Confused (any girls wanna help a guy out?)

Ok well first off I know its odd for a guy to be on these types of forums just to put it out there lol but...

I'm confused....

What does it mean when a girl talks to you loads over msn but when she talks to you at school it just doesn't seem like the connection you had over msn the night before?
what does it mean when she starts talking to your friends more then you? Is it cause she's too shy to talk to me? is that good or bad?

I really like this girl alot but it just seems like the only connection we have is over msn...I've asked her to hang out with me on the weekends like just as friends....not to rush anything...but she says she's busy or doesn't give me a reply!!! I really don't know if its cause she's shy or what....

BTW if it helps u any giving me feedback...She always talks to me first on msn and always under appear offline!

I'm 16 and would like some advice if possible!!!
thnx ppl!

Lol` it`s not weird for a dude to be on these forums ! But hm . Internet connections -- There`s always a connection online . You can`t trust that connection . if you guys don`t talk that much, or lose the spark in real life -- there`s really nothing there . There`s a possibility she`s shy, but I wouldn`t coutn on it .
I think it`s kind of bad actually ... If all she says is that she`s busy ... or she doesn`t even give a reply .
That`s what I tell guys I don`t wanna go out with xD
I don`t think that helped ... But oh wells .
..__MiNDYY

To tell you the truth, she probably doesn't like you the same way, like ^ said, interent connections aren't as reliable. I wouldn't go by what you have over the interent, I would go by what you have in person. That tends to mean more where you can judge the instant reaction. She may be shy because I know I'm shy but if a guy I liked asked me to hang out, I'd say yes in a heartbeat. I maybe be wrong, but I think she only looks at you as a friend. I would like to give you hope and say she's only shy, but I that's not what it seems like to me. Sorry and hoped that helped a little

.:Danielle:.

Thanks for the help girls you did help me clear some things up a bit...idk how I'm gonna get over her but I guess I'll just have to find a way....I think I migh just give it a little more time though just to see if things stay the same or progress....idk I'll let you guys know what happens....thnx!!!

anymore comments would definantly be appreciated!!!!

I have done this to a guy before.... I wasnt sure if I liked him, and its fine when you are talking online, well lets face it.. because you can be yourself without actually being infront of the guy.. she might be afraid of acting like herself infront of you but its easier to talk to you online.. I would take it as a good sign especially if she IM's you first when she appears offline.. just dont rush anything.. and let her know how you feel that will probably make her at ease..

I've done something similar... Minus some stuff, but yeah.

Haha, look at you, Matt, you got all the girls talking to you!!

The reason I did it... Well, I wanted to be friends, but I wasn't sure if I liked him or what, so I just sorta was distant at school. I also didn't want to seem, eh, over-eager?
Something like that.
Uhm... advice...
Lessee... Make a point of talking to her AT SCHOOL. Don't be all over her, cause, you never know, she might not like you the same. But, yeah. Be at school... Or get one of your friends that she does talk to, to ask her off-hand why she doesn't talk to you.
That might help.

Or, you could always be blunt.
Go up to her, and say, "I like you."
[[If she likes you, hey, cool. If she doesn't, opt for the friends relationship.]]

Heh. No idea if that'll help... But, from someone at a similar age[[it's bloody hell, isn't it?!]], that's my opinion.

Hope it helps a bit.

Ooops...i am a fish out of water. tata

Personally, I think instead of asking her to hang out over MSN, you should ask her in person. Then, if she just blows off the question, you should ask why she keeps doing that. She may not be interested, she may be scared, or she may be shy. The only way to find out is by asking her why.

I would just confront her about it. Maybe shes shy, or she is just scared to let people know she likes you. She does like you right? Or is that what your trying to find out?

......................sighs.....................

It is too early...lol

Confront her, i can be shy myself, its hard to let pple in but on the net pple can't see me so i tend 2 b more talkative then in person until u can really get to no me, don't give up just yet, if u confront her u'll easily get ur answer, and don't beat around the bush with it, ask her what u wanna no strait out so she noes ur serious - she could like u but is afraid that when ur asking to hang out that u just mean it as friends

A lot of girls are more comfortable on the internet than in person. i mean seriouslyyyy
they dont have to worry about what they wear, if their studdering, if they look justhorrible that day and if they're twitching and what not.
its perfectly normal for a girl who really likes a guy to feel the need to talk more on the internet, than in person. give her a call sometime and ask whats up and talk to her for hours. she'll loveeeeee that.

It's a lot easier for girls to talk online than in person. We can be ourselves in a sense. Not worrying about what people will think because no one else knows what your wearing, what your saying (except the other person), who your talking to, or anything like that. You don't have to worry about people judging you.
Though. If she doesn't reply or says she's busy when you ask to hang out. She is trying to just lightly let you know that she isn't intrested. Or at least that's what I do personally.
Don't spend forever waiting on her answer. Life continues so you should also continue. If she comes around so be it. If not then let her go.
Just a little tip of advice. Don't look for love, let love find you. Then you will have the truest purest love of all. Pray about it also. God will help you along.

Just talk to her, forget msn, i actually think she likes you if she talks to your friends and talks to you that much online. and for me, even though my relationship's kind of wack, i'll say something online i may not have wanted to say and don't want it to get awkward..for either of us and i'll honestly lie and say i'm busy.

Well I'm not a girl but hopefully you take my feedback anyways... as it comes from somebody with LOTS of dating experience (which my personal opinion is a bad thing, but it is experience nonetheless)

Perhaps the reason she doesn't talk as much to you in real life is simply because it's easier to talk on MSN... the last 3 girlfriends I've had (not including the one I'm with).. I almost ALWAYS talked to on MSN a hell of alot more than I did in real life, or communicated with through emails... The reason for this being (for me anyways)... was that it was easier because I would have time to think about what I was going to say... I personally.. am not an on the spot thinker when it comes to real life and phone conversations.. .and perhaps she's the same way

Now then.. if she is like.. DIRECTLY avoiding talking to you in person, then the issue could be alot more serious... I know ya don't wanna hear this part, my friend... but depending on how long you've been together and what kind of girl she is... you might just be a toy or something to her.. not saying that's what she's doing.. just tossing out another possibility... if you keep asking her to go out on a weekend and she says she's busy.... INSTEAD of giving her a date or day to reject... just ask her when she's available (because I doubt she's busy every day)

gotta go... hope that helps bro

~Lance~

Maybe she likes you but she is confused
too and thinks that you would never
like her like that so when you
talk in person she is shy because she doesnt
want to show any emotions because she is scared

and she talks to your friends to find
things out about you because she doesnt
want to seem desperate to know you.

haha i dont know but good luck with everything.

First off- it's not that weird...

The thing about messenger and texting and things like that, is it's so much easier to just say what you feel. As apposed to school where she not only has to worry about how you will react to whatever it is she says, but how you read her body language, etc. She could be shy or maybe there really isn't a connection.

Keep trying I guess is what I would say to try. Continue to invite her to do things. Maybe you could get a group of friends together to do something- that way she wouldn't feel so akward...

Let me know how it turns out!

Did you first meet on msn ?...because when i met a few of my friends that i had met on msn that lived in m,y area i was very shy ..it felt abit awkward but we eventually got use to it ...thats the only thing i can think of...its always abit weird meetin on msn first then in person ..?

Matt right? lokk i think you need to ask her if you talk best on msn and you feel comfortable do it there but unexpressed feelings never die and you deserve to move on if she doesnt but remember that even if she doesn tyou can always stay friend sive been in the same situation as you before and he was good to have a secret relationship if ytou want toi call it that but only if noone else knew and i couldnt take it the guy has to love me for me and if he doesnt than he isnt the one for me. if you want to talk more dont be afraid ~XOXO Carrie

I just think she feels more comfortable talking to you over msn. Maybe it's easier for her to do so when she's not faced-to-face with you.

I might be able to help... I used to talk to a guy on IM a lot but at school I never spoke to him much because I always thought that I would act too weird or I'd ramble too much... And I was scared of what his face expressions would tell me. Being "blind" with the IM was better and easier to handle than face to face talks. Don't push it too hard or you might lose her all together... If she won't talk to you in person she's a little crummy. I don't mean to be rude though! I was one of those grls. The guy finally told me that I wasn't worth him emotions and that I needed to find someone else to hurt. It was harsh but it really woke me up. Now we are great friends but nothing else. I'm not promising a good turn-out for you but I don't want you to hurt. Good luck

I've done the same, and honestly its because I was painfully shy around crushes. I could talk to them online and completely be myself--which is no surprise. Then in person, I would flirt with their friends and turn them down if they wanted to hang out. Nothing ever went anywhere. I have no explanation, just saying that I can relate myself to this girl :\

I love helping guys out! = ]. but your thing was tooo long so..confession: i didnt read it.

I recon she does like u
she sounds like me..thats what i do
i can talk over msn for hours nd hours to guys that i like but when it comes to face to face im just too shy

so give her a chance and give her tym nd maybe even ask her about the problem and see what she says

luv Fallen xx

Well i had a similar experienece.
i talked to this guy a lot on msn..and still do. but never really in school. when we were in a big group of friends i would talk to other people but not really him. unless he asked me a question..then i would answer but not take the convo any further.
so then one day he asked me on msn.."why don't you ever talk to me in school?".."are you scared?"
and the truth was i was not scared i was actually trying to get over another guy at that time and didn't want to start anything with this one. i just talked to him to try to get to know him..but pretty much stay as friends.

now i'm not saying that's what this girl is like. maybe it's a whole different situation. but i agree with pretty much every other girl that it is much easier to talk on msn then in real person (for the reasons already mentioned). in my opinion you should ask her to hang out in person. and see her reaction there...or if that doesn't work then just confront her..on msn or in person..like that guy did for me. i guess it's the best wayto find out. i mean you can't really read her mind..

hope this helped in some way. good luck! =]
--Viola