What do you do when your own mother hates you

My mother and i have never really gotten alone, she always told me that she couldn''t stand me because to her i was the problem child. But really i'm not. My mother has always been jealous of my grandmother, because she raised me and to me thats my mother, she just doesn't understand what she's doing to me and my little brother. She's turning us against each other

My mother hates me, I havn't yet learned how to cope.

If she doesn't accept you as her perfect daughter, she isn't your TRUE mother; and I say you cut off contact unless she realises how hurtful she is being. Maybe write her a letter saying how you feel, and try and get her to understand. Your feelings aren't her feelings for your brother, so stay close to him. She shouldn't be able to effect your thoughts about anyone, when she was never a mother figure to you. If your grandmother is, then she is effectively your mother, and there's NOTHING wrong with that. It is perfectly normal to not get along with your mother, or for you to not feel close, and that's HER fault, not yours. Talk to her, and if she sticks to her decision, it's her loss. You have people who care about you right? THEY are your family, it's her choice if she's part of it.

Eh my mum treated me like crap for years and tried to get me sent off. I lived. You just got to realise that it doesn't matter what you mum thinks about you. Because you have friends to pick up her slack. Friends who'll love you for you.

I've struggled with this for years.
Now my grandmother has invited me to come live with her.

And i moved out and lived with my dad for a year.

Other than that, when your own mother hates you, and you cant move out, you kind of just have to suck it up until you're 18. Just try not to listen to what she says, don't argue or start anything, just kind of leave her alone. I'm sure she does love you though, she just doesn't show it right.

Laugh it off and make her miserable?
Members of your family are just human,
just like everyone else.
And if they don't like you, you don't have to like them.

My mother doesn't hate me. I kind of cant stand what she does with her life though. I haven't lived with her since I was 10. I am now 16, My mother abuses drugs. Both illegally and leagally. My sister whom is 12 lives with her. My mother just recently went into the hospital because my sister couldn't wake her up. She is now in ICU. Has been for the past week. And there is something deep within me that is scared for her. That I will loose her. Because we only have ONE true mother. Sure we can "adopt" other people's mothers as our own and love them the same. But in fact it isn't the same. So bascially what I am trying to say is that your a teen. YOUR GOING TO DISAGREE with her. But you don't hate your mother. It took me a while to realize I didn't hate her I just disagreeed with how she choose to live her life. But please TRY not to hate your mother, she only wants what it best for you and I am sure that it may seem difficult at times but just wait. You will be rewared. I promise you. Please message me if you need to talk.

~take this to heart please.

Hmm i'm not in the same situation as you but in some ways i do understand. I've always been told that i make a big deal out of everything and that i have a "perfect" family...which isnt true...anyways I would say just try try not to hate her..even though its hard..I know..anyways if you ever wanna talk just pm me.
-Elizabeth

Both my parents hate me hahah.

some how kinda get used to it..

My mom hates me so much she moved to the other side of the world and had other kids, my response?

"Bye"

I'm loved by so many people, if she doesn't want to, i can't force her. I'd rather know that live thinking she does.

It's touch hun, but stay strong. There are other people who love you. Concentrate on them

"My mom hates me so much she moved to the other side of the world and had other kids, my response?

"Bye"

I'm loved by so many people, if she doesn't want to, i can't force her. I'd rather know that live thinking she does.

It's touch hun, but stay strong. There are other people who love you. Concentrate on them"

^^^^^
That was from me btw, i was on Marcus's account and forgot, lol

My father abandoned me at birth, said i wasn't his child

Really I dunno what to tell you but...She probably doesn't hate you but she just is upset with herself or she is taking it out on you...I'm sorry about your father also mine died when I was 8 so...hes not around so to speak. Which makes it hard...My mother is becoming one of those Christians that get on your nerves and flaunts it in your face...So one day she told me "Your blood will not be on my hands...mothers go to heavens and daughters won't"And some more shit like that, and she is a hypocrite because she commiting adultry and that is apart of the damn ten commandments ....which I think is just f***ed up...but anyways...I just suck it up or talk to my gf about it thats about all you can do until you can get out of the house and then you don't have to ever talk to her again if you don't want to.In the U.S. in certain states you can get emmancepated(sp?) when you are 16 which states you are legally your own gaurdian....There are guidelines to it and you have to have her sign it I think but...if worst comes to worst you could do that....but all I can say is try not to cause arguements and fights...Keep your nose clean and stay away from her as much as possible. Thats if you can't talk and reason with her...I can't reason or talk to my mom unless I want my teeth coming out my ass... so... thats about all the advice I can give I'm sorry I hope it helps!