How do you keep him from taking advantage????

Ok, so my bf is very physical... and im terrified that our whole relationship will end up revolving around that... i really care about him so i want to make him happy but how do you know when to draw the line? How do you know when it has become all about physical things?

My ex was like that and he did take advantage of me and totally messed me up for a while. You need to find that line that you know you avsolutely don't want to cross and make it clear. If he keeps acting like how he is and isnt' listenign to you talking about the relationship leave him.

I really care about him alot and have thought about leaving him... but i just cant seem to bring myself to do it... he hasnt done anything to hurt me yet... i just think he is starting to get to the point where all he wants from me is my body... and nothing more... like when we first got together, he was so sweet... he'd call me every night as he was walking to his car after work... he even held my hair back for me one night when i was sick... and now its like i get 5 min before he falls asleep...

Tell him how you feel and how far you are comfortable u are going so that way he won't push the line.

and if he is a stubbon weenie dump him. get a guy who knows how to respect boundries

Lol all guys are stubborn weenies... at least in high school they are... all my friends keep telling me how sweet he is to me and how dumb i would be if i dumped him... they wouldnt understand if we broke up and to top it all off, since we have been together its like he has become bff's with all my close friends... so they will all be like what is your problem if i dump him...
AAHHHHH!!!!

But they are not dating him

Well they aren't dating him. and if they are your tru gurls the'll understand.

Very true... maybe if i just let it go do you think it is just like some little phase he is going thrugh??? i will talk to him about it... see how he is feeling too... hopefully we will figure it all out... talk is good tho... but how am i saposed to bring it up? like "oh, babe, i feel like you dont really care anymore"?????

No tell him that you miss talking to him and him calling you.

"oh, babe i miss you calling me and being sweet to me."

Ok... that is good... thank you soooo much... :) i will try it tonight... <3

Welcome! YAY YOU!!!!!!

Lol i will PM you and let you know how it goes... <3

Do you mean you are doing the grown up? And you need to let him know what's going on. But I think that you already solved the porblem. And I'm jus looking for something to talk about............

To kaila

thanx. i really hope it goes well.

Well, if you wanna tlk you can PM me or just tlk on here... (grown up thing once... i regret it)... i will tlk to him about it tonight tho...

Just tell him no. If he wants to fool around everytime he's with you, start telling him you're not in the mood. If he really cares about you, he will respect it. Spend time with him without fooling around, and maybe he'll learn to appreciate your company a bit more.

Thanks... i will try that too... :)) everyone here is such a big help... <3

Leave him now he's gonna **** you up.

We tlked last night and everything is good for now... <3 but if nething else happens im gonna have to break up with him... i cant just take crap like this all the time...

That is so good to hear!!!!!! you go girl.

:)
thank you!

I agree with the posters here... If you're even slightly uncomfortable with being physical with him (I don't know how much you have been before) then it's a lot better for you if you just stay away from it. I've made the mistake of letting the physical stuff take over a relationship, and can't tell you how strongly I feel that having sex, or even lesser things, should never, ever be done with a feeling of defeat. Don't ever let yourself get to the point where you say "I don't even care anymore. I'll do it if it makes him happy..." A persistant guy could wear you down, (no matter how sweet or charming he is) until it's not even your own decision anymore. Don't let it get that far. Talk to him, tell him what's up... and if he can't deal with it, or if he still disregards your boundaries, then it's time to move on. Being boyfriendless is better, by far, than being used.

Yeah i totally know where you r coming from... but it is all good now... we talked last night and he is so sorry and then we watched the notebook and he didnt ask or pressure or nething... we just cuddled... <3

Talk to him. A completely physical relationship is built off of nothing but sexual desire, and that flat out sucks if that's not what you're looking for.

Adios muchachos!

I wasjust reading all the above messages andi already knew what i was goin to say after i read you post but britt got it spot on....you know where to draw the line when you dont feel comfortablex