How to cope... help please?

  • Sandra D
    17 years ago

    I need help with something...
    i can't stand being at home because my parents are constantly at eachother's throats. they can't be in the same room with eachother and not end up screaming at the top of their lungs. i can feel a divorce coming... and im don't know if i can deal with it...
    this is causing me to worry about who i'd live with. they both are over-protective and i really cant deal with that... my brother would obviously go with my mom, i can't stand being near him. my dad makes all the money for my family and if he moves out, we have nothing. i wouldnt want to live with him... he's lazy and a perfectionist.
    i can't really remember what question i was going to ask you guys... but can anyone help me out?

  • Carrotgirl
    17 years ago

    Same experience, Dad eventually had industrial deafness and they managed to stay together. I was always afraid they would split up and in some ways it has effected me phychologically. With hindsight things would have been different but back then one parent families were not as common as they are now. Just face what happens with an open mind and you will be ok. The girl I love has a step dad and he would be the bestperson in her life.

  • Sandra D
    17 years ago

    Thanx...
    anyone else?

  • Alex Marlatt
    17 years ago

    Whenever there was a fight at my house or if something was wrong and I always would walk around the city until really early in the morning. It helped me in that:
    1) I am not going to say something hurtful to anyone.
    2) It gave me peace and time to think.
    3) If I was mad then I'd be so tired by the end of the walk that I couldn't be mad anymore. I was just to exhausted.
    4) Plus with all the problem my family has it kept me thin and fit. :) Lol

  • Sandra D
    17 years ago

    Thanx guys... but i dont think i can go on a run/walk anymore...
    i ran away a couple of times and i don't think they trust me to go out and come back anymore...
    crap!

  • Alex Marlatt
    17 years ago

    Oh in that case do something that is physically tiring. If you're mad you'll calm down immensly. If your parents are fighting or something then listen to music on your cd player/ipod while doing something physical. The lyrics and the activity will keep your mind off of them and the music will block their voices out.

  • bRiNgMeToLiFe
    17 years ago

    Same situation here. I can't really give advice because i've done some stuff over my parents that i wouldnt recommend but if you ever wanna just talk pm me
    -Elizabeth