What should I do?

Me and this guy dated for a year...it was wonderful and we fell in love. But with relationships come problems, when we started dating I was 14 and he was 18. his parents did NOT want us to go out. They told him that in order for him to live in their house he could not date me. so my parents agreed for him to move in with us. he lived with us until he graduated and found a job. Then he moved in with mutual friends. During this time we continued to date and we both loved each other alot. We spent alot of time together and got along great. Afer living with our friends he got kicked out and had to move back in with his parents. They made us brake-up after we had already dated for a year. It has been the hardest five mo. for both of us...niether of us has dated anyone else and we both still love each other. I just wanna know if I should move on. He hasn't been the best ex in the world. One week he would love me and then the next he would hate me. He made bad decisions and really hurt me, but now he says he wants to go back out. I still love him after everything and he was a good bf, but I never thought he would treat me the way he did after we broke up. He says it was because he was trying to push me away so I wouldn't have to keep getting hurt. But idk...Now i am 16 and he is 19, I've grown up alot and just don't want to make the wrong decision. should I try to make it work??

I DONT THINK YOU GUYS SHOULD HAVE BROKE UP IN THE FIRST PLACE I THINK HIS PARENTS ARE WRONG HE IS A GROWN ASS MAN AND U CANT HELP WHO YOU FALL IN LOVE WITH AND IF YOU GUYS KNOW THAT THE LOVE IS THERE NO MATTER WHAT THEN GO FOR IT AND BE HAPPY FORGIVE HIM IF U CAN CUZZ I THINK HE LOVES U BUT HE CANT LET HIS PARENTS CONTROL HIS LIFE FOREVER U KNOW HE GOTTA LIVE AND MAKE HIS OWN MISTAKES BUT IF U LOVE HIM THEN I SAY U GUYS SHOULD WORK IT OUT*HOPE I HELPED*

If you think he's worth it, go for it, dear . Guys can be imbeciles, but if you can forgive him for the way he treated you -- if you feel that he's worth going out with again -- then why not ?

..__MiNDYY

Thanks for the help!-VALERIE

Now the problem is my parents, they don't want us to date because of the way he treated me after we broke up. any advice??-VALERIE

Your parents aren't the ones dating him .

I know, but since I am only 16 they do have control over if we can go out or not.

Right . I forgot that he's over 18 =x=''

Have you tried sitting down and talking to them ?

Honestly, I'm not sure what to say...I don't think anything will change their minds. My parents just don't want me to get hurt anymore. And it isn't like they never liked him, they loved him and even treated him like he was one of their own.Heck! my mom paid for his prom and took him to graduation. And his parents still get mad everytime they hear my name. -VALERIE

If you really love him and think that there could be a future for the two of you then you should give him another chance. Nothing can tear apart true love just remember that. What he said about being mean to you after the break up could be very true. Guys tend to deal with such problems in a very different manner. They try to push you away trying to make things not as bad for you but then their true feelings show because it's hard for them to hide that. You and him should talk about it and if the two of you really do love each other then you should be together. If your parents don't approve. Explain to them the situation. If not look for alternative routes. You could always be emancipated or something. Though the final decesion is yours.

^^Dave thanks for the advice, but the love I feel may not be the same love you had when you were younger. Him and I have been through so much and yet we still love each other. Obviously the love you had was not real love or it would of last.

Anyway him and I are working things out now. Therefore, he isn't moving on.

I disagree with the real love would last statement. its called moving on.. people do it. my parents were in love for a very long time, and now they cant be in the same city together. does that mean their love at one point was not real love?

Don't even think about moving on just yet.. me and my girlfriend.. she's 14 and a half and I'm 17.. but I turn 18 in October and she won't be 15 until the end of January... our parents consent of course.. but you shouldn't let the fact that yours don't stop you from being happy together... *nudge nudge*.. me secretive ;).. if you two are TRUELY in love, then you shouldn't let anything get in your way =)

I can't help but say that you are to young to believe that you are in a relationship with true love. at that age, it's either infatuation or possibly lust. if it were true love, both of you, there wouldn't be any of that in the middle stuff. give it a couple years and you'll see. like someone else said. love at your age is real special if it really works out. you wont know what you want until you live a little more. right now, he may seem like the perfect guy for you to be with, when you get older you may look at him differently. you might want someone else with different goal, different views of life.

:) thats just what i think. give it time. you can't rush anything. if you do, there really isn't much there to begin with.