My Family hates the guy i like!!!!!!!!!

What do you do if your family hates the guy you like??????

They only hate him becasue he drinks!!!!!!!!!!! I think that he should be given a chance. He is in grade 11. My sister went out with him and she looked happy when she was with him!!!!!!!!

If someone can help me tell me asap because i dont no wat to do!!!!!!!

You're 13, and he is what 17? Plus he went out with your sister. I think your family is right in not wanting you to go with him. If he really made your sister that happy she would still be with him.

SHE IS NOT GOING OUT WITH HIM ANY MORE!! SHE HATES HIM NOW

Yeah I got that in the first post and obviously she is not going out with him anymore because he really did not make her happy.

But what do i do?????? My sister keeps telling me i need help!!!!! and 1 of my friends are worried that i will do something stuid!!!!!

Ummm you are what?
13?

and you think your in love with a drinking 17 yr old?
and didn't you just put a post about how the guy you loved broke up with you or something?

"My mom and dad hate me so dont feel bad do what you want"

Whether your parents hate you or not is irrelevant to this post. You can't base your advice to her on the fact that your parents hate you, so she shouldn't listen to hers.

Look, you are young, your parents have experiences you can not dream of yet, and more often than not, they do know what they are talking about. He's 17, he drinks and he's a sloppy second from your sister. If she ill advises you about this guy, there is a good chance she knows what she is talking about. It's ultimately your choice, but just think about what your family is saying.

LOL!!!! I agree, but you know what they say, Love (Lust) is blind.

Hatsumomo I hope you're not judging him on the drinking aspect. After all, you have openly talked about drinking yourself.

to the original poster: bad idea. Coming from another guy who has seen this happen, you should stay away from him.
If a 17 year old guy is interested in dating a 13 year
1) you should ask yourself "why isn't he dating someone near his own age?
2)He's probably only interested in ONE thing.
3) If almost everyone hates him there is probably a good reason for it. a couple people hating him is one thing, but if a lot of people do that says something.

I think you should stay away from him but whatever, its your choice.

I'm about to be a 17 year old drinker. Trust me, we're stupid people and more trouble than we're worth. :)

Besides, it's really weird if a 17 year old goes with a 13 year old (not to mention illegal). The s***'ll hit the fan when he turns eighteen and you don't want that. He's just to old for you.

My family hates the guy i liked as well. he is my age but drinks as well.. he started to pressure me into it and things went wrong from there...you should be with someone who will not be able to put you into that situation.. the fact that he is seventeen as well is not much better with the fact of you being thirteen. i mean not to sound rude but why would he go out with someone that much younger.. he just knows younger girls are easier to manipulate. so just get yourself out of this situation.. there are way better guys out there for you..ones you are your age and who dont drink.. believe me you can do so much better than him

Ok well... wen i was 13 i went out with an almost 17 year old and yea... look if they dont like him it dont matter cuz... u cant help who u love! and thats it! if u really have feelings 4 the guy then jus let him no that and ...!
hope it helps

You just became a teen . He's a junior, and you're like what ? A seventh grader ? He DRiNKS . He went out with your sister . There's a reason why it's PAST TENSE . And she hates him too ? Wow . Does that tell you NOTHiNG ? You obviously don't get the picture since you're here, but guys that age, especially if they freaking drink, are bad influences on you, and the top majority are all after only one thing .

..__MiNDYY

Well wut im getting ish that the guys not that good....>.< he drinks, and ur sis hates him after she went out with him. I say thats a sign...LISTEN to the SIGN!
i would listen to ur friends and parents... it dont sound like good news if every1 hates him. That guys bad. He mite start pressuring u to drink, and thats not good... hes even under the age to drink. thats a sign 2. listen to these ppl and take the advice!!!

U SHOULD!
~*~Skye~*~

Uhh.. Like Thats Illegal.... Why would u wanna date ur sisters ex neways?? i meen thats jus rele low... come on if he was soo great then ur sister would still be with him...

I'm 14 now, went out with a 17 yr old and a lot of 16 yr olds when i was 13, and they all wanted 1 thing.
Trust me, i know you think you love him, and that he's worth all the trouble, but all older guys want is sex, and when you give it to them, they lose all respect for you, you cant win!
I know you probably think that he likes and respects you for who you are, and i'm sure you're a lovely person, but all they see is whats on the surface, how you look, and the fact you're a girl.
If you're family dont like him, thats their problem, but you need to ask yourself, are you ready to go out with someone that much older than you, are you ready to get hurt?

(i know you probably arn't going to listen to me now, but you'll look back on this in a few months wishing you did, trust me, i've been there)

hope i could help =]

It might also be the reason because your sister went out with him and they may think hes using you or taking advantage of you just remember they want the best for you but they may be wrong so just talk to them about it like an adult and put forth ur views and let them out theres thru

Even tho ur parents are prob rite, u gta learn from ur own mistakes not thru theirs, bcoz even if u do wat they say, u wudnt have learnt a true lesson without bein burned.
my parents hate my boyfrend, but im stubborn and did wat i liked, im still with him now and its workin out fine, and i no if my relationship with him dus fuk up then my family will still b there for me bcoz thts wat they do

13 & 17?

I wasn't even thinking of having a serious relationship at that time! Yeah I had a boyfriend or two but they were around my age and not serious. Heck I wouldn't even call them boyfriend; they were just more like my best friend.

Just keep your head in school; homework and friends. You start getting into a dating scene you just very well may end up getting married at a young age and dropping out of high school or even becoming pregnant by the time your 15. There was a girl who went through this and she ended up pregnant even before she reached high school. Now she can't even go half the time because she's too busy trying to find a babysitter for the baby and trying to work 2 jobs to keep her and her baby alive. And she said these words, "I'm not going to let anything happen." Well theres your light bulb flashin'.

And he's your sisters ex boyfriend! And she 'looked' happy with him? Hunny, theres alot more to a relationship then the 'looks' of how its going. She could have been very well disgusted, unhappy or wanting out of the relationship but didn't let it show.

He was given a chance when he was with your sister; like they say first impressions usually say it all. Your family has reasons to hate him; they probably say its the drinking thing but there very well maybe alot more to the fact of them hating him. They just want the best for their daughter because hell I wouldn't want my daughter going with a 17 year old that drinks going out with him then having to find her stumbling in the damn doorway drunk as a motherbleeper.

Take it from people who've been there and done that.
But if you want to take the risk and fall for him; then go for it but you end up pregnant or drunk one night don't bother coming to us because we tried warning you.

Does anyone have very much common sense anymore?