Why would you lie? (Any girls that'd help me out preferably)

I don't feel like really going into my relationship. I'll just leave it at I've liked her for 3years and I believe she's liked me for about 2 (dunno tho). I can't say I really talk to her in person/in school anymore, I used to, but I at least talk to her on the phone though. Why would you lie about anything? (Being busy, something being 'ok' when it's not, etc.)

thanks

I agree with mandy. Sometimes you just don't feel like talking to anyone and you tell them nothing is wrong, nothing is on your mind. When really your just trying to deal with it yourself. Give her some time she'll come around.

If she is telling you that she is okay when you can tell that she isn't then that means that she doesn't want you to know her true feelings. Or maybe she just doesn't want to talk idk...I need to know more details.

But if you want to know more just PM me or give me more details here. :)))

Thanks to everyone it kind of helps...

(if you can't tell whether or not you're a guy or girl you need another site's forum - and I never said a guy couldn't give me advice but a lot guys usually lie because they want something)

I myself couldn't and wouldn't lie about the 'being ok' thing. Just tell her that you want to sort it out yourself. If she's reasonable she'll understand and leave you be. As for needing to go and being busy just then I guess that's an alright lie. It'll only hurt her feelings unnecessarily (spl?).

She..what? i'm not the one lying....i'm confused now

Oh. She's lying? Oh my I'm confused. My bad. Well if she's lying then you should just let her alone. She just wants to figure it out on her own.

Who is lying why would you say that

I would never lie

I guess i wouldn't say lie, but not the truth..any way, i know what i need to know

I think maybe lying would be because you don't want them to get involved with you at that moment. Like saying everything's ok when it's not. Maybe you don't want them to know what's going on at the moment.

Im a 17 year old girl and hoinestly ive lied alot in relationships never to hurt the guy actually quiet opposite it was so i wouldnt hurt him. Sometimes the truth will hurt you guys and we dont want that if we just dont feel like talking or we feel youre getting to attached and that scares us well say we are busy or screen your calls its not to hurt you its justy to protect ourselves. I hope this helps.

I agree ive been with my boyfriend for almost ayear and i dont tell him the truth about everything or i just dont tell him at all. i dont like not telling him the truth but sometime things are best left unsaid

I hate liars.

Saying everything is ok wen its not is my way of telling guys i just want you to cuddle me and never let go i think you should talk to her

HONESTY is a very important thing in a relationship.

But even with that said there is never 100% hoenstly is absolutely everything. Ofcoruse, there are people who will lie more and less.
Personally, I don't lie much. I hate lieing actually. It's not my thing. The only time I really lie is when I'm feeling horrible and someone random or who I'm not close to asks if I'm ok..I usually fake a smile and say "Yes, I'm fine." (Obviously not true.) The people that know me though will keep asking and not believe that answer. It feels good to have someone who can see through it. It just that sometimes people don't want to let someone in that easy, unless they fight their way in. If it seems like there's something wrong but she won't tell you, don't just let it go there. Keep on talking to her about it. My guess is she'll probabaly tell you if you keep at it.

Now when she's lying about other things..if it's something small, I think it can be fine. You know, a little white lie. But if she's lying EVERYDAY, then there's a problem..or if it's about something important. It depends on how YOU see it. If this is really bothering you then you should talk to her. Tell her how you're feeling and that you want to be completely honest with each other.

Again, honestly is impotant in a relationship. So is communication.
Good luck! =]
--Viola

Ive lied. hes lied. everyone's lied.