OMGdanielle
17 years ago
Ok so yesterday me and my boyfriend went and got stoned [yeah ok bad i know thats not what this topic is about!!!!] and now i told my boyfriend that i wanted to wait a while before we had sex EVEN though im not a virgin and neither is he, but yesterday we were at my house and we were making out and things went a little too far and next thing i knew we were both naked and he was grabbing a condom, and at that point i just kinda freaked out and told him i wasnt ready, and even though he said 'ok' and when i asked him if he was mad he said no, i kind of feel bad almost like a tease but i didnt mean for it to be that way i just wanted our first time to be special and NOT while we were high. so im wondering, was it messed up of me to go that far and then say no????? because i feel kind of guilty but also kind of proud that i didn't just do it because i was too scared to say no. please help! |
Karl Wild GG23
17 years ago
No you absolutely did the right thing, if he really cares for you he'll wait as long as you need, but next time don't let it go that far before you stop it. Girls need to realize that sex isn't just something you do for fun because everybody is doing it or because your drunk/high. You did the right thing and you should be proud of yourself and that's the main thing, goodluck with the relationship. |
handsome
17 years ago
Hmmm, hey its all good u stayed in control under the circumstances...it would have done much more damage to the relationship than u can imagine. if its your first time with him make sure it got significance written all over it else its the unmaking of a rather yet to start love affair...next time make sure u are fully into it and not under any ....influence...stay in touch ...micahlord |
MischieviousMya
17 years ago
Course you did the right thing hun! you have every right to say no. thats a good guy if he completely understood too. one of my relationships ended because i told him i wasnt ready either =/, but thats not the point. point is...Im happy for you =]]. |
Brittany C
17 years ago
I really believe that you did the right thing. When anyone has sex for the first time with someone it should be when they have a clear mind. |
Painted By Colors llInLovell
17 years ago
That was a great thing to do. |
silent eyes
17 years ago
Dont feel bad... if he would have gotten mad than hes not worth it! |
xfAdInGxaWaYx
17 years ago
A good boyfriend would understand. You did the right thing. |
Stephanie Naylor
17 years ago
You did the right thing, and if he doesnt care for u then he wont respect it, but if he does respect you, then great |
xPerfect Chaosx
17 years ago
I won't berate you for getting high, no matter how stupid I think it is. Anyway, no. Like someone said above me. It's your body and your choice. Don't regret the decisions you make, because at one point, it was exactly what you wanted. |
The DaveJon
17 years ago
You did the right thing...but he did the BETTER thing. Yeah, he was hurt by what happened, but at least he listened...he could have ignored you and raped you, but he didn't cause he is a man of honor, though hurt |
Normal is the Watchword
17 years ago
You did the right thing and never let anyone ellse convince you otherwise |
xo kisses xo
17 years ago
Deff the right thing. |
Annissha
17 years ago
I think u did the right thing but i dont think u should have let it get that far in the first place cuz if he waznt a respectful man he would have juzt took what he wanted and u would have felt really hurt and betrayed but if he luvz u he will understand and wait for the right time |
OMGdanielle
17 years ago
Thanks for all the feedback... |
silvershoes
17 years ago
I love how one guy on this post says you did the wrong thing and he would never speak to you again...and one guy says you did the right thing, but you should be happy you weren't raped. That is absolutely sick. Some boys place value on sex above all other things in a relationship, and those type of boys don't deserve to be in a relationship at all. Respect, friendship, and passion...those are what should make the guy you are with understand that you want your first time with him to be special, you weren't ready, and you did not intend to be a tease because you care about him. Don't feel bad, he should be proud that he is dating a girl who takes care of herself, practices self-control, and cares enough to want something better with him. You made the right choice in that situation, and don't listen to any close-minded idiot who says otherwise. |
silvershoes
17 years ago
Seriously, any guy who even considers raping a girl belongs behind bars being raped in the ass by huge, angry men. Ok, now I'm in a bad mood. |
xPerfect Chaosx
17 years ago
^^ Hahahahahahaha. True. You get what you deal out |
OMGdanielle
17 years ago
Ahahaha, well. |
RavishingEruption
17 years ago
Uh one thing will save you from this situation. Wait till marriage to have sex. That simple. Really. Just control your hormones. It isn't hard. Promise. |
OMGdanielle
17 years ago
I dont believe in marriage. so that wouldnt work out. |
Avrii Monrielle
17 years ago
No -- it's alright to do what you want... a relationship has two sides. |
silvershoes
17 years ago
It is NEVER wrong to say no. |
OMGdanielle
17 years ago
Lol i wound NEVER try to take advantage of him...inany way shape or form and i dont think i could ever get him whipped lol but thats fine cuz i dont WANT him whipped thats boring lol, a person shouldnt have that much control over another you know? |
Dan Bloom
17 years ago
Thats exactly what everyone needs lol congrats. I respect that you feel that way about him. Dont ever feel ashamed of saying no... but theres one thing lol i know its hard for me anyways to control myself when you get too carried away. The girls normally dont have a problem with it because they take forever to get turned on and can be turned off in a second. Guys are the oposite. They get turned on easily and cant be turned off too quick haha... if you know what i mean by that though. Anyways yea seriously i dont know many people like you that would be able to say no in a situation like that. Youre very commendable for that |
Stephanie Naylor
17 years ago
I agree wit danny |
kida
17 years ago
U did da rite thing if u give in coz ur scared 2 say no then it wont be as good as it shoud b just coz ur not a virgin dosent mean u hav 2 sleep wit any1. me n my x broke up coz i said no n dat just prooves its not a real relationship. tlk 2 him n tell him y n da fact dat he understands especially in those circumstances means he is a good guy. |
OMGdanielle
17 years ago
Thank you all so much. |
silvershoes
17 years ago
If that made my eyes water, I have no idea how he will react. I will be surprised if he doesn't shed a few tears of happiness. Don't worry about his reaction, it will only be good. |
OMGdanielle
17 years ago
It was. |
OMGdanielle
17 years ago
Well i actually did a little bit today and i told him for the first time, that i felt bad for saying no, and he told me what you have all been telling me, not to feel bad and that its no big deal, and that he'll wait for me. |