I LOVE THIS BOY BUT..........

I KNOW IM BEGINNING TO IRRITATE HIM BECAUSE ALL THESE FEMALES IS ON HIM AND I WASNT JEALOUS AT FIRST BUT THE DEEPER I FALL FOR HIM THE MORE JEALOUS I GET AND I TRUST HIM BUT THERE IS THIS ONE GURL WHO IS ALWAYS UNDER HIM AND I KNOW SHE LIKE HIM SHE MOVES AWAY FROM HIM EVERYTIME SHE SEES ME CUMMING BUT I DONT WANNA LOSE HIM BECAUSE OF MY JEALOUSY PROBLEM HOW DO I CONTROL IT?

First off, type normally and not in caps . It makes it really hard to want to keep reading . Second, there's a forum for this .

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adkjshjg;l fine . And actually you can push them away, people just choose not to . It just annoys me .
But those two said it all . Communication is key . If you keep this inside, it'll just eat you up .

I have the same problem actually

i know what you mean by it all

i just sat down with him and we really talked about it all, because he wasnt telling me before, but i found out that we was getting jealous about certain guys that i was hanging out with too... just talk to him about it... it will all work out...

Yea its basically what you said.. but i did kind of leave a certain part out of it...

we made a deal

there are like 2 girls that he CANT see or talk with.. (they are both like ex's of his)

and there are a few guys that i cant see or talk to.. which im fine with

so its equal

Yea ... kind of sounds like we control each other.. but i mean they are two ex's of his... and one girl actually tried to break us up this year by spreading rumors...

and the guys i cant see, he just hates .. and its not like they were best friends.. so i dont care lol

Ok thanx i know thats wat i tried to do and he like told me that i had nothing to worry about but its hard wen ur finding pics of another gurls tits in his phone and then wen u go to look at his phone a couple of days later u need a code to see it

And i was lookin through his text and he was tellin his so called play sister which is the gurl whos tits i found in his phone he was tellin her "guess who im about to have sex wit in like 5 minute" now to make sure he wasnt talkin about me i checked the time and it wasnt me

Im trusting him because i havent yet found "evidence" that he is cheating and i dont think he is but i think if a female was all over him like the gurl be then maybe one day he will cheat and i dont want that but i havent told him all this but its because i dont think he will understand where im cummin from

Oh wow hun.. im sorry to hear about that.. now thats kind of a different situation

or so it seems to me...

i mean keep asking him and making sure nothing is going on.. i would hate to see anyone get hurt...

I know he sounds like a jerk lol and everyone around me tells me he is they all have known him longer and they tell me tracee you dont know him like i do and i dont want you to get hurt but they dont understand that i love him and im not gonna let any he say she say stop me from lovin him and im gonna trust him until i find out if he is doin me wrong i just dont wanna lose him i. sumtimes i feel stupid for feeling like this. but i dont know wat to do about it.

I mean dont accuse him of doing anything since you have no proof... but you have to make him realize where you are coming from.. i mean guys NEVER understand anything that we talk about it.. and i cant stand it.. you just have to put it into HIS perspective... be like hey... so if i was hanging out with a few guys and you saw these kind of texts on my phone and inappropriate pictures also.. what would you think

thats what usually would work with my boyfriend.. and he always ends up being like wow i would be so upset sam and wouldnt talk to you.. then i would be like.. see, now you see what im saying...

I get that all the time.. everyone tells me i can do better... they know my boyfriend best.. he isnt good for me.. he treats me poorly.. blah blah..

if you care about him enough.. you HAVE to trust him.. just talk a lot with him.. i mean there was a rumor about my boyfriend this year about a girl coming over and him making a move on her... killed me to hear it.. the girl actually told me.. found out the girl did go to his house, but he didnt kiss her..

dont listen to other people... thats what i have gotten out of all of my experiences

Lol the funny thing about that is i asked him that and since he knows my fam bam he knows that my cuzzin and bess friend (they are guys) he knows that they have did things like that before so he said that he wouldnt trip because that would be his first guess that they did it but the thing about his situation is when i first saw the pics i didnt know the gurl i had never seen her before but one day wen i was off of work he didnt know i would be home and he came home and she was with him along wit some other people but wen i saw he i asked him i thought u said you didnt know whos tits those were cuzz he had told me his brother had his phone and he didnt know the gurl so wen she walked by me i was like then who the fucc is she and he was like ohh i juss met her through johnny(his bro) and i was like ohh and she juss happend to know where everything in yo house was and then i guess he forgot he told me that and he changed his story and said i didnt say i didnt know her but i said i didn't know who took the pic thats when i knew he was lian

You cant let people control your relationship....

relationships are meant to have TWO people in them, and not more, for a reason!

But i cant talk to him about it because he gets all mad and i hate wen he raises his voice at me i dont like makin him mad so i drop the subject and leave it alone

You cant bottle it up.. thats the worst thing to do.. wow i have a friend just like this right now actually.. she's in your shoes

and my boyfriend used to get mad at me all the time when i got upset with him and he would call me different names (not good ones)... but i knew i had to tell him.. or there would always be that tension between us

Okay I didn't read everything you wrote, just the most recent post, and honestly honey, if he keeps raising his voice at you -- that doesn't mean you just shut up and let him win . You have to stand up for yourself . Whatever you have to say, say it . If he doesn't at least try to understand without yelling at you then well ... Well I'd hit him -- But I have no problem just throwing someone away (: But you can't just keep what you want to say inside .