***IS HE CHEATING?***

Alright so me and boyfriend (Domonic) Have been going out for about a month and a 1/2 and everything was fine. But this weekend we had a 4 day weekend cuz of memorial day and everything so we were supposed to spend a lot of time together and everything. SO on Friday i worked so we couldnt and we planned on going to a festival on saturday but then when saturday came around my cousins popped up and came into town from Kentucky and they wanted to go to the pretty Ricky concert and Domonic said he wasnt able to get the car anyways and he had some runs to make ( go sell drugs ) and so i was just like ok we can just go to the festival Sunday. So after the concert i checked my messages and my friend Ashley told me that she was over at Domonic's friend Will's house kickin it with his sister Vanessa and they both seen 4 females go up in will's room with Domonic, Will and Jordon! They were all drunk and high and the girls didnt leave untill 2:30 a.m! SO i called him and asked him who was all over there and at this point i was drunk myself but he told me straight out that there were females over there but he was like " monica you have nothing to worry about, these females dont mean nothing to me and all we doin is smokin they are my clients" So i was like ok whatever i trust you. So i was just at home drinkin with my cousins for the night, and then on Sunday i called him to see if he was going to come today and he was like "O, about that, your gonna be mad, i cant even get the care cuz my mom went all the way up to Richfield and she aint gonna be back till late and i had a lot of people call me for weed cuz its memorial day weekend and everyone wants some" So i was like how many times are you gonna do this to me? AND we kindof got to arguing about it cuz he was like ..you act like im blowing you off and im not i told you that this kindof stuff happens and you told me that you were fine with it. So i was just like whatever we can kick it when i get out of work Monday. So Then i had to cancle on him cuz i had to meet my parents up in Richfield and then they said that i didnt have to go, so i called him but he already made other plans...there is more to this story but the bell is about to ring so tell me what you think so far... thankx

That's a hard one, I meanif he was drunk, and high, he might have done something with the girls, but not with the intention of cheating on you. I mean when you're in that state you kind of don't act like yourself. And another thing, what he said about the car might be true, but you should ask yourself that if he DID have the car, would he had still blown you off for the weed?

Ok...if he's cheatin on u or not...he aint doin u rite...break up wit him ne way
find a better guy

Oh boy, I don't even know where to start.

Your relationship is very immature. So is the behaviour of both you and your boyfriend. Smarten up a little bit. Don't date a pothead, I'm sure you can find someone better.

And as for your fight about him "blowing you off"... I think you both are just looking for drama. I doubt you'll have a "real" relationship as long as you keep that up.

My suggestion: Dump him. And don't date any more guys for a while. I remember you have had several other posts with similar, immature problems.

I'm not trying to be offensive, please don't take it that way.

You both blew each other off in these situations. end of story you shouldn't be fightin over stupid stuff. and it's just four days. if you guys wanna be serious give it some time

My friend ashley just told me yesterday that she doesnt think he cheated on me because when he told her that he would never cheat on me when they were at WIll's house she said he sounded sincere about it and she said that she just thinks it bogus to be hanging out with other girls...Now i have NO problem with him kickin it with other females, as long as he doesnt get mad when i kick i with my guy friends which we both agreed that it was cool. I talked to him yesterday for like 2 hours and in a way i dont think he cheated on me but should i still break up with him cuz yesterday i told him that i needed to find out what was goin on with him and i guess i made it sound like i was about to break up with him cuz he got scared or something and he was like what do you mean whats goin on with me? What are you trying to say and just stuff like that.. i think if he did cheat on me and he knew that i had a feeling he was cheating on me, he wouldnt have taken it as such a surprise and he wouldnt have gotten scared cuz he could just got to the female that he cheated on me with right? And can i just ask how am i immature, and how is our relationship immature...this is our first argument and me and him are the two people that our friends come to for advice about relationships because they see how good our relatoionship is..i appreciate your opinon and i'm not mad or anything i just want details as to how you think i am immature and everything and i dont drink that much Brit but my cousins came down from Kentucky and he were just having fun all weekend, but that was my frist time drinkin in like 5 months...i dindn't even drink on my birthday...lol but yea do i still break up with him i mean i dont want to break up with him after one fight cuz every couple fights and everything and it only makes them stronger...

When I said you were immature, I was basically remembering several of your posts before. You seem to hang around a lot of people who are into drugs, and I find that an immature habit. I'm sorry, I did say it a little harsher than I meant it.

And as for the relationship being immature, I based that on your fight. I don't know you, or any other fights (or lack of) that have happened in the past. It just seemed like such a stupid reason to fight, like you were both looking for unnecessary drama just to make things interesting.

I still think you should break up with him. It would be a mature decision, in my opinion, to disengage yourself from the people around you who do drugs. Also, it doesn't sound as if he's as committed to you as you are to him. I realize trust is an issue, and I think you're doubting whether or not you should trust him. There is probably a reason for your doubts.

However, ultimately, you will do what you feel is best. Good luck in your decision. :)

People with maturity don't date drug dealers. Happy living!

You know what is the best solution and the matter. So everything depends on you and your decision.

Yea i understand what all of you guys are saying but with the whole " drug dealer" thing..i dont care if he deals drugs because he also has another job and he is getting two more in the summer and he has his future planned out and everything he just deals because his mom cant work and his dad died when he was 9 so he helps pay bills and puts food on the table for him and his 3 brothers....i think that if he didnt have to help around the house so much he wouldnt be dealing drugs but shit happens and just because he is a drug dealer doesnt make him a bad person or an immature person..
And yesterday we were talkin for like 2 hours and i remembered what he said when we were still talking and about to go out...:
I was like " when was the last time you had sex with someone?"
He was like, " 6 months ago"
I asked him why it has been so long becuase i never expected a guy to not have any in so long...And he was like " because i dont need it, thats why i never had a problem with cheating on my girls becuase if i get it then i get it and if i dont then i dont, but im not gonna do everything i can to get some especially cheat on my girl...so you have nothing to worry about if we ever go out..." Now that right there was so sincere, because not only did he look me dead in my eyes and tell me that but he also put in on Nelson ( Nelson is both of our friend who died last year in a shooting ). He never puts anything on Nelson unless he means it and he did so i belive him.
**And i realize that you may think that our realationship is immature because of my post prior to this one but i have learned from my mistakes and i have grown a lot since then. And this was our first and only disagreement, i dont even consider this a fight because we werent yellin we were just talkin and stuff...so yea im still with him, I'm just gonna watch a lil bit, but i dont think i really have to because i am gonna trust him and if he does cheat on me then the truth will come out when its supposed to come out because everything happens for a reason....

No offence, but I have a bad feeling that the next thread you make will be titled something along the lines of "How do I get over him?!?!?!".

Yeah... good luck.

No Britt~

he said this BEFORE we were going out, when we were just Talking and getting to know each other and i asked him if he would ever cheat on his girl and stuff like that and thats wat he said when i asked him that....
And no i dont think that im going to be posting " how do i get over him" anytime soon because we are fine now, we talk every night and since im on punishment untill the end of the school year and i can see him, he's been trying to find ways to come see me even if it means coming up to my work, because he really misses me and i'm just happy right now thats all but i really appreciate all of the advice in my time of need and i just want to let everyone know that i will be there for them if they need me too!

Idk wut to say, but if you guys are close and you talk all the time, that might be a great relationship, but you can never really tell with drugees.

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE: STOP CALLIN HIM A DRUGEE! HE ISNT A DRUGEE AND IF HE IS THEN I AM BECAUSE I SMOKE WEED TOO! HALF OF THESE POEMS THAT I WROTE ON HERE I WROTE WHEN I WAS HIGH! AND MOST OF YOU ENJOY THEM SO WEED CANT BE THAT BAD...AND I MEAN I KNOW ITS BAD BUT IT IS SOMETHING THAT I DO, THAT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH WHO I AM OR WHO HE IS! HE HAS A FUTURE AND HE DOESNT ONLY SELL DRUGS AND SMOKE, HE TAKES CARE OF HIS WHOLE FAMILY! HOW MANY OF YOU CAN SAY THAT YOU TAKE CARE OF YOURS!

Maybe he's not cheating, but he's flirting with disaster. You can find better.

Mika, don't you bore yourself with writing essays?

I know I'd die if I had to.

My advice is if you dont trust him and its only been a month and a half then dont waste your time

Oh, you do drugs too?

Wow, you are definitely not mature. A druggie + a druggie = bad combination. I have no respect for people who do illegal drugs...

I stick with what I said: you're not mature enough for a relationship, and neither is he. But we'll all still be here to help you get over him when you smarten up and realize that you shouldn't be with him.

Remember this: If you surround yourself with people who make good choices, you will likely make good choices yourself.

Wat does lol mean

YOU KNOW WHAT I AM GOING TO TYPE IN ALL CAPS JUST TO ANNOY BRIT CUZ THAT IS A STUPID REASON TO CALL SOMEONE IMMATURE SO WHAT THE FU*K EVER! AND JUST BECAUSE HE SMOKES AND SELLS DOESNT MAKE HIM IMMATURE! HE HAS A JOB AND LIKE I SAID HE IS GETTING TWO MORE THIS SUMMER, THIS ISNT ALL THAT HE DOES TO MAKE MONEY, AND YES I SMOKE BUT ITS NOT LIKE I DO IT ALL THE TIME! ITS NOT AN EVERYDAY THING AND ITS NOT LIKE I NEED IT TO GET THROUGH A DAY, AND I CAN WRITE POETRY WITHOUT BEING HIGH ALL I SAID IS THAT A GOOD PORTION OF MY POEMS WERE WRITTIN WHILE I WAS HIGH! WHY DO YOU GUYS MAKE THINGS SOUND SO BAD ALL THE TIME, I APPREICATE YOUR HELP AND ALL YOUR ADVICE BUT YOU ALWAYS MAKE IT SEEM LIKE IM SO DAMN STUPID AND LIKE IM ALWAYS MAKING A DUMB CHOICE! AND IM SORRY THAT THIS IS SO LONG AND NO I DONT GET TIRED OF WRITTING NOVELS...LOL. ( LOL MEANS LAUGH OUT LOUD ) LAST NIGHT I TALKED TO DOMONIC AND I ASKED HIM ABOUT THE WHOLE CHEATING THING AND HE SAID THAT HE HAS CHEATED ONCE BEFORE AND THAT HE WASNT PROUD OF IT AND THATS WHY HE DIDNT WANT TO TELL ME RIGHT AWAY BECUASE HE FELT " DIRTY" AND HE WANTED TO TELL ME NOW BECAUSE HE FEELS LIKE HIS FEELINGS FOR ME ARE GROWING AND HE THOUGHT IT WAS BEST I KNOW! HE IS REALLY A SWEET GUY HE ISNT LIKE ALL THE OTHER DRUG DEALERS THAT YOU MAY NO...sorry if it sounds like im snappin i just dont like when people judge the way you just judged him...

"YOU KNOW WHAT I AM GOING TO TYPE IN ALL CAPS JUST TO ANNOY BRIT"

^Wow. That statement in itself makes you sound incredibly immature. Sorry.

You know..i really dont care anymore...you guys are here for me when i need you and i appreciate that so you can call me immature because maybe i can be sometimes but i think everyone can be sometimes...we all have our moments..i think i am a lil immature when i have no control over a situation i am in and right now i dont so maybe i am just not at the right state of mind, so im sorry if i wasted anyones time and i apologize if i was a b*tch to anyone..i just hope if i need advice in the future that you'll still be there for me...

I wasnt trying to annoy you or anything i just wanted to get the point across that i was offened at the sight of reading that people who dont even really know me or my boyfriend are sitting there callin us drugees which we are not...and especially me. a drugee is a person who does coke, crack, x, stuff like that..i dont shoot up or sniff anything and neither does Domonic. After reading " Dont type in all caps..." it just made me more angry becuase of the simple fact that i am just trying to get a point across and your making the issue bigger then it already is. and no im not set in my ways i do take everyones advice all the time, and just because i didnt take your advice this time doesnt mean that i dont appreciate it becuase i do..

Yes i feel you on that i was a little upset when i wrote that i was going to type in all caps to annoy you but i was more of a sarcastic thing because i wasnt trying to annoy in the first place, but i actually got caught sellin weed in school and i know its stupid i dont know what i was thinking and it was my 2nd time sellin it and i sold it cuz i didnt want it cuz i was quiting but anyways they suspended me and i have to take these AODA metting every thursday and in this meeting they teach you about weed and stuff and this teacher told us that weed isnt actually a drug becuase if you were to look up the word drug it would say " chemically inhanced substance..." and weed isnt chemically inhanced at all...see with crack or coke you have to boil it and put chemicals in it and i dont know the recipe im just saying...weed isnt REALLY a drug and it isnt that illegal if they are thinkin about legalizing it...

Hey. ok im in the same situation y0u cant help it y0u really liike him right?
follow y0ur heart. y0u never kn0w what happend DONT jump t0 c0nclusi0ns ok and waht everyone else is saying is kinda true but liike i sed y0u like him...y0u cant help it. jus make the right ch0ise