Break-ups

Whose fault that your last relationship did not work out and what lessons did u learn out of it???

It was my fault i was too young and i learned that you should not sneak around

Uhmm, it was mutual i guess ... i was warned that the guy was an asshole, but i took my chances and ended up getting screwed over. i took the unnecessary risk and got my heart broken.

Whos ever fault it was either way it hurts.

Mine didn't last because my x-bf was not ready to have a long term relationship and because I wouldn't sleep with him:)

I learned that when it comes to sex you need to tell them how you feel about it at the very beginning.

*sigh* I don't know whose fault it was =( I mean he's the one that just wrote a email and told me that he thinks it would be better in the long run if we just stay friends *but he won't tell me the real truth of why he did it* but it makes me feel like I did something that he just won't tell me hurt him *I really can't think of ANYTHING I might have done though*
I guess that it was his fault but I can't blame him if he just did what he felt was right =( I'm so confused and hurt right now *he broke up with me on Sunday* =(
And I'm learning through all this that you have to learn to be strong on your own because if your counting on a certain person always being there to help you through then your always going to get hurt and I'm learning that it doesn't matter what everyone thinks and says about you as long as you stand by what you know is right and don't let them control you and tear you up ^_^
Rhea

Well obviously it wasn't my fault. lol, Okay it kind of was. It just wasn't working for either of us.

His... he got into trouble with the law..... i learned to surround myself with pos ppl so that i wouldent be attracted to the neg ppl

U weren't right for each other n it took three good years to find out...that's, in my estimation, not just long but fat...so u kinda figured u guys were good for friends after all...eh

I see now...and so i believe you also got the best out of it then...that way it worked both ways...right???

How do u say a risk is unnecessary, all that ppl say and know about others is due to the risk they took with them...it could have gone either way don't u think...life, i believe is about taking risks...the one who risks little, gains little and please don't let what ppl tell you of somebody play at the back of your head whilest u hang out with them, cos that alone does much more harm done good...*smiles*

Youth is a good thing and falling in love when u are young is so so so beautiful...but not when u are too young not to understand the defination of the word heartbreak. i sneaked around before...and i can beat my chest to it today that it felt good then...guess sometimes we just have to experience some things...cos u will agree with me that anybody who may have tried to stop u will have looked like the devil himself...otherwise who is that person that resists two lovers...good lesson in the end though

That is not entirely true...it does not hurt either way when break-ups occur. and its obvious...because if its going to hurt either way then i say they are better off sticking together

Great thinking...sleeping really spoils the fun before it begins

Wonderful lesson...see, let me tell you something bout men and guys cos am one...you have to make sure u know your man...if he is the reserve type then am sorry u will have to work hard at it...cos reserve men are really sensitive...they are the type that watches u do all the wrong stuff and still smile with you. don't get it wrong...its not that they hate u but they think u ought to know better...on the other hand when a man comes out of the blue and tells u that 'look, this is good but its just not working for us' you got to be careful here cos many at times he has been looking since the first day he slept with u for the other woman he thinks is right for him...so u are right...one needs to be strong and be their best in a relationship...but always know your man...*hugs u*

Trust me jaime...i don't know what u mean...and u got to take love more seriously than u sound...lol

The law...u say...oops that is gross...the lesson is good. *thumbs up for u*

My last relationship ended cause my boyfriend cheated on me with 2 girls!! so i broke up with him.
and you know what he said to me for why he did it
he said
"cause if something goes wrong with one girl i always have other ones!"

i hate him so much, now.
ugh.

He is such a loser...and i don't think he deserves u...the kind of heart he's got does not know what love is...don't hate him though cos it takes positive energy away from u...just keep your eyes more open at the next turn...good luck

Yeah i know, but i cant believe i didnt see it at first, we were together for almost 2 months and the whole time he was cheating on me. his best friend called me up and told me!

His best friend?...well am not too surprised so another lesson there is that u got to try to be a nice friend to your man's friends...that way they can even protect you if he try's to do something wrong and they are around...and just as girls do...a man's best friend knows it all always...well...almost always

That waiting for the one God has for me is the best route.

"Trust me jaime...i don't know what u mean...and u got to take love more seriously than u sound...lol"

I take it very seriously, don't take what I said the wrong way. My first relationship was fun for a little while, as every relationship is, but I was never comfortable enough with him to let it get too serious. He was a good guy, just not the one for me.

I have a much better relationship now. I take it very seriously, and I'm very happy with things. :)

And I just realized you said "last relationship", not "first relationship". Sorry about that.

Now lovely bones...u take the issue to another level...cos i will appreciate it if u can tell me how to find the one that God has for me...if i have to wait...will he come to me and go like 'hi...am michael...am God's choice for u...? Looks like you have no experience of a break up otherwise i got no doubt that that u will know that taking the lead and looking for the right person is how God will reveal him to u as u look for qualities of Godly nature...the input and lesson is great...thanks

Ok jaime, well noted so u take love seriously...now its a major relief to hear u say that ...cos ppl who always cut through to me as one's who do not make much of luv often are insensitive ppl...thanks

Well i found out that he was moving, so we broke up, lesson: NEVER date a guy that u know is moving

I broke up with him ? Because I was immature and didn`t realize the good thing in front of me .
..__MiNDYY

Well.. first and last realtionship as of now, broke up with me "because he thought we could work around the age difference and he's going away to college and didn't want to fall in love with me". We remain pretty good friends, he asks me for advice on girls, lmao. My lesson: Never date in High School, because you'll get screwed over.

.:Danielle:.

Ok mindy...you were young so you broke up with him...was this decision something you arrived at on your own or someone got you to believe that you were young...i ask because...unless you were forced into the relationship i think something should have happened that made u think u were young or...?

Well...high school romance is a play ground for amature love birds...anything can happen in the end...the question now remains...how does one keeps him or herself from this situation?

"Now lovely bones...u take the issue to another level...cos i will appreciate it if u can tell me how to find the one that God has for me...if i have to wait...will he come to me and go like 'hi...am michael...am God's choice for u...? Looks like you have no experience of a break up otherwise i got no doubt that that u will know that taking the lead and looking for the right person is how God will reveal him to u as u look for qualities of Godly nature...the input and lesson is great...thanks"

^ You have no idea what I have been through, and to answer your question, I guess it is different for everybody. It was just my own opinion :)

Yeah...guess u are right...i may not have an id what u have been through...and whatever it is i think the lesson there for u is for one to wait on God for the right person...i was only trying to get u to tell me more about that...in the meantime, i take it back that u do not have any experience of a break up...*smiles*

How do you keep yourself out of those kind of relationships you ask? You could cut off all human contact or you could get to know the person and be friends with them before you even think of going out with them. I think maybe the second option is a little more plausible. Personally, I'm not even sure I want another realtionship in High School because what's the point?? Honestly, I mean I'm not looking for someone to marry, but I want something a little more meaningful then "lets sleep together and then we'll break up and go spread our dieases around the school". Maybe that's just me though.

.:Danielle:.

His: Became increasingly mad at me due to his parent divorce. almost ended in criminal charges.

I broke off my last relationship because the two of us came to a split point: she chose her laced weed and her cigarettes, both of which I always have and will continue to refuse to partake in. Needless to say, it currently isn't going too well for her now ever since that breakup

Do mean to say 'more meaningful than and not more meaningful then...please come again cos that single 'error' could do a lot of twist to what u mean

Oh...really sorry bout that...its like u were made an extension of the storm that raged his family...but u did not say anything about lessons...pls come again

Telling u a lie???...i recently asked a friend 'why do guys and sometimes ladies tell a lie to the one they claim they love...his explanation...a very fine theory...if the lie is personal...then he is not trying to puff up his ego but that he wants to impress...that most ppl who tell lies in relationships do so often times with the mind of getting her attention and interest but then what they do not consider is that she is really taking them serious and that is where all the pain is...so if your man tells u things that are not true of himself...not when he lies bout the other girl who is carrying his babe...no...but when the lie is bout himself then u ought to find ways to let him know that u really love him for who he is your attention is onething that he can always count on...on the whole however...i think lying in general in relationships is not a good thing...i make up jokes which are total lies and make them look like the truth though...so what do u think bout that

R u some kind of psychologist or what...in any case i left her cause she did my friend...and i still don't know y...the lesson there is that it hurts she did my friend...so what are u telling me