All cutting, self harm posts, this is the thread #5

*sigh* I have listed several ways above^

I understand...I slit my wrist one night though *sigh* I did it where there is wrinkle when I move my hand so if it would scar it wouldn't be noticed, and its not but I understand what you mean about not knowing why...because at first I thought it was to stop myself from ever doing it again I used the whole "you get close enough to death you never want to go back" scenario....Didn't work...Then I thought maybe I was trying to kill myself and it was just the 1st step...Sadly now it is hard for me to explain to myself rather alone anyone else why I did it....So I understand!

I can only help by giving advice, encouragement, and understanding...I can't make the choice for you, to decide to stop or not! You have to be willing to help yourself before anyone else can help you...I think I even have that as one of my quotes.
I hope you decide that you want to get better and you use some of the things I am posting now and some of the things I have posted earlier to get through this...Though its probably not going to be easy but it is worth it in my opinion!

I just started cutting.
And I don't really want to do it,
But I can't help it.
I have only done it 3 times.
And I don't cut very deeply.
Any advice?

*sigh* My advice would be to stop if you can immediately before you are sucked into the addiction...If you are already addicted Try some of the methods I posted before!

Though you know cutting is not the solution even though it seems to be. Try other ways to deal I know that sounds really fake...but its the truth...*sigh* I know I sound like a hypocrite but please try different things okay? ^_^

I've been cutting for 7 years, and I'm 16. Every time I try to stop, something else goes wrong. I've made so many promises about it, and then broke them. But it really helps to have people who care about and support me. My best friend and my gf are the people who want me to stop the most and I've come really close to actually doing it. I've only cut twice in the past 2 and a half monthes, and I used to cut at least once a day.

So I guess my biggest piece of advice if you want to stop is to just get a couple of people who love you and know about your bad habit to support you. My best friend, every time I cut she just gives me a huge hug and tells me its okay. That makes me want to stop more then anything.

Hope that helped someone a little bit~

~Ravyn~

My best friend found out that I cut... and she started yelling at me and telling me that I was only being selfish. She said only kids with messed up lives or divorced parents could cut. And then I found out she used to cut a few months ago, and her parents arent divorced. Is she being a hipocrite? Or was tht the rite thing to say? To yell at me for it.

Well thanks for all the advice ... and i will try really hard to stop .. cos i really want to stop cos im hurting so many people and i hate doing that... and well my boyfriend hates me doing it and so do all my friends... but its so hard to stop doing it .... but thanks to everyone that has tried to help me and everyone else thanks

-Amelia

I have finally stopped cutting after 5 years.
I know everybody says it and it doesn't seem like it, but it is bad for you. people who don't do it don't realize how addicting it is, it is practically a drug.
the best advice i can give is get some help. Talk to somebody, if you don't have anybody to talk to i am here. i know nobody in here knows me, but i've been there and i got out. i only meant to hurt myself but in the process i was hurting everybody around me, which was not my intentions at all.
Everybody says it will get better, but it doesn't. do you know why? because we generally (my spelling sucks) don't believe it, so we dont' do anything. what you have to realize is that YOU have to make the difference. your life can't start improving if you don't help it. like i said, i am here to talk to if anybody needs a friend or somebody to just listen :) good luck everybody <3

When started cutting i cut my upper arm almost shoulder....and i cut in a whole buch of directions in one stop so it wasnt so obvious. And when my mom first saw it she asked wht happened and i said i fell. And she never asked again. Today she saw the scar it left.....and she said how wow tht never went away. It scared me. Im glad most ppl dont ask much. Im running out of excuses.

Ok, you guys... they might actually know... maybe they just don't want to say anything...
just please be careful...
i really don't want anything bad to happen to anyone...
you might not know who youre really leaving behind if something happens...
because im reading all these and im getting the idea that u guys aren't really paying attention to whats happenning around you... or what you may be doing to some people who do notice when things are wrong... or people that do care about you and wonder how all those scars got there...
please dont hurt them

Thats odd...to say the least..if anything if I go a diet my mom freaks out like I am going to go bulemic or anorexic...Tried it but I like food to much >>
anyways...I got away with a lot of cuts saying my cat scratched me...most of the time my mom didn't expect anything...

I am the same.
I'm 14. My parents havn't noticed, my friends have, although they think my dog did it. Everyone considers me to be too much of a happy person! Coincidently I guess thats because I portray the exact opposite of what I'm feeling.
What can I say....Fake untill real?

Come on guys. WE CAN DO THIS.
Life is only what we make it.

I'm here to listen.

Sometimes I wanna cut again...when life gets unbearable. But I don't because it doesn't help.

Many times, in history class...I scratch a scab I hav in the back of my head just so i can get out of there.
plus. i luv how the teacher freaks out when she sees all the blood.
Ps: not a suicidal attempt.

How many people here actually are or have been cutters?
just a sorta conversation starter...
i think that wether or not you've experienced it kinda controls you're opinion about the subject

I know i'm like heaps late in saying this but looking back up the top to the post that 'Darkways of life' made about a useful site. you didn't post the site. what is it??

I did but its not hyperlinked...

http://self-injury.net

^ Maybe temp. but in the morning you wake up with the same pain && same problems to face... So in the long run it does nothing.

Sometimes it does take the emotional pain away. and the physical pain u feel just doesnt matter. I started cutting a few years ago and had a freind that did it and it was kindof nice to know that i wasnt the only one that did it. ill start and then after a while i dont think i need it or i swear to myself ill stop. but then after awhile everything piles up again so i start. and if i kind find the normal tools ill find a substatute. or ill just go to something else that hurts.

I cut myself today, it made me feel better... I can't help it but it felt the pressure from my mind relieving and everything was disappearing, I don't condone it, but it makes me feel so good. I'm fucked up :'(

^ Trust me, I've been there.
But cutting yourself won't change anything really.
You still have to face the same problems every day.
I've dealt with cutting for 3 years going on 4. && every day, I think about it. I regret the first time I ever cut. I hurt everyone around me, who TRULY loved me && in the end.... I just caused more damage to myself.
I thought cutting would help, but it made everything worse. Yes, at that moment in time when I cut... it made everything seem fine. I was content. But cutting myself didn't change anything, I still had those same problems.

Sometimes, I realize yeah I might kill myself if I had cut a little deeper or if I had lost to much blood..but you know what it doesn't matter when I'm cutting. All that matters is that the pain is being released all the anger, hurt, sadness, all those feelings are released and it just makes me feel better. Also it makes me feel better sometimes cause I would do it as a punishment....*sigh* you just quit caring after a while... Though I never quit caring when people saw.. I couldn't and can't stand for someone to point it out to me....

And I do think most of the time the desire to do it is going to kill me then actually doing it. I have been clean for almost 6 months or something like that...its not easy and I get urges every few hours... But I keep fighting against it, I don't want to break my promise ever again!

Well, yeah I still cut myself.
I did yesterday.
But a few weeks ago my boyfriend saw the scars or whatever on my wrist and he got really angry.
Like he was so mad at me, he tryed to make me promise to stop, but I couldn't do that.
And I want to stop, but for some reason I won't.

I have the same problem.. how do i stop?? i just cant.. it feels like i need it.. its addicting.. or atleast i tell myself that.... i try to stop.. but than things alwasy seem to make me do it.. even little things.. help!!

Ok so you say the easiest way to stop is to cut deeper.. any ways that dont include cutting again?!?!?!?! any one... please!!.. i reallly need help.. ive GOT to stop.. but i just cant seem to...

I think cutting is like smoking or drinking. Cutting helps release emotions right? Less stress? I don't know. Just my opinion. Cutting=my addiction

Yeah i think thats exactly part of cutting... and it gives you something that you know you have control over.... its my way of taking out anger too.. to feel something...to express myself....its how i help take out my emotions and feelings...

any tips for quiting? ??? cuz i need ot badly

I got realllly upset yesturday.. and i felt like cutting i use to do it alot ..very deep..but insted i peirced my ears ..didnt numb them ..and i knew it was very dangerous..i was just wondering was that self harm ?

Not really.
But i just cut myself.
It felt good.
Which is very sad, and nobody would ever guess that I did this to myself.
I guess you can say I am good at covering up the pain.