Getting over him..

As a few of you know, my boyfriend of two years recently dumped me for the girl he had been cheating on me with for the last 5 months of our relationship.

I'm trying to cope the best I can, by being with friends and family. But this fake smile hurts worse than just sitting in my room and crying. I know crying won't get me anything but temporary sympathy, ruined make-up and a headache, so there's no point in it.

So here I sit, broken-hearted, and trying to cope with the loss, but it's so difficult, because everything I see and hear reminds me of him. It really does hurt... because I loved him very much - more than any word in any language could even begin to express.
Knowing that he cheated, I keep wondering if he ever really loved me, and if he was thinking of her when we kissed and when we made love.

I'm not asking for pity or flame... simply advice to heal this torn soul and start putting the pieces back together.

Oh, dear. I'm sorry about this situation. I wish there was some fix-all magical solution, I really do. My best advice would be to surround yourself with people who love you. You don't need to fake smile in front of them... but just having them support you can help you remember that you are extremely worthy of being loved.

I felt the same way when my relationship of 1 year was over. I was crying my eyes out till no more tears fell and I felt sick and had headaches for days. It does hurt to lose someone you love so dearly..not knowing whether they truly loved ou the same way. If he cheated on you, that is his loss cause you sound like a loving, caring person. You will find someone who will treat you right. It will take some time to heal but you will heal your broken heart. For now, stay strong and try not to dwell too much on the past cause it could make you cry again :( Good luck hun :) **hugs**

Lol... I can't compete with Britt.

Neither can I...she is good :) Listen to Britt

Wow.. Britt actually made me laugh.. First time I've truly laughed since April. Thank you guys for being so kind. I think I might take Britt's advice and go OD on some rocky road ice cream ~.~

Cool...you go girl ;)

Britt is with the solutions. I would say be courageous and be brave. Face yourself against the problem and talk first before you jump into murky waters. Bless u

Find closure on the relationship. Once you find closure, the only way to go is up. Each morning you'll get up and it will be easier than the last. There will be a few unbearable mornings, however, where you feel yourself declining back into the loss, but don't give in to it. Yes, it's sad, and it's so hard to let go, but that's the only honest way to get over him. Let yourself grieve. Do things that make you happy, do things you did before you were with him, things that won't remind you of the routine you had when you were with him. Develop a new routine; meet new people, especially new men. Flirt, but don't get attatched. Have fun. Experience the single life, don't look for the comfort of another relationship just yet. When you think about your ex, think about the good times, not the hurt or the pain, it will get you nowhere. Remember that love at this age is temporary, very few couples last -- in fact, hardly even 50% of marraiges last. Remember that you're not alone. And, remember, "The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return."

You can be sad, you can dwell ... But don't consume yourself in it. Give yourself time, you WILL heal, you will let go and you will move on.

Best of Luck,

-Katie