Forced?

I was drinking a few nights ago and i had sex with my b/f and later he went home....
i kept drinking and a friend called and asked if i'd come pick him up *he was interested in MY MOM!*
he was drunk too..
so i went & got him... i was driving but somehow i ended up in the back seat with him..
we made out and i have slight feelings for him...
when we got to my house we were sitting in my living room and he kept feeling on me... i didnt like it b/c i have a b/f... so i went to my room but didnt lock the door. he came in after a few minutes and... fingers..
i kept trying to push him off of me but he wouldnt get up.. finally it stopped after like 5 minutes...
i cried and got up and took him home..

i feel like it wasnt forced because i made out with him and i care about him.... i said no though
NO MEANS NO!
i told my b/f and he got mad at the guy.. not me.

i just dont know what to do now b/c my bf is very very pi_ssed at him & i dont want any trouble b/c im not totally sure it was forced.. i mean . i know it was but i kinda teased .... dont you think?

I don't understand why your boyfriend wouldn't be mad....did you tell him the whole truth?? but never the less, no means no, even if a sober couple are making out and they girlfriend says stop...its forced. period.

I dont know why hes not mad either....
im not trying to turn this around i know i did wrong i just wish my boyfriend would be mad at me not him....

i said no though..

i did push him off.. thats as far as it went...
i got up and took him home and it was over

Ok well first off why was you drinkin and driving..thats not right.do you relize what could have happened and how many lives that kills..sorry im very against that...and your right he should be mad at you and him..becuz you teased him and then he thought you were coming on to him..but then he should have respected you when you said stop..i dont knwo though thats just my opinion

Yes yes i know...
no more drinking & driving..
but i was the best driver in the car...
<3 possibly just the most paranoid.
i do know how dangerous that is and i will NEVER do it again!

Thats harsh.. i mean i couldve been mad at the whole world if that happened to me... that guy is so martyr.. he is very kind... but thats pushing it... even though your bf said it that way... we guys know he is hiding a great amount of anger on you both,, he just doesnt wanna show it... we are guys also.. we should know..

Ok.. dead soul person thank you.. i think you hit it... yea i know he loves me and i love him too. i just push him all the time because im afraid eventually he'll break on me and i want to be ready for it... if that makes any sense at all...?...?... but thanks guys... alot <3

It never ceases to amaze me how little relationships seem to mean people. Apparently You don't love your b/f as much as you think you do, but even if you did, love can never hold things togather on its own. You may think you done a simple mistake, But You've hurt yourself and others more than you know. You can never take back what you've done, and being sorry won't change a thing. Only you can change what you do.

He means the world to me. im just retarded. i know its not a simple mistake. i want him to be mad at me or something but hes not.

Look hun..everyone had great points and I need to add my thing too
If you don't feel that afraid to lose him,it really means you DON'T love him..and you could beat him or just threat him or something to let him go..Maybe you said no but if you hadn't had it clearly of course he wouldn't have changed his mind..you just gave him a signal at this backseat thing...

And like doug said..I wondered to your bf...But ssh..something like this became to me too.. but not harsh like this

And for those who don't know he is not angry with this girl..let me tell you from my experience
Cause he loves her and can't dare to hurt her..and actually he is soo angry with her but he will take all it out on him-the other guy-

And an advice to you girl---Don't ever talk to him about this other guy-don't even let him hear his name from you- otherwise you could see his coffin afterwards

Thank you so much. your answer has meant the most to me.....
thanks
<3

To be honest yea i think you boyfriend is abit stupid for not bein abit mad atyou but actualy i do think he tookadvantage cause you said no...

I'm sorry hun but if I was your boyfriend, I would be a little more than mad. When you love somebody, you don't do things that you know is going to hurt them in any way. That is NOT love. Not at all. And you are sitting here telling us that you slightly have feelings for this other guy. There goes to show you that you do not LOVE you boyfriend. Sounds more of lust to me, not love. I do agree though, no means no. But you DID lead him on. That is one place where you went wrong. I'm not trying to be ignorant about this all, but that is just how I see the whole situation.