Harmless flirting? true attraction?

So my bf and I have been together for 9 months, but for the past 3 1/2 months, ive been going insinae over this one girl. Its like one of those internet things, that they would flirt over pic comments (on MYSPACE), then he alll of a sudden started calling her all the time,(when he never called me), and everytime he would be talking to me on the phone, he would also be talking to her on AIM. I would get really jealous because he was always telling me evrything he would do to her in class, and to me it seemed like they were flirting. i HAD A REALLY HARD TIME ACCEPTING, BUT IN THE END I HAD TO, HE QUIT ALMOST EVERYTHING. bUT NOW TE OTHER DAY, i saw drawing on his pants, and of course she had drawn on them, then he was showing me his folder, and had all these little pictures she had drawn, with his name and her name and hearts, it was a sensitive subject for me so i started crying, and freaking out. What I don't know is , if its harmless or not. I think that what hurts the most about it is that he KNOWS it hurts me but he still talks to her, and "plays around" wither, am i just paranoid, or is there something there.?

Oh and too add on, they have the smae english class, i guess they chose each other to write some partner story, and he told me about it, but when i actually read the story it was a love story about 2 characters how had a thing for eachother but never knew, until the end. Then at the end the story ended that they found out their love for eachother, and started calling each other by their nicknames. And in reality theyre the SAME DAMN nicknames they call each other. :(

idk..

Yes so many times. I've cried to him, i've yelled at him, i've written it to him in letters, i don't know.
Sometimes i feel like i'm overreacting, but sometimes I feel like i'm right.

He always gets super pissed off, like its scary. When I cry about it, he just stays quite, when I do anything else, he just says that "they're just friends" that i dont know her, and that i don't even know him, then i get upset because then im like then who are you... and I've even asked him before what he would thik if he was in my position, and he admitted that he would think the same thing./

Well I think that if he knows that it bothers you then he should of stopped from the get... I think that he should or you should open your eyes and know that its time to let him go. I dont care how you slice it but you dont have your name with a diffrent guy or girls name on a binder or folder with hearts when you going out with someone else... flirting is one thing but thats not flirting at all... it looks to me that he's actually hitting on her if you ask me... leave him and find yourself someone who will admire your emotions and not hurt you emotionally and make you happy... and where all he needs is you and all you need is him and not some else to make you happy...

Liz

If he gets pissed off or defensive at all, then I hate to tell you, but it's probably something more than flirting... I mean.. ok.. talking to AIM... commenting on myspace.. hell even calling is fine.. but drawing names and hearts?.. that right there should be an indicator to something... There's not much you can do if they're in the same English class, and if they're good friends it's expected they'll be partners in a partner assignment.. but the drawing on pants, him talking about her all the time, hearts?... and him getting defensive.... I think it's time that you tell him to choose between you or her... and if he gets pissed and yells at you, then just walk away and tell him that that made his desicion for him.

I would talk to him about it. It could be harmless but it could turn out to be something. Don't get super pissed at him but tell him you don't like him flirting with this other girl.

I agree with impulse

Lols Yeah Impulse is right *like he almost always is lols* I'm sorry sweetie but there's more to it then just friendship =( If a guy gets really pissed off when your talking about something like this then *sigh* tends to mean that it's not really like he says it is =( Like Impulse said make him choose between you and her because then at least you won't be hanging there wondering ^_^ And no, your not over reacting in the least ^_^ I'd be acting the same way lols
Hope things work out ok,
Rhea

Impulse is right.
9 months dating is a long long time.....so....what u gonna do?????after all these help????

You should break up with him and tell him why you are splittng up with him.

he will prollly try to say sry and end things with the other girl to get you back.

then you decide whether to go back to him or not

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Dump his sorry arse

End it now