^

"Even if you are not able to be with the one you love it does not mean that you have stopped loving them; only that you are not able to show them how much you do love as often as you would like."

Your so very right about this ^_^ I just had to learn that the hard way and actually I found that the time apart, although more pain then I ever thought I could feel, in the long run it made me stronger and love him more =) I already had known that I was lucky, but it made me realize how much =) and I'm sorry hehehe I'm babbling again lol
Rhea

In respect to your post, this has nothing at all to do with strength, it's all about responsibility....A parent should always want better for their children, sadly we as a society have gotten away from such thinking, because we've become too obsessed with our own lives and the commercialism of the western world.....Now in Love, as in intimate relationships the above may ring true as to strength...sometimes we must let the one we love go, because not to would be denying them a better and more productive life...., but when decisions are made in reference to children it's not strength, as much as it is being unselfish and showing decency in the form of humanity.......

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Yes, it is responsibility, and we all want what is best for our children; howeber, it still takes strength to let them go. Whether it is a parent-child relationship or an intimate relationship it is difficult to do what is best for me them.

As a parent, you are darn right, YES I want to be selfish, YES, I want my children at my side constantly, and YES, I want their world to be perfect.

It took every ounce of strength that I had to let go of my son and to place him in the hospital. It has now been close to three months and I see the changes within him.

Did I do the right thing? Yes! Did I do it out of responsibility? NO! The only reason I placed him there is out of LOVE. I love him so much that I wanted to do what was best for him instead of what my own selfish heart desired.

I guess in the end we can both agree on the fact that at times in order to act responsibly we have to have inner strength. However, babe, I could not have been responsible without the strength that God gave me.

--Sher