DISTRUSTING

So I'm seeing this guy. He is very sweet and respectful. He won't let me pay for anything or lift what he thinks I shouldn't. He is a true gentleman. The problem is we are both in the middle of divorces. Yes, with different people. I don't trust him. I was taught not to trust by my ex who I lived with for 10 years and didn't ever really know. I used to be very trusting and gullible. Now I'm the opposite. I don't really know what I'm asking. I guess, what the crap should I do? Keep quiet or tell him what I'm feeling? I don't want him to give up on me. Thanks p.s. sorry about the rambling.

You answered it for yourself. It's obvious what you should do.

I'm not seeing it. I'm obviously blind. Which should I do? I'm confused.

You should tell the person you like. Pain will continue to hurt and you will not trust until you can trust yourself to open up to somebody new. I went through a bad relationship that wrecked my trust and I'm still working through it by learning that I have to trust another person again. One guy did a number to me. But he didn't wreck who I was and still am and neither does somebody have to do that to you.

I totally agree with ^^ =) You won't be able to trust someone again until you trust yourself enough to tell him what your feeling ^_^ In order to trust someone you have to open yourself up to him ^_^ Tell him what your feeling and that your scared and why, maybe not everything but tell him enough that he can understand and give you the support and patience that you need and deserve =) Remember though, he's probable just as scared of trusting and getting hurt as you are ^_^
Rhea

Tell him . Always telling the guy what you`re feeling . Let him know what you`re feeling & that you don`t want him to give up on you . If he gives up, he wasn`t worth it, but if he understands, and is patient with you, then you`ll start to trust more .
I know how you feel with the whole trust thing . `tho i`m young, I`m screwed up a couple of "relationships" that realy could`ve been something because I had trouble trusting .
Just let the guy knoww [: Don`t let the past affect you too much . Always be open to the future , especially if it includes something/someone you really care about .
..__MiNDYY

Wise thinking you have it in your mind. I would still tell you that all are not the same and you should trust others.....in due course.....i mean to say