Havent been here for a while, but need some help

Okay, I've been dating this guy for almost 6 months and in the beginning it was amazing. We had sparks and romance and passion and it was amazing.

Now it's just plain.... boring. We used to be able to walk around in town and never get bored or go see a movie but now it's not exciting anymore.

I think this might be happening because we got too close too quickly. I mean.. around the end of the first month we dated we had sex.

Now sex isn't exciting anymore!! And I love sex!

Even if we do something new like going sailing or something it's not even exciting. I wasn't even excited to go to six flags with him for his graduation!

And could you believe this? We stayed at a hotel just us after prom and that wasn't even exciting!

I love him so much, but I'm just not exactly happy anymore. Or at least not excited about anything. I really don't know what to do. I don't wanna break up with him but I want something to change to make this more exciting.

And it's not that I exactly need the excitement which we had when we first started out - it's also that we don't have any romance or passion.

Talk to him. Maybe you don't love him after all.

Hiya hun..
god i were exactly the same for months and me and my bf been together 6 months now nearly 7 and erm well i were the same i werent feeling completely happy anymore and i know that was due to losing my best frined to his gf and wking too much i guess but also because i was getting bored i guess and i dunno i knew i cared for my bf but i started to think i dunno what i want its changing... and so i went looking for something new...or should i say someone new and it was hurting me more while with my bf talking to this other lad...

anway i decided and weighed up the gd and bad things about the two lads and decided to stay with my bf... anyway erm we too ka week out just me and him and did all fun things.. and we talked hun.. do you think your bf feels the same??

my bf said to me he felt he was loosing me so he backed off too,..... erm maybe thats the same case for you i dunno hun.. but also we had a whole week away form each other which really helped me... maybe you need a little break hun..

gd luck
xhx

We do talk - all the time. And he feels exactly the same as I do.

We just don't know what to do to fix it. We don't want to break up because we love each other.

Maybe it's just that we love each other but we're not IN love. I don't know.

Any suggestions to help fix this?

Maybe a little break away will help us. I guess we can try. Any other suggestions?

I don't think that getting too close too quickly would cause you to lose the spark. Try doing new things, about everything (activities, places, positions). If that doesn't bring the spark back, then maybe it just wasn't meant to be.

It's possible that you got caught up in the beginning of the relationship, and that initial excitement finally faded when you had nothing new to do.

We do do new things all the time! It's just that nothing is exciting anymore, even if it is new.

So what can we do? We don't want to break up, we wanna work through it and get back to the way we used to be.

Yeah you're right. I think I'll take your advice and take some time apart. Thank you.

Yea, taking some time away from eachother will make you both realize how much u do or dont love each other

This is a perfect example of love and infatuation--their differences. Infatuation is like a flash fire, it will erupt into a monstrous flame and at its peak, will abruptly dwindle and die leaving nothing left. Love is like fire in a fireplace, it can fade and grow depending on how much wood you feed it. Love can die as well, but it is a much slower death with some sparks that never fade.

Young people confuse these explosive emotions way too frequently.

That's my lecture for the day. Good luck, take someone else's advice.