A fear that keep's growing.Help!

My sister has recently been engaged. And at first her fiance seemed nice, and good with her. But then after like two weeks, he began to change. He turned into a real creep. Anyways.. I noticed that he would always follow me with his eyes. Like where ever I would go his eyes followed and at first I thought nothing of it. But then he started snapping photographs of me and it really started to bug me. I've had past history with stocker's- almost being kidnapped- sexual assault- and attempted rape. After I was almost rapped, I isolated myself from the rest of the world, as doctor's treated me for deep depression with anxiety.
His actions's towards me have opened up old wounds and brought back unwanted memories.I fear that I am starting to isolate my self within the darkness of my mind again and I don't know what to do. I've been waking up in the middle of the night screaming from flashbacks with tears falling uncontrollably.
Everytime I see him, I instantly start to shake, and can feel the tears building.
I don't know what to do! My sister seems happy with him..
Am I being selfish? Should I ignore how he makes me feel, so my sister can get married and be happy?

I really need your help.

Im sorry if this isn't in the right category. I wasn't sure where to put it....

I think you need to tell your sister how you are feeling. And if she wont listen..tell a close family member who will. And see what they say about the whole thing. If it's all in your mind, then you need someone who is able to tell you that. But it sure doesnt seem like it. And you sister should not be marrying someone who is like that. Although as with most normal people, she probably will do what she wants anyways. Unless she sees it for herself. But I definitely know you cant just stay quiet, let her marry this guy, and feel that way about him for the rest of your life. That would be horrible. Definitely talk to someone about it and see what they think. Maybe they notice it too. Then the next thing you need to do is convince your sister. (if you realize you're right about him)

I told my mom, and her friend who is actually guite close to me about it and they said they where noticing it aswell. They also said how he kept saying he was 'Sneeky Sneeky' and wondered what that ment.
They told me to tell my dad about it. And so I did- but he just told me to avoid him.
I tried for a few days, but then I found I would like turn around- or look over my shoulder and he would be there.
Im not sure that they know the extent he is terrifying me at.

I'm surprised to hear your dad just said to avoid him. This guy could turn out to be really dangerous. I am not quite sure what advice to give you and I am so sorry for that! Hopefully someone else here can tell you what you must do further. But I will say, as of now, be really careful around him. Dont find yourself alone around him. Maybe you should try to convince your dad that he's really scaring you and that you dont trust him.

Thank-You. Really I thought noone was gonna post. I will take your advice into great consideration.

I think more people will post. Give it time. And I really hope they can help you a little more than I did. Cause I'm worried for you. I had problems with a bus driver back when I was in 10th grade. It wasnt fun. he once wouldnt let me off. and i was the only kid left on it.

Eek. I can imagine how un-fun it was. I went through a situation like that when I was sexually harrased.

Tell your sister. if anyone should know about what he does it's her. you don't want her making a mistake. but i suppose in the end it's up to her if she marrys him

I don't think my sister believes me. She just laughed when I told her that my mom caught him staring at me while i was sleeping.

I don't think my sister believes me. She just laughed when I told her that my mom caught him staring at me while i was sleeping.

Go to google and type in survive.uk I think it is. They have a forum I go to for sexual assualt survivors. You might get help there in a day or two if you post.

Thankyou.
I will check that out.

Its true wha tyou said about you dont think your sister will believe you ...you know what sisters are like ''your just jealous '' blah blah ..but this is seriousw...youve had past experiance ..and if your sister was mature enough ..she'd know that you wouldnt make something like this up ...

You want him dead? I think I know some guys who could help.....

Lol^^ that post made me smile just had to let you know ..but anyway i hope this works out i reallllly do xx

You need to...you need to...really be careful. I dont want anything happening like rape for the second time. He's a freak. And your sister....she's in trouble marrying him. Take some big steps...try recording his behaviour....or getting proof of it and showing your sister. Make it KNOWN to him that EVERYONE knows about his stalking. That would repel him from doing anything terrible.

I've taken all of your advice. And have been being careful. Im working up the courage to talk to my sister about it..
Im So Thankful for all of you that posted.
If it wasn't for your advice I could be in far worse condition right now.
So thank you.

I hope you remain safe...take care.

Talk to your sister, Sister love is way more important than spouse love. Trust me. If you don't tell her soon them they get married, it will be too late, and something bad might happen... I highly doubt you're just paranoid either. If your gut feelings say run from him, don't leave your sister behind. take care m'dear, message me any time for advice. =]

-Lizzi101-

This whole thing is so horrible. I know how you feel. You shouldn't have to be paranoid so something has to give and he has to go. There's no need to let yourself feel unsafe. Make them listen.

You ever need him to disappear.....you know where to find me. Until then just kick him in the balls everytime he stares at you.

:d. You guys are so supportive thankyou so much.
I talked to my sister and she noticed it too. Today I woke up to my mom telling me she was moving back in cause he was abusing her. I was shocked, but couldn't say I didn't see it in his personallity. I don't think i have to worry about him anymore. And Im glad my sister is outta of that house. She's moved back in with me and now she will be safe.
Thanks everyone, I really appreciated it.

Elainexoxx

Still....at the very least his balls need to be kicked....if not more.

I'm glad everything worked out okay. I was gonna say give him attitude and ask him what he's starring at (when others are around of course).

Solus: I promise If I get the chance I'll kick them twice.

I plan too if I ever see him starring at me again. Like I dunno what if he rebel's from my sister leaving and takes it out on me?
My boyfriend lives like 3 blocks away from his house. So when I walk to see him I basically have to walk past his house.
Gah... This fear just won't stay away! I thought it was gone, but i guess it's not.
I think Im paranoid.......