How do i earn his trust?

Me and my boyfriend have been together for a while. He tells me everyday how in love with me he is and i beleive him. He's so amazing but he looks at everything so negativly and he thinks he's ruining my life. I try to tell him what he means to me but he wont listen. He also thinks that I'm gona cheat on him becuase i cheated on my last boyfriend when i was drunk. I really wish that there was a way to convince him that i love him and that i won't hurt him for the world.

I'm going thru a similar situation, and it's confusing.
I understand what your saying and I have yet to find a way to make him trust me. And people have told me that the only reason it's like that is because he is guilty of cheating himself so he accuses me. But I don't think there is a way except just keep showing to him you love him and maybe he will come around.

I don't know if that helped, but good luck.
I wish I could take my own advice.
:((

Yeah, it's so hard to get him to beleive me but i'm not gona give up.

That's the best thing to do if you love him. Don't give up on him.

You should just randomly in the middle of conversations say "You know what? I love you". That's cute and hopefully it shows you really care. I don't know though what you can do besides never do anything to show him that he can't trust you.

.:Danielle:.

Yeah Danielle your right, don't give up. Even though it hurts to think that he doesn't trust you you have to continue fighting, not literally but trying.
And yeah the random Ilove you thing works, I do it all the time.
Or if he has a cell phone send him text messages in the middle of the night to let him know your thinking of him :))

But if you ever want to talk I'm here and completely understand what your saying.
I hope I helped!

Just let him know how much you care and that you wouldn't risk the relationship on something stupid that'll last five minutes (cheating). Or you could quit drinking all together. It'll show him that you're serious and it'll prevent you from killing your kidneys. Yey kidneys! :)

It'd be my guess that your boyfriend has had bad relationships in the past, and if he doesn't trust you it means that he's insecure as hell... I can see where he would worry based on the fact that you've cheated before... I'd worry too... and you kind of can't blame him for worrying, so in order for you to earn his trust, FIRST you have to look at the situation from his point of view and think about how you would feel, then go from there.

It's going to take a while... but you just have to keep talking it out with him... and everytime he says something negative... find a way to turn it into a positive... eventually... if you REALLY love each other... you'll earn his trust =)

You can't make him trust you. he has to want to trust you. you give him a good reason and he still doesn't buy it... well he doesn't want to trust you.

^^ Yea. I'd bet anything on the insecure part and bad past relationships. They can royally f*ck your mind. Just concentrate earning his trust.

Yeah, he has had a lota f-ed up relationships. He used to be really suicidal about it but since he's met me, he says he doesnt even think about it any more because he doesn't want to leave me hurt. Once in a while we'll lay down and talk about our relationship. It helps for the most part but that doesnt always last very long.
He's a really good guy and he's proved it to me in so many ways, i just want him to be able to trust me the way i trust him.

Your situation sounds a lot like mine. Me and my boyfriend love each other a lot and he makes me so happy, he just has major trust issues due to what has happened to him past relationships. Most of my friends said that if he didn't trust me now he never would but i don't agree, trust can always be built on and if you love someone enough it will definately be worth the wait in the end. We are now looking for a place together and are expecting a child, so i guess what i'm saying is be patient and reassure him that your not going to do what you did in your previous relationship and eventually he will see that your being true to him and things will work out =)

You don't need to convince him, you need to show him. He shouldn't hold past experiences against you, he's not that guy, so it's a totally different situation. Trust is a hard thing to earn and even harder to earn once it's broken, but being that you've done nothing wrong, it seems he has insecurity issues, which is totally normal. Just give him some time.

Well, for a long time i secretly wanted my boyfriend to prove that he really loved me and t wasnt just a fling to him, and then one day, his ex gf/good friend, who happened to still like him, started getting mad that we were doing good and she started badmouthing me, calling me a skank and whatnot what all i ever did was try to be nice to her and respect their friendship, and he stuck up for me and refused to even talk to her for a while after that, and thats when i realized that without me even asking to he'd been proving he loved me all along in everything he did, because i was so worried that he would cheat on me, especially with her, but never said anything, and then when he did that youknow it just changed it all and i trust him now and i believe him so dont worry someday you will do something that will make him realize you mean what you say... everything works out in the end.

PLEASE, whatever you do dont give up on him. If my girlfriend wouldve given up on me idk what i would be doing right now. Id be much different without her. I was the same way, always negative and everything plus there was a lack of trust also because of a past she had lol but yes same situation. I just believe you should stay completely positive and if he doesnt like that then deal. But im sure it must have hurt him when he found out you did that. What my girlfriend did ive never gotten over. Sometimes its still hard for me to trust her, but weve happily been together for a year and 4 months lol and i love telling people that. Its great that i can have someone to help me through everything and that i can help her through everything also. If you love him as a person, stay by his side. If you love him as a friend, stay by his side.