Break-ups

My lesson: When a person first appears violent whether emotional, verbal, or physical getting out right away if extremely important and should not be taken lightly.

You are right...violent should not be tolerated in any form...but u did not say what happened before u broke up...or u never did...???

Well it waznt neither of out faults b-cuz we had alot of problems goiing on and we didnt wanna hurt each other so we juzt went out seperate wayz but i still luvz him 2 death and we still are really cloze friend until the end

It was my fault, and i learned that i cant keep hurting my boyfriend the way that i did...we're back together now but i know that i can't keep playing with his heart.

I got myself into a relationship I really didn't want to find myself in. I was liking another guy and I didn't want to end up cheating so I broke up with the guy i was dating and taking it slow with the guy I like. I believe that if you like two people, break up with the one your going with if you are and just be friends with both of them until you really find out who you like. I'm still going more for the guy I really like and not for my ex. So it worked out beecause I avoided cheating and learned that even if you like both people it's best to play it out as friends until you really realize who you like better.

More meaningful than. W/e I think you know what I meant at any rate. lol. Personally, I'm not into the High School realtionships because MOST of the time, the people in the realtionship are too immature and the fact that people just throw around "I Love You" makes me want to gag. They have absoutley no concept of the word and what it means to some people. It's an overused statment.

People say "Hate" is such a strong word and not to use it. People use "Love" all the time and isn't love stronger than hate?

.:Danielle:.

^^ I wonder that sometimes too Danielle.

Honestly. I hate that. Absoultely hate it. Today, I was talking to one girl, this girl and her b/f have been dating for a couple of weeks and they already "love" each other. I wanted to hurl right then and there, it took all my will power to not slap her silly.

.:Danielle:.

Yeah. My ex said he loved me and it wasn't even an hour into our relationship. Omg I wanted to beat him, thats also the reason we broke up.

The guy I really (yes I'm going to say the word) love, is the one I've known for almost a half a year if not a year. I believe it takes almost a year to really know if you love someone.

Family on the other hand is different. My baby uncle is 7 months I havent even met him and I know I already love him to death because I know I'll love him when I meet him so why not love him to death now and meet him later? lol Kinda confusin' sorry. But anyways back on subject.

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Lol, that is a different kind of love, I mean, to me there is family love, like you mentioned, there's friend love, like you love your best friend, and then there's the "other" type of love, like husband/wife type of thing. Well, to me anyway. I love my family, I love my friends, but as of yet, I haven't loved any men yet though. If my ex hadn't ben going to college, I could have fallen in love with him, but I didn't have time.

.:Danielle:.

It was his fault, he was cheating on me... with my friend... in my bed... ouch, I learnt that when you have a gut feeling, investigate a little more, dont ignore it.

I dont know.. I'm guessing it was his fault.. One day he told me that he did not love me and we broke up.. so yeah..

I could feel that it was starting to go down the drain.. It was not how it used to be.

Ok lucy...hi...now u speak of gut feeling and i think what u said about having feelings of him doing wrong is valid...when u feel he is cheating...i can tell u for a fact that often times he indeed is cheating...great lesson there...thanks...who is next???

He actually told u...that u weren't giving him all he needed...??? now did u try to find out from him bout 'all he needed'???

He is such a loser...my first girl was older than me but she was so nice u will think am her daddy...unfortunately i lost her to...well...i don't want to talk bout it cos it only gives me pain in the heart

Well my ex and I broke up because I was an alcoholic a**hole. Lol.
But it was a good thing. It made me see that I needed to sober up and that I need to consider other peoples feelings. Now I'm going out with a new girl and things can't be better.

Good for u alex...other ppl's feelings always do matter in relationships...my friends think am too sensitive to the feelings of girls...but hey...i think that's the spirit of love...

I agree perfectly with u britt...u r truly over it...good work...*smiles*

Hmmm I think it was more his fault then mine but im not sure. Im pretty sure that i was a good gf. He was an asshole...he dumped me because he thought he could do better and then 2 weeks later when he realized he couldnt he wanted me back. And me being a fool took him back. And then he dumped me agian. and again. and again.
What i learned is that if someone dumps you once and then wants you back. They'll do it again just as easily.

I think it was both of our faults. i mean i broke it off.. and the reason why is because he was immature and got on my last nerve. but the lesson i learn was don't stay with someone if your unsure. stay with the person if you KNOW you want to be with them. =/

Hey, thanks for the input, but it does not always follow that when someone dumps u once and then wants u back they will do it again

see, they will do it again if u were too eager to get back to them and it looks like that was the situation, otherwise i do not see how u managed to keep going back over and over and over again

so next time just watch it when he tells u he is sorry and wants u back cos it could mean that he feels lonely and wants someone to sleep with

I decided that once I date someone I won't date them again unless it was like a family problem or something happened to them and we both needed a break because we didn't feel exactly ready to commit to eachother. But still I'm not with with the guys I've dated again. Which I am very happy for me not breaking down to them.

My last ex has asked me so many damn times to take him back because he says that he's changed. Bull crap. I know him he won't change even for a million dollars. He's too up in his a-- for his gangster sh---. I regret even giving him a chance.

Don't you get that way? Someone claims there something great and when you get with them they just turn out to be abusing-little-freaks or something else thatyou just don't care for? And then you regret dating them?

Yeah...u are so right. happens lots of the time, ppl do not often measure up to what we expect of them and more pathetic is when they do not even measure up to their own standards...it is a pity but hey that is why they are not the only persons in this life...i believe that there is always out there someone who is exactly what u need to be calm about life...*smiles*

Yep. My ex was the most immature person you could meet. He always thought that sex had to be everyday. He even tried forcing it on me but I had enough and broke up with him. He was always trying to find a fight to fight about so that put stressed on my life also. And that he kept coming over to my house and expected me to let him in which annoyed the hell out of me. I hate him.

My family and friends hate him from when he threw me into a wall.

Handsome, what happened to you past relationships if you don't mind me asking? We all told you maybe you could tell us a few? It's okay if you don't want to. I know how hard it is to relive some pasts of your life.

It was terrible...something i never feel ok talking about. she always told me that she trusted me more than herself...that i am like an angel to her. well i try my best to be all loving and good and i was. till i found out that she was doing so so so many wrong things that she could not explain...she only cried and told me it is the devil...u know that bit bout the devil had always got me worried cos i do not know what she thought she was doing to us. well...she still says she loves me above all things but am afraid i cannot look at her same way again. i am no longer innocent of her lack of purity...we love ppl above all things for the good that we believe they possess in their souls and when it is no longer there we only struggle to make what we have love...it is love with so many scars...ok...so now u know...*smiles*

Well...the lesson i learnt there was that...sometimes no matter how hard u try at love it fails and u never seem to understand or know y...so u only have to be your best and pray for the rest...honestly

I'm sorry.

And I agree with you on the last post.

Yeah, and it is one lesson that keeps me level headed most times

My exe's fault. he cheated with my old friend. i learned that not every guy will feel the same way that you do.

My last break up was my fault... i had feelings for someone from my past... a relationship that never really ended... just kinda stoped and we were both still attached but moved on cuz the pple around us and we just didnt seem to be working out... i learned not to ever let other pple influence my decision weather to stay with someone or not... and i also learned that when you end a relationship, end it for good... stay friends or w/e but dont keep the fire going... dont let either of you think you will get back together cuz it just adds drama when one or both move on...

A relationship involves two people equally, in all problems concerned, especially breakups. "Your fault," "my fault" ...NO! The fault of all parties involved, now move on and let the scoping of hotties commence.

Sorry j a n e, but i think i did not understand your point...especially the bit about letting the scoping of hotties commence...whetever that means...

She enjoys checking out hot guys ^_~ lmao. Another thing taken away from my only relationship, don't believe him when he says he wants to remain friends, he's going to be hypocritical. Well, in my case anyway.

.:Danielle:.

It was his fault, he cheated on me with my ex-bestfriend and got her pregnant, and i had knew he was cheating anyways, but i never had the proof.

I don't think that it was anyone's fault, and I wish I didn't need to say it but it aparently just wasn't working. He said that we are just to different, which I don't get and don't think I ever will. It happened today so I'm still a little, no a lot sad about it. Red puffy eyes and all. Though even now I can see things that I have learned from it. Like how important it is to put the other first, how it could mean the whole world to them for you just to do one simple thing. I learned how great it is to be with someone you love and who love's you back, and even though it ended randomly after 10+ months I know that I am not going to give up on love forever. I might just use this time to find myself and really figure out what I want from life. It just might be the thing I need. As much as I don't want to believe it.

~Kat~

It was my fault. I broke it off coz of all the arguements. We was supposed to get back together after having time off...but never did. Then i hooked-up with some guy...then i told him thinking he would be happy for me..he goes rank..says i ripped his heart out n fried it on a BBQ and then 5 months later he drops outta school. I talk to him most nights and to me it sounds as if he is still majorly hurt. And i feel so bad..if only time could be turned back..

Lesson learnt:: Dont ever date in high school unless the person and you are very mature...and think before you do things...one stupid mistake can turn your life and others lifes upside down..forever..

Well. I guess it was my fault.
He broke it off [through msn] because 'it wasn't working out'.

And then I found out that it was because he couldn't talk to me or something.

'(4:49 PM) Roy: sarah one of the only reasons i broke up with is that u hardly ever talk
(4:49 PM) Roy: if u come out of ur shell u could have anyone'

Thats what he told me. Its not my fault I don't talk easy. It takes me awhile to come out of my shell. And he never understood that.
So I guess its my fault.

Well it was his fault he cheated but that was only the beginning that was the worst time of my life and it all began with the 1st of this year i learned that in a relationship there must be an equal amount of love because even though i truly loved him he lied to me i also learned not to take things so seriously because i seriously hurt myself when things went wrong nothing is true until there is a ring on your finger and even then u have to be careful there is always more to life then whatever you'er going through and there is such a thing as making it alone just trust in youself and noone else will ever dissapoint you