Dating and Beliefs

Most everyone has their own beliefs in life (religion, politics, morals, etc.) and my question is would you date someone with different beliefs?

If so, are there any limitations (i.e., I don't care what their religious belief as long as they are democrat)? Would you only limit the relationship to dating with no intent of taking it further (to moving in or marrying)? Do you think that people that date and have different beliefs have more obstacles in their relationship than those with similar beliefs?

I'd just like to see some of your opinions on this topic...

Hum di dum....My opinions or views...um...I think that dating someone with different beliefs is ok, but if the beliefs are too different it could create problems. Like if a Jahova's Witness and a Mormon were to get together...there could be serious problems. But if the beliefs are similar enough than its ok, I guess that basicall a personal prefrence that chages from person to person. I personally dont want to date anyone with a different religion, simply for the fact that it wouldn't work out for us.

I personally have set limitations already, such as I wont date until Im 16, then from 16-18 Id date in groups or double dates. Then from 18-20 Id go a bit more serious, but then after that Id date to get serious. I dont believe that couples should live together before marriage, or that they should have sex before marriage....thats not exactly an ideal type of date for me.

I think that dating is basically a marriage prep thing. Like you date lots of people before you jump into anything, that way you can see what it is you truly want in a mate. I also think dating should be more of a fun thing rather than a...what would you say...chore. Like if you dont want to date you shouldnt feel pressured into it...and stuff.

Those are my views...questions/comments/concerns PM me.

PPl still date in my country though its somehow out of islamic bounds

Let's see.... I personally would not date anyone with religious beliefs that are very different than mine. They can be a little bit different but not by much. Only because I have such strong religious beliefs. I think that if someone dated a person with very different beliefs, the only way it would work out is if they weren't that into their religious beliefs.

And personally, I will not date a person for long if I come to the realization that they aren't someone I'd consider marrying one day.

Well my girlfriend, Shelbie, is Christian. I myself, as most of you know, am atheist. I don't mind her beliefs at all and I try my best to be respectful of Christianity and Christian beliefs when I am around her. I don't ever recall telling her I'm not religious but I'm pretty sure she knows so it's all good. :)

If I were to marry Shelbie then I would not be opposed to her hanging Christian symbols about the house. If they help her pray and stuff then it's fine. And as for children. I think they'd probably be raised Christian. Because it's easier to think that there is life after death than not and would be more comforting to them. However I'll teach them to be tolerant of others beliefs. Because I'll be damned if my children are gonna be preaching to me day in and day out. Lol. :)

Now if I end up marrying anyone else with a different religion the same rules would apply.

As for politics. They would have to be a bit similar because I can't stand liberal-talk. No offense anyone but Military-bashing and anti-government talk pisses me off more than anything.

Agree with Bob love overcomes barriers, if you feel enough for the person you will try to overcome any barrier, problem is not all Barriers can be overcome.

As an atheist I would be put off anyone off anyone who tried to convert me to their faith. But I would respect their right to believe in what they want.

*To the above: It is against most religions (as far as I know) to force one to convert to their faith - and if the individual was religious at all, they would not 'try' to convert you at all :).

And in answer to your question, Noir: No, I would never date nor marry anyone out of my own belief.

It would really depend on the particular person. There could be problems if I dated someone with extremely different beliefs, because we'd each be coming from our totally different worldview, and I don't know that we'd be able to "get" each other on a fundemental level. That said, I think I'd rather be with a strong believer in Islam, Judaism, even atheism, just... anything, rather than a weak, sort-of believer in Christianity.

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Me and my current gf have some diff beleifs.. but we get along jsut fine... well the way i see it no matter what the beleif if you love the person its all good you guys will work the thigns out.... well anyways i wont egt all corney or anything in ehre but eyah people with diff beleifs i think should date lol

Lol wow. That never would have occurred to me.

^ LMFAO. I love irony.
Anyways, if they loved you then they'd try to tone it down on the religious talk out of respect for your beliefs.

I think that if u did date or marry some1 with diffrent beleifs or morals ur more likely to argue with them or not stay together. If ur a christian it says in the bible that it is a sin to marry some1 who isnt also a christian. Im not a christian. Im a pagan and i have desided that i would more likley marry another pagan to make it easier on myself and my future children. Think about it if u have a kid that has a mother thats 1 religion and a father thats some other religion what would the kid be? the mother would teach it her religion and the father would teach it his. so the kid would come out messed up and not really know were it belongs. so i think u could date some1 with deffrent beleifs but it would complicate things quite a bit.

I think as long as you both are open minded and respectful of eachothers beliefs [i.e. not putting anything down, forcing it on eachother, not compromising....ect...] then it would be ok. personally i wouldnt want to date a very religious person, especially a close minded one who couldnt accept mine [or lacktherof.]

I have quite radical beliefs on dating, apparently., and here they are:

I believe that two peoples feelings for each other should be what is central in a relationship. To me, that means the mutual feelings of love two people feel for each other should be the only exclusive component of a romantic relationship.

In western society over 50% of marriages end up in divorce and the reason given for a high proportion of these divorces is ‘infidelity’. Meaning, a very high percentage of ‘unsuccessful’ marriages (I.e. marriages ending in divorce) are so because either husband or wife has had sex or sexual contact with a person other than their spouse.

In western society, our values decree that sex is an exclusive pursuit to be shared *only* between the two people dating each other. I believe because this is the primary and only occupation exclusively shared between two people who are dating or married that it becomes central to a relationship. This deems sex the intrinsic and consequently central component of a relationship and I do not believe, personally, that sex should be the central component of a relationship.

I believe sex is a celebration of love, adoration, the human body, the spirit and the mind. I do not simply love or adore one person. I want to celebrate with whoever I please, whenever I please, if they too want that. This does not mean I have sex with a great number of people, but that I am free to do so if I so wish.

I believe that by removing the restrictions on sexual behaviour and allowing both myself and my partner to explore ourselves and others, not simply with each other, but openly means removing sex as the central component in a relationship.

The central component in the relationship then becomes the exclusive feelings myself and my partner share for each other. That is, we both love our friends and our family etc, but what is restored as the central component of our relationship is our specific love and adoration for each other. While we can explore and celebrate that through sex, we can through a million different pursuits all of which knit together and create our relationship, which is exclusive and special and ours alone.

Allowing sex to be something I, myself, and my partner are allowed to share with others does not mean that we will necessarily go out and seek sexual contact with other people, it is more about taking sex from the top shelf and placing our feelings their, as the most important, our love for each other. It is equally about a person’s liberty. The liberty to share yourself with whoever you please, without having to suffer shame or persecution.

Believing in this irradiates much of the jealousy and possessiveness associated with relationships in western society. I believe this jealousy partners feel toward the time their partner spends with others and the possessive behaviour a partner displays is caused by the capitalist and materialist values of western culture. And, that this causes people to understand and relate to fellow human beings and their partners as possessions and property, ignoring individuality and disregarding respect for feeling.

My beliefs do mean certain people, who at first tell me that they like me, suddenly do not want to have a relationship with me. I can understand this, but then I express my beliefs through my behaviour so the majority of people I attract share similar beliefs (concerning relationships specifically) and when I meet people who don’t all the better…we both stand the chance of learning something new and developing our own beliefs further. I would never entertain the idea of beginning a relationship with somebody who didn’t respect and allow me to have my beliefs. Nobody can deny me what I believe, as I wouldn’t deny another person what they believe, no matter how foreign to me, and those who would seek to try aren’t compatible with me anyway.

^Your replies are often as long as the above. Do you get bored and have a lot of free time?

Lol. Just wondering :)

I type fast and find it hard to be concise...dyslexic lol...should be writing epic poetry really, huh -_-'. Sorry guys

I think it is okay to date someone with different beliefs than yourself. If you really care about someone then those small things can be easily looked over. Even if it does stir some argument it could make you stronger together, having been through that. Really though it's up to you what you do and how much of your heart your willing to put into the relationship.

Ok to argue to anyone who says anything about arguments in a relationship.. you want arguments to happen in the relationship.. no matter what your going to want there to be problems.. because a eprfect lfie which everyone hopes for is boring.. thats why we simpley hope for it.. truthfully no one realizes it but they dont want perfect... getting into an argument every now and then is ok its not bad unless your in constant arguments... but if you guys neevr argue or fight then you guys will get broed of eachother then most lieklly definitley either cheat on eachother or leave eachother just a little fyi for you guys... and i agree with foolinsh relationships should be all about the girl = ]

Yes, I really think they do, because in the end one of the people in the relationship will have to sacrifice their beliefs for the persom they're commited to, unless they bith have similar or the same belief then it would be much easier.