Do You Think...

Do you think it is bad when you and your boyfriend break up and not even 20 minutes later you get back together?? Cus that is what happened and happens to my boyfriend.

I mean I don`t want us to break up, so ofcourse I`m going to take him back, but do you think that it is an unhealthy relationship?

There can always be worse, trust me i kno, and at least you got together, idk why u did break up, but for wahtever reason you broke up it wasnt enough to keep you apart

Yea it's a little weird I think.

Maybe to prevent that, both of you should calm down a little and not break up everytime you have a fight (I'm assuming that's what happens, I may be wrong).

It doesn't seem particularly healthy to be doing that.

Yeah, I didn`t think so either. But I don`t know. I`m so confused. *sighs*

Breaking up on the spot is usually a mistake...you should always take the time to think (for a few weeks) about whether you want to break up with this person or not, and why. Don't break up with someone if you know that you will take them back, that is immature, unhealthy, and dramatic.

Well then, you seem to a lot of tell people that they are immature with there relationships don`t you?

Well sorry that some peoples relationships aren`t perfect like yours. If you even have one?

Not trying to be rude, but some of us aren`t as old as you. However old that you are.
We are just asking for advice not criticism.
If I wanted criticism I would ask you to read my poetry :))

What's the point of breaking up every time you have a fight? Just calm down and work through it, instead of making such decisions while you're angry at the moment. It shouldn't even be called a "break up" if you get back together in minutes... it's just a fight.

Sometimes you just can't help it. I'm going through something similar. I know what it's like...but I'm still not too sure how and why I'm doing it. I guess I simply love and want her despite knowing good reasons not to. As it plays out though, we had to end it (again haha). It's (almost always been) partially because of the problems that we just cannot solve and partly because we're just tired. Despite being apart, we still love each other...which is both painful and comforting...
That's the element of our love. The bitter-sweet possibility of impossibility.
I might be wrong, but it doesn't sound like you're in that deep yet. You know best what it is that you want and how things are. You decided whether to continue on or find a fixed ending.
For me (and I know, this is corny), she'll always be there...so it goes on even though I'm not with her.

I think that is just proves that you to are meant for each other and really love one other. but if happens like three more times then it's just a game for the two of u

...nice.

Yeah thats a little weird...

You can't always act on impulse every time something goes wrong. Take some time to think it over before taking any form of action.

I think it's a sign that things are a little unstable- if you can't last 20 minutes... Maybe you should reconsider the relationship.

^^^Exactly

My friends are the same way. They buy stuff for each other to make up for their faults. One cheats one buys. lol. its completely ridiculous. Like said above this is unhealthy and guaranteed to not work out. unless you like the breaking up and getting back together drama kind of thing. idk some reallllllllly do.

Thread Title: Do You Think...

my answer, no never!

Ok, Ill come back and edit this to make it work better with what you actually asked....but not now...im too hyper!

Thanks again to evryone who gave me advice.
Everything is fine with us now.
Soo thanks again :))

Actually...Yes, I do tell a lot of people that and honestly, it's because it's true. It's ridiculous.

I'm 18 and actually I am in a 2 1/2 year ongoing relationship that has had its fair share of problems but our growth as a couple has defeated any negative aspects by a long shot.

The thing is, if it is the same person doing it each time...then they are obviously insecure without you, which isnt a good thing cause that could mean they arent with you out of love, but out of the fear of being alone.

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Not always true though. I've had other girls besides the one I kept falling back with. It happens that I am afraid of being alone, but if it's just company that I want, I can find it else where as well. Why would I choose her over others (even in one case leave an ex for her)? There must be something else about her that attracts me.

Your past.
you probablly know that she will always be there for you, and thats comforting in itself, you would rather fall back into a familliar scene, no matter how painful it can be, then have to discover a new one and possibly be hurt all over again. by going back to her, you know the drill, you recognise that things will go wrong, but you overcome it.

there will always be that person that you can never truly get over. and maybe shes that person for you, the kind of person that you want things to work out between you, even though you know they wont.

its just human nature to stay in our comfort zone

Although I wasn't asking for it, you're partially correct. haha..I already know why I'm attracted to her. She isn't my comfort zone though. She doesn't offer what I'm looking for in relationships. We just love each other too much to let go.